The formula for a successful marriage

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whom they have been in the marriage for over 50 years I will advise you to do that too, and make your research if you don’t believe what I am about to tell you. Often old couples when they answer questions like “Tell us the secret in your marriage you have been, married for over 50 years?” They usually come up with answers like Communication, always communicate, honest, don’t keep secrets from each other, love, always tell your partner how you love them. May that be the formula for a successful marriage? I don’t think so. Do you think that people who divorce don’t know about communication? Or those who are considered successful, didn’t keep secrets from each other? People do all the best they can to stay and save their marriages, they communicate, they get help from marriage counselors, talk to their Religion leaders, but fail.</p><h2 id="18cf">Great Advice</h2><figure id="4c0a"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*zz4HT-3j3_o_Effp"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@linkedinsalesnavigator?utm_source=medium&utm_medium=referral">LinkedIn Sales Navigator</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com?utm_source=medium&utm_medium=referral">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure><p id="bdfd">I am not a marriage counselor or a Guru of some sort, I will tell you my honest opinion from what I have learned from my marriage, from my grandfather who was married to my grandmother for over 60 years, and from my father who married 3 wives, and lastly from friends.</p><p id="7478">If you’re not ready to serve, And all you want is someone to take care of you, smooch you, and spoil you, m

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arriage is not for you, try dating. Don’t get into marriage for your expectancies and needs to be covered, rather get into marriage with a heart ready to serve. Adapt to a new life with your partner than trying to change your partner to your side. Hence, wedding vows, are like “for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer” it’s a commitment to serve in whatever situation. It’s more of what you can offer than what you want to get, and remember this is for a lifetime don’t play the role or pretend you care, it will catch up with you.</p><figure id="ac3f"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*ba43KYjZHj8E0tZ4"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@markusspiske?utm_source=medium&utm_medium=referral">Markus Spiske</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com?utm_source=medium&utm_medium=referral">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure><h2 id="dd8b">Cultures</h2><p id="575e">We are different people from different beliefs, backgrounds, and cultures. Some cultures detect how marriage should go, how should the couples live. This is not a kind of marriage I am talking about, I am talking about people who are making their own choices. Life is a personal gift for personal use, we come together to share and enjoy our lives not to detect how others should live their lives. But overall cultures play a big part in shaping people’s marriages. Marriage can be sweet or can be a pain, If things are not working out for you, remember you’re not alone, just take a big breath and do your best. I hope this has been helpful, that was my goal to share my little experience with you.</p></article></body>

Marriage is more complicated and fragile than what most people think

Did you know some people can date for Three years and divorce in two months after they are married? And also some marriages have only lasted a few hours. Now if you are happy in your marriage, hold it with care, and hang on there as long as you can. If you’re ant married yet good, it is better to stay that way until you figure out what you have to offer to your future spouse. In general, we think marriage is for everyone. We grow up and follow a culture of, Go to school, find a job and get married, yet marriage is not for everyone this may sound weird, but that’s what it is. People often focus more on what kind of person they should marry, what kind of husband/wife, they want. Tall, educated, someone who is caring, financially stable, an honest man, muscular and athletic, supporting wife, someone who will understand me, a prayerful person, beautiful, handsome, someone who will respect and love me the way I am. As good as all these requirements may sound they are just merely good wishes, not necessarily pillars of a successful marriage.

The formula

I have taken time listening to people whom they have been in the marriage for over 50 years I will advise you to do that too, and make your research if you don’t believe what I am about to tell you. Often old couples when they answer questions like “Tell us the secret in your marriage you have been, married for over 50 years?” They usually come up with answers like Communication, always communicate, honest, don’t keep secrets from each other, love, always tell your partner how you love them. May that be the formula for a successful marriage? I don’t think so. Do you think that people who divorce don’t know about communication? Or those who are considered successful, didn’t keep secrets from each other? People do all the best they can to stay and save their marriages, they communicate, they get help from marriage counselors, talk to their Religion leaders, but fail.

Great Advice

I am not a marriage counselor or a Guru of some sort, I will tell you my honest opinion from what I have learned from my marriage, from my grandfather who was married to my grandmother for over 60 years, and from my father who married 3 wives, and lastly from friends.

If you’re not ready to serve, And all you want is someone to take care of you, smooch you, and spoil you, marriage is not for you, try dating. Don’t get into marriage for your expectancies and needs to be covered, rather get into marriage with a heart ready to serve. Adapt to a new life with your partner than trying to change your partner to your side. Hence, wedding vows, are like “for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer” it’s a commitment to serve in whatever situation. It’s more of what you can offer than what you want to get, and remember this is for a lifetime don’t play the role or pretend you care, it will catch up with you.

Cultures

We are different people from different beliefs, backgrounds, and cultures. Some cultures detect how marriage should go, how should the couples live. This is not a kind of marriage I am talking about, I am talking about people who are making their own choices. Life is a personal gift for personal use, we come together to share and enjoy our lives not to detect how others should live their lives. But overall cultures play a big part in shaping people’s marriages. Marriage can be sweet or can be a pain, If things are not working out for you, remember you’re not alone, just take a big breath and do your best. I hope this has been helpful, that was my goal to share my little experience with you.