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May</li><li>preparing an application for a coaching certification</li></ul><p id="f352">All of these tasks were stimulated by the productivity urge.</p><p id="d2f7">I was overloading myself. Also, I noted with more than a hint of regret that many of these quests to be productive were putting undue pressure on others to be productive too.</p><p id="cd85">It was time to be <i>less productive</i>.</p><p id="fb98">I set about culling my list.</p><h1 id="47d5">Forgiveness</h1><p id="fbe1">Let’s be real for a second. There’s a pandemic out there. We’re all in quarantine. A lot of people have lost their jobs and even those of us lucky to still be working have all but lost the structure to our days and weeks.</p><p id="dc2f">News cycles are punishing. Everything takes more effort. Energy levels are low. Mood can be low too. It is not a time to overload: it is a time for self-care.</p><p id="4f3b" type="7">That can actually mean doing less. And that is ok.</p><p id="3467">I began cancelling things. I cancelled the webinar on remote working. My friend who was organising it with me immediately said thank you.</p><p id="1f94">I postponed the second work-related webinar. Two work colleagues agreed it was a good idea.</p><p id="09b7">Launching the new Medium Publication is still an ambition, but I am taking my foot off the gas with that. It can happen later in the year. I forgive myself.</p><p id="0812">I am also taking the pressure off myself to write at all. I still get huge enjoyment out of writing for Serious Scrum, but my inspiration is lower, and that is ok: it always ebbed and flowed. I forgive myself for my lower rate of publication.

Illumination is a new project for me. I have no idea how much I will write here and, you know what, I forgive myself for that uncertainty as well.</p><p id="e954">Writing this feels confessional and unusual for me. It is not how I normally write. But it feels good. As I write, I forgive myself for over-sharing.</p><p id="4a1d">I hope others will recognise something in my story and perhaps begin to forgive themselves for doing less too.</p><h1 id="87bd">Distraction</h1><p id="a2be">It’s probably fair to point out: I didn’t cancel <i>everything</i>.</p><p id="e2c4">The meet-up in May was a request from a friend and the topic is one I’ve written ab

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out already, so I’m going to continue with that. My friend did ask me this weekend if I was still ok to do it, and I had an opportunity to say no. For once, I didn’t automatically dismiss the idea of saying no. I forgive myself for thinking about saying no.</p><p id="0f00">Also, I continue to be inspired to apply for a coaching certification. This is a long-term ambition of mine, and there is no time-sensitivity to the application process. I choose to take that pressure off myself now, and I also choose to forgive myself for taking my own sweet time with it.</p><p id="d7b2">I allow myself these distractions because they are meaningful to me.</p><p id="53ec">Also, without the overload of other tasks, I can do these at a pace that makes more sense to me.</p><figure id="20f5"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*IiUm2PXzVt6r4zhg"><figcaption><b>Flight Safety Instructions</b></figcaption></figure><h1 id="e2b3">Moving forward, one step at a time</h1><p id="9703">You do not <i>have to</i> be productive.</p><p id="c7d3">You need to care for yourself so that you can care for others. Watch out for the to-do list and that feeling of being a little overwhelmed. It can creep up on you.</p><p id="9383">Forgive yourself for taking on less. It’s ok.</p><p id="2b1a">Forgive yourself for your low energy. It’s ok.</p><p id="4d89">Forgive yourself for your low mood or for those days when you don’t want to do anything at all.</p><p id="5160">It’s ok to not be ok.</p><p id="b459">Flight safety instructions tell us:</p><blockquote id="a104"><p>“If you are travelling with a child or someone who requires assistance, secure your mask on first, and then assist the other person.” (Source: <a href="https://activerain.com/blogsview/2535480/put-your-own-oxygen-mask-on-first">Active Rain</a>)</p></blockquote><p id="0be5">Self-care means that, rather than feeling pressured to be more productive, you might need to go out for a walk instead.</p><p id="45ff">By taking on less and looking after yourself, you will put your figurative oxygen mask on. This will help you to breathe better.</p><p id="5277">First things first. Breathe.</p><p id="8085">If you can, cancel the things you don’t need to do right away.</p><p id="5e33">It’s ok. You can forgive yourself.</p></article></body>

Introducing JL Wilson: The Man for His Time and Place

“No social study that does not come back to the problems of biography, of history and of their intersections within a society has completed its intellectual journey.”

