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t.)f) A more participatory political process that is perceived as such by all segments of the population.What am I trying to say here, other than, “I wish we all lived in a fairer world?” Well, first of all — and here is the paradox — if you ask for fairness you are not likely to get it. The first reason is that in your asking you may have revealed more power than you originally had. Asking for fairness can be perceived as making a demand. Demanding something from someone who has less power (like yourself) almost always ends up badly. This is especially true when the person from whom you are demanding has a lot more power than yourself.In addition, if you are asking for fairness, it can also be perceived as threatening because in asking for fairness you are changing the current rules of the game. When this happens, some people will be as threatened and angry as they were when they first started playing. All of a sudden they are no longer the winners. Not only that, they are threatened because the rules have changed and their power has been reduced. If this is what happens to the people who have more power, what do you think it’s going to be like to ask for fairness from those who have less?It’s also almost impossible to get fairness when you’re asking for it. Humans are not very good at being fair. Asking for fairness is asking for a lot of stuff. It’s asking for a lot of things from others, from the government, and from yourself. You are also asking for a lot of yourself. All this is going to take energy, time, and effort away from other things that you want to do in your life. The more you ask for fairness, the less fair you will be able to be toward those who aren’t giving it to you. You’ll be as unfair to yourself.That’s the catch. If you want fairness from others, don’t ask for it, just act that way and see if you get it.<h1 id="3804">In Other Words, Confront Five Things About Life</h1>1) Life is unfair.2) It’s not always your fault but when it is your fault, it’s often unfair to you in ways that are hard for others to understand.3) The rules are unfair to everyone except the very rich.4) If you are asking for fairness, this will reduce your ability to get it from others.5) To get fairness from others you need to show that you’re fair to yourself.Just take these things for granted. These five unfair truths about life. Then act accordingly and see how it goes. It’s not as easy as writing a wish list, but it’s better than whining.<blockquote id="5127">”I asked myself if I would ever want to put up with this unfairness again, and the answer was “No.” And so I began to go through the process of separating money from making meaning in my life.”</blockquote>I’ve changed how I see things like democracy, equality, and fairness… But it hasn’t changed the way I live.If you’re going to do what you say you’re going to do, don’t ask for

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more from the world. Don’t ask for anything at all. Just do it. The more we know, the less likely we are to compromise on fairness. We just want to cut right to the chase and only do whatever it takes to be fair.Fairness is doing shit that you don’t have to do and not expecting anything in return. It’s the golden rule, but with a twist… It’s saying, “I will probably be fairer than you were by default”, and then living up to that.If fairness is not a natural instinct for you, or if you didn’t get and/or use it when you were younger, then maybe the golden rule won’t work for you. In that case, just keep your eyes open and look for opportunities to do the right thing without expecting anything back. If doing the right thing doesn’t make sense to you, then stop watching what other people are doing. Watch what they’re not doing.If you don’t like the idea of being treated unfairly, not by other people, but by yourself… That’s okay. I did that too. But after I learned what it was to be fair and fearless, the universe came back and made sure I got my fair share.When you learn to be fair and fearless is when you can make some things in life happen your way. Now we can make things happen our way because we know how to do it fairly, without fearing anything in return.<h1 id="0ab7">Takeaway</h1>Being fair is just an example of being fearless.Fairness and fearlessness are two sides of the same coin. Or, more accurately, they are two ways to use the same rock, each with its own functions. The way to see it is that fairness means you give the right rules to everyone without any expectations in return, while fearlessness means those who obey your rules will be treated fairly by you.You might think that being fair means you’re going to be treated unfairly. That’s true, but only for the people who expect you to do unfair things. When you’re fair, you will not be treated unfairly by the rules, because you have the same rules for everyone. There is no game in slot machines and no one will get hurt (except possibly your own fear).Fairness means that people do what they need to do, without any interference from others or from you. Fearlessness means that people are treated fairly because they do the right thing and you do what is necessary. Fairness is not something you ask for, it’s something you expect of yourself and others. Fearlessness is about what happens when we hold ourselves and others to high standards without expecting anything in return.Let us never negotiate out of fear, but let us never fear to negotiate.Follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/mediumitesocial">@Mediumitesocial</a> 🐦If you found this article informative and helpful, feel free to support me and other writers you read by becoming a <a href="https://medium.com/@savytecharticles/membership">Medium member</a>. If you have any comments or questions, feel free to post them below!</article></body>

The Golden Rule is Less About Helping Others, and More About Saving Yourself From Exploitation

The Golden Rule is a lie… And so are Most of the Others

It’s a nice idea in theory, but in reality, it doesn’t work out so well.

The Golden Rule

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

The Golden Rule is actually about preserving the social order of things, not altruism. And it’s not limited to religious texts — whether in the Christian Bible, the Nicene Creed, or any other text — this rule appears on practically every continent on Earth. It’s the first ethical principle, the rule of altruism upon which all other moral rules depend. And it’s not limited to religion — it’s universal in nature, found in nearly every culture. The Golden Rule is found in secular texts such as the book, “Ethics” by Baruch Spinoza, and non-religious texts such as “Mencius.”

