Personal Philosophy
The Greatest Compliment You Can Pay Your Sweetheart
How do others see you? Do you look happy & pay attention to the other? Everyone sees the compliment. Actions speak louder than words.
Synopsis
- How do other people see you when you are out in public? Do you look happy to be together? Do you pay attention to each other? A simple story on how to improve your relationship.
How others see us
People, i.e. strangers, frequently comment on how they love watching us dancing together. Odd since I don’t know how to dance. One lady even gave us a red rose.
That is today. It started years ago.
During our vacation in Cancun, Mexico, the waiter told us that we were not like most couples. All of the staff had noticed. We asked what he meant. He said,
“You look like you are happy to be together.”
“Most couples just sit and eat dinner, looking somewhat bored. You talk to each other. You smile at each other. You look happy to be here together.”
They were surprised that we were married only ten years, not an extremely long time and not newlyweds.
Later, we discussed the waiter’s comment. Vacation is supposed to be a happy time together. We felt sad for the other couples when the waiter noticed so much difference.
That night, we were smiling at each other while dancing to live music in the lounge. At first, we were the only ones dancing. By the end of the evening, we had inspired nearly everyone to join us.
One man told us as we left, “This is the most action that I have ever seen in this bar.”
Our last year in Houston, we discovered Caps Piano Bar, a club with live music and dancing. Our experience there probably influenced our decision to move to The Villages, Florida.
We went dancing every Saturday night. After a while, the wait staff took upon themselves to reserve our table next to the dance floor.
One night, two young ladies sitting at the bar stopped us on the way out. One said, “If I ever get married again, I hope that it is one like yours.”
That was just from watching us on the dance floor.
Just last week at City Fire in The Villages, the lady at the next table asked how long we had been married. She was surprised when we told her 18 years. She thought we were newlyweds because we talked and smiled at each other at dinner and while dancing.
The dance floor was packed. Groove 41 is a really lively rock band, and the lead singer joined the dancers while she sang. I felt like a 20-year-old dancing to a group like that.
During the break, our neighbor introduced us to her boyfriend and asked me my age. I told her 73. She said she was 77 and her boyfriend was 89. He had a black “Groove 41’’ t-shirt and they danced more than we did!
They also looked happy together.
We usually talk about the food, the weather, the restaurant, the band, or other dancers. It doesn’t matter as long as we are together. I would rather talk to my wife than anybody else.
Do you appear to others like you are happy to be together? Do you pay attention to each other?
If not, smile and talk to your partner when you are out in public.
Giving a compliment in private is ok, but paying attention and showing your interest in public is the highest compliment that you can give him or her.
