The Key to Manifesting an Extraordinary Life

Accept 100% responsibility for your life

Viktor Frankl said, Between the stimulus and the response there is a space. In that space we have the power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.

The power of choice.

We get to choose our thoughts, our actions, our reactions.

If we dwell on the scarcity of things in our life, if we focus on this, if we put energy into what we lack, then this continues to be our experience of life. We never have enough money, time, self-worth, good health, talent, smarts, confidence, friends, love, whatever.

If we dwell on the abundance, the positive, the unlimited possibilities in our life, if we believe it is (or might be) available to us, if we focus on this, act on these beliefs, then this will be our experience of life. We will find and attract more of this in our life.

Can we each live an extraordinary life? How do we live an extraordinary life? How do we step on to the path of the life we really want to live?

What if it were simply a choice?

What if it was simple?!

What if it were simply an awareness and a practice?

The key to manifesting an extraordinary life is … to accept 100% responsibility for everything in your life.

Accept responsibility for your thoughts, your decisions, your actions, your reactions. Accept responsibility for your life, your career, your health, your relationships.

Each of us can choose to do this.

I always ask my life coaching clients if they are willing to accept responsibility for the dream, goal, desire, feeling, topic that we are coaching around.

If we want to manifest our dreams, we have to make them happen, we have to accept responsibility for them. If we don’t want to accept responsibility, they aren’t going to happen. Pretty simple, huh?

We’ve all taken responsibility for a lot of things — a car trip, a holiday vacation, a work project, caring for family members, getting to an appointment on time, etc.

Why wouldn’t we take responsibility for the MOST important things there are?

Our life? Our work? Our health? Our relationships with the most important people in our life?

Here’s how to start

Taking responsibility means taking time to think, plan, and work at these areas of your life. Your thoughts become things. Think about what you want them to look like.

Where are you now? Where do you want to go? What steps will you take to move towards them? Get very clear on this. Get very clear on where you are going. You don’t need to know all the steps. Just a very clear vision to focus on, make decisions towards, take action towards.

We may accept full responsibility in some parts of our life but may still be working on other areas. If we want to live an extraordinary life, we must decide to accept responsibility in all areas of our life.

When we accept responsibility, accountability, ownership for our thoughts, feelings, emotions, actions, reactions, we empower ourselves. We feel in control. We grow. We grow our self-esteem, our self-worth, our self-acceptance.

Sometimes, though, we may lose our focus and give our power, our energy, our control away. So, we must stay conscious and observant and curious and open to what is happening to our thoughts and our energy and immediately switch when we see that we have slipped into a negative pattern, an old habitual pattern, a way that does not serve our extraordinary selves.

How do we do this?

First, we simply give up the drama, baggage, excuses, and “stuff” in our life.

We give up blame.

We give away our power when we blame. We allow ourselves to feel and be victims. Victims have no power and feel powerless. Victims feel helpless. We just let these things go.

We give up rescuing others.

We give away our power when we rescue. Some of us need to be needed, but then feel unappreciated, unacknowledged, and resentful that we have given of ourselves, but not received. Or, when we have given, but not taken care of ourselves. Rescuers have no power and feel powerless. Rescuers feel depleted. We stop correcting, improving, organizing, and carrying others. We let them take care of themselves just as only we can take care of ourselves. We let this go.

We give up always having to be right.

We give away our power when we insist on being right and try to assert our power. Forcing our power is giving away our power. It is draining. No one wants to be forced, bullied, or pressured, anyway. We let this go.

We give up our dramas.

Anytime we enter a drama, anytime we react with negative thoughts, or negative emotions, we give away our power. Dramas drain us, exhaust us, deplete us. They take up so much of our energy. And, no one else is interested in our drama at all. Just let it go. Just stop.

We give up our “shoulds”.

Wow, how terrific is this one? We all have “shoulds” hanging around in our heads. We give away our energy and power when we are always thinking, agonizing, or worried about something we “should” do. So, ban this word from your vocabulary, thoughts, feelings. A “should” is just a thought in your head, not a responsibility you have accepted. Let go of “shoulds”. Goodbye “should”.

We give up “trying”.

We either do, or we do not. But we let go of “try”.

We give up “maybe”.

It is either yes or no. It may be no right now, but can become a yes later.

Letting go of these things takes practice. So, just practice.

We practice observing

We have to observe ourselves, catch ourselves in the not-accepting-responsibility space, the habitual reactions, and let them go. We catch ourselves and then choose peace rather than the drama, having to be right, the shoulds, the blame, the excuses.

Don’t beat yourself up. Just catch yourself and stop. Pause. Walk away. Take a deep breath. Take a time out. Say NO to this situation.

We practice switching to a positive thought

We consciously switch to a positive thought, a better thought, an empowering thought. We look at all our choices and choose a better one, an empowering one, a peaceful one, a choice that is in line with the life we want to live and the person we want to be.

We make a choice and accept responsibility

We accept responsibility for our choice. We choose our response, our reaction. We choose. Know that you will change things, alter course, pause, speed up, and make corrections along the way.

Laurie Buchanan said, Whatever you are not changing, you are choosing.

Then the magic really begins.

As we accept responsibility for everything in our life, we stand in our power, we gain more confidence, peace, courage. We attract more and more of those same things. We stay in a positive mindset. We feel empowered by choice. Our amazing thoughts become amazing things.

The universe begins to deliver synchronicity to help us grow our power and create an even better life. When we start improving and changing our inner selves, our outer selves magically mirror the improvements and changes, too.

I am a life coach and small business coach. I empower small business owners to level up, grow, and thrive. I also love to help others get really clear on the life and work they would love to manifest, know that they can have it, and help them create it. Get my FREE Workbook: Your Thoughts Become Things at https://www.lauraraduenz.com