The Internet Is Flooded With “Things To Avoid Having Regrets Posts”
Here’s why you shouldn’t let regrets ruin your life
“Focussing on regrets sets you on the wrong edge of the spectrum”
Here’s what your new approach might look like
Avoiding regrets can make you stress out.
Your time on this planet is long. Most will say, you’re only here for a short while. However, that’s not the case when you stand in life extremely positive. Perception regulates your time awareness.
When people say we are only here for a short time it underlines two things:
- The time it takes to physically accomplish certain desires
- The unpleasant idea that you will die sooner than you think
Let’s tackle the latter first.
We all die sooner or later. The earlier you understand to enjoy mental time, the less you’ll be afraid of dying. As a chain reaction, this will lead to your freedom and unbounded thinking, which enables you to shift your notion of time in a positive way.
Thinking you’ll run out of time can become a stressful act and it ramps up time! The funny thing is that people like “David Sinclair” even push forward the idea that we better see longevity and the way to death as a disease. Because to be brute again, physiological stress accumulates into death.
The confusion between physical and mental desires
Hunting down your regrets in order to avoid having any, can cost a lot of time. Pick well before you engage. The effort and time to prevent regret can be as costly as the regret itself further down the road.
That said.
It’s true that you want to have certain things done to get the most out of your life, and that regrets can make you feel like you’ve wasted a part of you’re life. Although there’s a misleading factor to regrets. Regrets lay on the negative side of the spectrum, you’re already leading towards a negative edge. Understand that regret operates the same switch as depression. It can be altered in a blink of an eye.
When you revise your past and check your regrets along the way, you should simultaneously also line up the best things that happened along that path.
When you ask older people, most seem to be less bothered by regret than younger people. I’ve always used my regrets to fuel my life. They seemed rather useful to me.
Many people will state regrets are a bad thing, others will lie and tell you that they don’t have any. To be brutally frank, how I see it is that regrets are assets. You can revise your regrets, and because they are regrets, you hold the key of what the lessons are behind them.
If you would erase all the mistakes of your past, you will delete all the wisdom you’ve acquired with it. Avoiding regrets as much as possible can serve you great value, although I found most of the value in the regrets I’ve acquired throughout my life.
By sharing your regrets with the world, you unlock new doors, for yourself and for others to learn from, to win a lifetime from. The ability to provide people with winning time in their life I consider to be the most intrinsic asset there is.
You see when you focus on avoiding regrets too much, chances arise that you miss out on the lessons by fear of disappointment. Fear is a dangerous and sneaky animal it can attack you from several sides. Don’t be subjected to its stealth effect.
I found that regrets are somewhat the greatest methods to guide your kids.
Often when I think about a past mistake, regret, or some other foolish act I’ve made in the past.
I share the story with our kids (Usually in a funny way , or sketch the extreme opposide of the situation , what would happend if…— this makes it stick deep with them, thrust me some of this data will feed their subconscious mind to make certain decisions later when their life circumstances require)
Perhaps one of the most valuable regrets that I’ve converted into wisdom for others and myself:
Taking my relationship to lax
In the earlier days of our relationship, I was an asshO! I wasted too much of my now wife her time by solely committing to my own needs and preferences. I regret wasting time in abundance.
Today (for the last couple of years and in the future) I aim not to waste time of my family. Taking this to another level, making our kids also aware of the value of time spent together.
Regrets are foundations to thrive further, they are there for a reason. If it lies in your reach to act and over hurdle a possible regret, go ahead and tackle it!
You just don’t want to spend all your focus and energy on avoidance or you’ll miss out on other unexpected advantages in life.
Now that I think of it, I could have pointed out the regret that I never finished high school. But then on the other hand, because I choose a more difficult path, perhaps I wouldn’t have found my writing mojo along the way.
Regrets, can put a mental lock on you and cut your life in half, or you can use them as a tool to fuel your life.
Your choice.
Take this:
Regret makes you stronger and provides you the power of making others stronger, now this doesn’t mean you want to focus on making them.
The intrinsic value of this post is about not wasting your life by stressing out about avoiding and how to avoid acquiring regrets down your path.
Think well, tackle well, Thrive endlessly!
Answer these questions to retain the most information:
- What was for you the essential ideas from this post? Define them in your own way.
- What were things mentioned that you weren’t aware of before?
- In which way do certain ideas relate to what you already knew?
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