The Golden Rule is the cornerstone of human morality and the basis of all moral behavior. The Golden Rule is the foundation of moral reasoning, “the basic principle we use to decide how we ought to treat other people.”

This Is Another One Of Those Paradoxes Of Life

Understanding why things are unfair may make us less inclined to accept whatever comes our way. It can be a trap, a cruel Catch-22. The more we know, the less we’re willing to compromise on fairness.

To follow this paradox I’ve taken the example from my favorite philosopher and replaced his name with mine to be able to talk about both me (the author) and him (the philosopher).

Write down a list of things in your life that you want to change. Chances are the list has to do with some unfairness. So, consider asking for the following:

a) Fair, equal trade agreements with our trading partners (China, India, Japan) that are not just contracts but also built on respect and mutual trust.

b) Fair, equal, transparent, and effective laws.

c) Fair, equal, honest and comprehensive rules for avoiding ecological disasters.

d) Fair, equal and effective laws for avoiding extreme poverty.

e) Fair and effective laws against financial frauds. (For example the Cyprus settlement.)

f) A more participatory political process that is perceived as such by all segments of the population.

What am I trying to say here, other than, “I wish we all lived in a fairer world?” Well, first of all — and here is the paradox — if you ask for fairness you are not likely to get it. The first reason is that in your asking you may have revealed more power than you originally had. Asking for fairness can be perceived as making a demand. Demanding something from someone who has less power (like yourself) almost always ends up badly. This is especially true when the person from whom you are demanding has a lot more power than yourself.

In addition, if you are asking for fairness, it can also be perceived as threatening because in asking for fairness you are changing the current rules of the game. When this happens, some people will be as threatened and angry as they were when they first started playing. All of a sudden they are no longer the winners. Not only that, they are threatened because the rules have changed and their power has been reduced. If this is what happens to the people who have more power, what do you think it’s going to be like to ask for fairness from those who have less?

It’s also almost impossible to get fairness when you’re asking for it. Humans are not very good at being fair. Asking for fairness is asking for a lot of stuff. It’s asking for a lot of things from others, from the government, and from yourself. You are also asking for a lot of yourself. All this is going to take energy, time, and effort away from other things that you want to do in your life. The more you ask for fairness, the less fair you will be able to be toward those who aren’t giving it to you. You’ll be as unfair to yourself.

That’s the catch. If you want fairness from others, don’t ask for it, just act that way and see if you get it.

In Other Words, Confront Five Things About Life

1) Life is unfair.

2) It’s not always your fault but when it is your fault, it’s often unfair to you in ways that are hard for others to understand.

3) The rules are unfair to everyone except the very rich.

4) If you are asking for fairness, this will reduce your ability to get it from others.

5) To get fairness from others you need to show that you’re fair to yourself.

Just take these things for granted. These five unfair truths about life. Then act accordingly and see how it goes. It’s not as easy as writing a wish list, but it’s better than whining.

”I asked myself if I would ever want to put up with this unfairness again, and the answer was “No.” And so I began to go through the process of separating money from making meaning in my life.”

I’ve changed how I see things like democracy, equality, and fairness… But it hasn’t changed the way I live.

If you’re going to do what you say you’re going to do, don’t ask for more from the world. Don’t ask for anything at all. Just do it. The more we know, the less likely we are to compromise on fairness. We just want to cut right to the chase and only do whatever it takes to be fair.

Fairness is doing shit that you don’t have to do and not expecting anything in return. It’s the golden rule, but with a twist… It’s saying, “I will probably be fairer than you were by default”, and then living up to that.

If fairness is not a natural instinct for you, or if you didn’t get and/or use it when you were younger, then maybe the golden rule won’t work for you. In that case, just keep your eyes open and look for opportunities to do the right thing without expecting anything back. If doing the right thing doesn’t make sense to you, then stop watching what other people are doing. Watch what they’re not doing.

If you don’t like the idea of being treated unfairly, not by other people, but by yourself… That’s okay. I did that too. But after I learned what it was to be fair and fearless, the universe came back and made sure I got my fair share.

When you learn to be fair and fearless is when you can make some things in life happen your way. Now we can make things happen our way because we know how to do it fairly, without fearing anything in return.

Takeaway

Being fair is just an example of being fearless.

Fairness and fearlessness are two sides of the same coin. Or, more accurately, they are two ways to use the same rock, each with its own functions. The way to see it is that fairness means you give the right rules to everyone without any expectations in return, while fearlessness means those who obey your rules will be treated fairly by you.

You might think that being fair means you’re going to be treated unfairly. That’s true, but only for the people who expect you to do unfair things. When you’re fair, you will not be treated unfairly by the rules, because you have the same rules for everyone. There is no game in slot machines and no one will get hurt (except possibly your own fear).

Fairness means that people do what they need to do, without any interference from others or from you. Fearlessness means that people are treated fairly because they do the right thing and you do what is necessary. Fairness is not something you ask for, it’s something you expect of yourself and others. Fearlessness is about what happens when we hold ourselves and others to high standards without expecting anything in return.

Let us never negotiate out of fear, but let us never fear to negotiate.

If you found this article informative and helpful, feel free to support me and other writers you read by becoming a Medium member. If you have any comments or questions, feel free to post them below!