The Gift of a Compliment

Giving compliments empowers us to strive towards genuine kindness as we see our own strengths in the joy perceived from the receiver. Compliments vary as well as the receivers reaction. Would you rather be told you are beautiful or cute? Smart or kind? A deserving receiver feels flattery without a sense of arrogance. However, there is nothing wrong with a confidence boost. Positive reinforcement drives us forward. It is worth sharing different types of uplifting words. A compliment about physical appearance is flattering while a compliment about personality and demeanor is meaningful.

How do we differentiate “cute” versus “beautiful”? Is comfort heightened for those who love themselves unconditionally with oblivion and acceptance? Do we benefit from sharing our strengths and hiding our weaknesses? What may be seen as a weakness for some, may be admired by others. What some like, others may hate. We have personal opinions and a broad range of compliments to give.

Among many factors, we are loved for our vulnerability, transparency and humility. As we share our truth, we attract an array of responses received with both negativity and flattery. A compliment is highlighting an attractive characteristic that may not be attained by the giver. We want what we don’t have and we each have our opinions of self and others. We may admire a quality we don’t attain and love the differences with full acceptance of self. We may also be molded by qualities we desire.

Our insecurities bring uncertainty to our beliefs of self and a compliment eliminates doubt and brightens ones day. A compliment is a gift that is easy to give and helps our connections grow and bonds flourish. It is the smile we create that rewards us with self-love and goodness. It is an act of kindness we all should practice. We should dig deep and share meaningful compliments in truth. Is someone you know fascinating? If so, tell them.