The Law of Detachment and How to Become A Better Human— Knowthyself222
As I was reading my daily affirmation I noticed a law I’ve been living by has helped me tremendously. I’ve become a much better listener, thinker, analyst, gain the ability to understand external situations I face, and overall become better as a whole human. Imagine meeting someone and it is a delightful experience, just having a good time as you do with your best friends. Yes!! Everyone becomes your best friend and I noticed it since I started reading and living by the Law of detachment affirmation.
How to use the Law of detachment
First, let me tell you how I stumbled into it in order to get you in the right context. On my journey to discovering myself, every two weeks Life makes me experience a new lesson to overcome and learn from (Karmic lessons). Those lessons used to take longer for me to resolve, but over time it took less and less time to learn and remove a bad behavior or a way of thinking that is no longer serving me for growth. As I am writing this blog, it takes me less than a day to learn why something is really bothering me or what is the lesson for me to learn in a particular situation. To illustrate my point, let use the example of working out at the Gym. The more you practice the more you become better at it. Movements become sharper, your brain thinks faster, and you gain more strength in the same process.
The Law of detachment allows you to practically open up your mind to absorb the good information from the non-useful ones out of any experience or conversation you have with someone or a group of people. At first, it felt like I didn’t care but in reality, I cared so much that I was willing to listen to my friends with a more open mind.
In short, I do not pay attention to the “fluff” I only care for the truth coming out from a person’s words or actions. I focus on the underlying reason why the person I am interacting with is interacting with me. If the person gives more unnecessary words or actions, then it is not the right time to interact with that person as the Law of correspondence will take effect. I will start to become like that person or pretty much mirror that person, and that is not something you want to do or become. Be YOU and be your best version
This is what I came up with for the simplified meaning of the Law of detachment:
The Law of detachment = filtering the good from the not useful, and acting on it.
The law of detachment
Let me give some examples made out of this law and how I perceive them so you can relate to your experience while using them.
I consciously commit to flexibility and detachment.
It means that I will do my best to accept those around me for who they are without any judgment or prejudice. It is not easy because we have the tendency to judge books by their cover, but I work on consciously not attaching myself to any situation or person. I will act as an observer and respond to what is happening rather than responding based on what I think it should be.
I allow myself and those around me the freedom to be themselves
It means that I accept myself for who I am and I also allow the person I am sharing the experience with to be themselves. In short, live and let live. If I want to be accepted, I need to accept others with respect and acceptance even if what they say or do is not related to my values. If an interaction with someone did not produce good feelings, do not hold regret, think about why things may not be going well, reflect on it, and learn to carry on with respect. Freedom starts and ends at the beginning of respect, be grateful if you can, and move on.
I live my life in a state of engaging detachment, I release the need to judge or criticize.
Do you know that the word judging does not exist in reality, it is a made-up concept we humans decided to use to express that something or someone is different. Shocking to hear that right? Let me explain my story. What shaped me and the version I am today, cannot be totally similar to what another human being is going through. The location and condition I was born, the experiences I encountered, the people I met that had an influence on me are totally different from any other being on earth. Also, think about your fingerprint; It cannot be identical to someone else’s on the planet. There is no way, so there is no need to expect that others will be the way we think or act. It isn’t possible to judge someone in any form because they are different and unique.
But we are on the same planet and coexisting. I can move away because someone else words or actions do not align with my values, but judging without knowing is not fair. Words and actions are caused by an experience that you did not live, it is then fair to always give credit to others and focus more on understanding rather than judging them. That is my take on it. What is yours?
I express myself honestly while releasing any needs to improve my belief in others.
This one was the hardest for me to get right because I used to be a bit egotistical until I learned how to use it for my benefit rather than destroying myself or harming others. Expressing myself honestly is easy for me, I can’t be something I am not. I’ve tried but let me tell you it backfires on me. Life will bring me challenges and obstacles to justify the fact that I was not authentic in my actions. It’s really not fun to see yourself trying to be something you are not.
Knowing when to not push your individuality on someone took some work to realize it at first. When you are naturally charismatic, you have to learn to not overwhelm others in a way that harms them but rather inspires them.
Whenever I notice that I am becoming emotionally attached to a point of view, I take a deep breath and I come back to a more centered place.
This one is more about not being so hard on yourself when you feel like you let your emotions get the best of you. In short, you let your emotions get you to do something not good for yourself or others. We are not perfect, but we are perfect in our own ways. We are in constant expansion, we deserve to make mistakes but eventually learn from them and do not repeat them. If a similar situation keeps repeating in your life you simply haven’t learned the lesson. When you do learn the lesson, it does not repeat.
I embrace detachment by choosing to be free from the good and bad opinions of others.
Being free from the good or bad opinions of others requires patience and acceptance of others. Opinions start wars but also create peace. It is the two faces on a coin, but we cannot live without that coin. Imagine if we lived by only liking a specific face. Unfortunately, many of us lived like that including even me at some point in my life. I however know now that I changed my perspective and learned more at how to accept others for who and what they are. It took some time, but I am making progress and it feels good to live a life in that way. Having a more broad eye brings a different type of experience I would have never imagined doing or living. Be open and live a wonderful life with others. There is so much more to gain together rather than being separated. It is okay to be more closed-minded but give yourself the opportunity to open your mind. Your Ego enjoys when we are separated, and your SOUL love when we are together. One is in your mind (Ego) while the other is in your heart (Soul). Which one are you going to listen to? Make your choice. We have free will to act and do as we please, but each action and though bring a ripple effect on your life.
The fun behind all of this
I hope you enjoyed and felt the fun I gain from learning about myself and from obtaining more wisdom — Knowthyself222.com. There is wisdom everywhere and in every encounter, you just have to look for it. I am summarizing the Law of detachment below for you to maybe write them down on a piece of paper and put it somewhere in your bathroom mirror or walls to read it every day. Reading it morning and night every day will bring you so much joy and experiences that will allow and free you up to always see every perspective in any situation you are in.
I consciously commit to flexibility and detachment.
I allow myself and those around me the freedom to be themselves
I live my life in a state of engaging detachment, I release the need to judge or criticize.
I express myself honestly while releasing any needs to improve my belief on other people.
Whenever I notice that I am becoming emotionally attached to a point of view, I take a deep breath and I come back to a more centered place.
I embrace detachment by choosing to be free from the good and bad opinions of others.
Embrace the law of detachment and become better as a whole.
I am sending you love and light from the infinite creator. Go forth and rejoice.
Bonaventure Barry