The “Letting Go and Acceptance “

Summary

The article critiques the popular advice of "Letting Go and Acceptance," arguing that it is an ineffective strategy for dealing with life's challenges.

Abstract

The author of the article expresses skepticism about the effectiveness of "Letting Go and Acceptance," suggesting that it often leads to discarding valuable aspects of life along with the negative. This approach is seen as a form of resignation rather than a solution, and it is associated with a sense of loss and confusion rather than relief. The article posits that true resolution of issues such as unrequited feelings, poverty, or mistreatment requires more than just letting go; it demands active engagement, determination, and sometimes obsession to overcome obstacles and achieve one's desires. The author emphasizes that the things we are advised to let go of are integral parts of ourselves that should be embraced rather than discarded.

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"Letting Go and Acceptance" is presented as a societal expectation that can lead to giving away things of value under the guise of discernment.
The author believes that letting go is often a form of giving up on meaningful aspects of life, and acceptance is equated with resignation.
The article suggests that the language around "Letting Go and Acceptance" is misleading and masks the difficulty and potential loss involved in the process.
It is argued that determination, dilig

The “Letting Go and Acceptance” Hype

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Tired of people telling you to Let Go and to Accept the situation?

Me too.

Because it doesn’t work.

It doesn’t quite work to Let Go and when you do let go you find yourself in yet another trap, that of having thrown away the baby with the bathwater. I mean, having given up upon something which served you alongside with something that didn’t serve you. I am sure anyone could argue that you must have discernment and that when you let go or accept a status quo you are actually keeping the good stuff and give up upon “only the bad stuff”, but you know this is a lie and a trap meant to make you give away some things from time to time for the people who are starving, both emotionally and in their own life path: craving meaning, purpose, life paths and energy. Letting go is actually giving away and we all know this deep inside. Acceptance is resignation and we all know it. We just shift and alter the terms linguistically so that they don’t impose such a burden to us but in reality it’s the very same thing which is and SHOULD be hard to do because indeed you are giving up upon something of value. Or even if you give up upon something which is bad for you, say cigarettes(which BTW, you don’t need an excuse such as Letting go to give up upon that vice, you aren’t giving up upon something, you are gaining something in return), meanwhile giving up on a person let’s say, ACTUALLY is giving up upon something of value.

Say you are letting go of someone who hurts you, it’s not like you aren’t meant to help someone who does this to you sooner or later, you are still going to be put under the same conditions and you are going to have to find another viable solution instead of that one of letting go. Because letting go isn’t a solution, it’s either escapism or actually losing something valuable.

I am sorry to disappoint you here but among all the people who have taught me to let go, none, I mean 0 persons were actually where they desired to be with the people they desired to be with and having what they actually desire.

Even the whole multitude of Law of Attraction people who teach you to Let go in order to have something that you desire aren’t right and they know it, accomplishing something takes determination, diligence and obsession. Yes, litteraly obsession, until you exhaust yourself. You need power and energy and something to boost that desire and that might actually be the thing that people tell you to let go of. I am not saying we don’t hoard bad stuff but letting go isn’t effective at all and it for sure doesn’t bring any relief to any situation.

After having let go you find yourself in the sad pitfall of resignation, a bit lighter but sadder with even more confusions than before cause now you don’t even know what you are left with, let alone being able to truly shift from a situation or an issue. Usually we cannot undo something that we desire.

I know, tastes change and maybe this is how and why some people, only some, really let go of things from time to time, and we might find deeper values and stronger connections with other people and things, but truly letting go, breaking apart, stopping yourself from doing something, isn’t actually possible. People don’t let go, they either throw away or pass it along to someone else and suppress while lying to themselves they have learnt the lesson. There aren’t too many people who actually have solutions, say for unrequitedness for instance. Or for poverty. Or for not acquiring and object. Or for someone mistreating you. (These are the main issues where Letting Go applies)

So, whenever someone tells you to “Let Go” and “Accept”, tell them that there isn’t such a thing and that whenever you find yourself holding grudges and not having let go, actually understand that it is natural and that the things people tell you to let go of are actually parts of you and that you should actually embrace them.