- C. Wright Mills

Let’s talk about Jarrett Wilson. He wants to know about “the problems of biography, of history”, like, so bad! That is what he aims to show in his writing — that history is in man’s DNA and the biography of every human is but a single cell in a vast organism. In other words, it is to show that there are no accidents. Even the accidents can be shown to follow a causal chain.

He often thinks of a quote from “the stranger” in The Big Lebowski — “Sometimes there’s a man. Well, he’s the man, for his time and place”. I paraphrased a little, but the core of the message is still there.

Everyone is “the man” (or woman) for his/her “time and place”. Otherwise, s/he wouldn’t be there, the person who’s supposed to be there would and we wouldn’t be having this discussion.

Is Jarrett saying there’s no free will? Not exactly…

Jarrett digresses, the point is that he wants to tell stories that highlight the notion that we can’t understand a person without understanding his/her environment. In turn, we come to understand an environment after learning about its inhabitants.

Writing is that “social study” where he can explore the collision of the individual and society, of biography and history.

The cavernous angioma

Let’s use Jarrett as an example. He moves slowly due to a brain hemorrhage in 2009. This causes him to be in a hurry all the time.

Why is he in such a hurry? Go to an employment website and take note of how many employers call for the ability to function and thrive in a “fast-paced environment”. Now, contemplate how long it should take to get your order at McDonald's.

He is gainfully employed now. About a year ago, he was not. One afternoon, he was browsing the openings on Indeed.com and discovered that, of the first 20 job postings tagged for “research” near his North Texas locale, seven either boast of a fast-paced work environment or asked that the applicant be able to handle such a thing. This is only 35% but his search was limited to the search query — “fast-paced” (while browsing, he recalls the term “high octane” listed as a descriptor of one applicant seeking organization). What’s more, the search was limited to 40 miles of a town that is ~50 miles from a major city…

City = too fast for Jarrett. Photo by Ananth Pai on Unsplash

As is so often the case, Jarrett is digressing. One more example of the influence of history and it’ll all tie together. Huffington Post reported that, in 2016, it took McDonald's a whopping 208.2 seconds, on average, to get those gilded spears of starchy grease, that leaden patty of cholesterol and/or those nuggets of chicken fresh from their swim in a vat of oily fat, from the drive-thru window to your now carb starved hand. Meanwhile, over at Wendy’s, who only took 169.1 seconds to produce a classic biggie with fries is using that extra 39.1 seconds to conjure up an ad campaign to convince customers that all the food is grilled fresh (in just under three minutes?). The article goes on to declare that “Burger King, Dunkin’ Donuts and KFC all beat McDonald’s too.”

Photo by a befendo on Unsplash

He isn't trying to point out the inadequacies of the McDonalds drive-thru. Rather, he’s emphasizing the point that, as a culture, we’re in a big damn hurry.

As an individual with a brain injury, it’s difficult for him to keep up. He has made some noteworthy adaptations and coping mechanisms, but still, it demonstrates the collision of biography and history.

Indeed, his writing journey began in earnest due to the hemorrhage. Shortly after checking into acute physical therapy rehab, he started a blog. Those words can be found at braininjourney.com. Along the way, it morphed into a chronicle of his journey through life with a brain injury, or brain “injourney”, if you will. He waxes eloquently about getting injections in the bottom of his foot, left versus right, an anesthesiologist named Dr. Pillow, and so on.

Far more painful than it looks

Thing is, dear readers, Jarrett has so many more dimensions.

So he come over to Medium.com to spin yarns about brains,

the shitstorm that is the English language,

a recent surge in yarn sales,

and due diligence

Photo by Les Triconautes on Unsplash

There are so many more topics of great interest that he would like to find out more about and share with you, dear reader. Won’t you come along on his (in)journey?

History
Biography
Society
People
Writing
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