The Flogger: A Sensually Versatile Sex Toy
The grip feels good and varying the strokes increases the enjoyment
In the sex toy bag that my wife and I keep zipped up and out of view in our closet, there’s a flogger that’s now more than a decade old. It’s a fun toy and I enjoy its significance in our relationship.
I bought it in one of the adult bookstores in our area during a time when I had been introducing my wife to the pleasures that I found in BDSM.
She’s quite sexually conservative but when I first had her tied and used the flogger on her breasts, stomach, and thighs I was surprised at how well she responded.
The flogger I purchased was inexpensive and the small leather straps were intermixed with fur to lessen the impact and potential sting. Quite safe, I figured.
Yet using the flogger gave me the feeling of being daring and pushing my wife’s boundaries, which she allowed me to do and she enjoyed it very much.
I could tie her spreadeagle on the bed and vary the rhythm of the straps up and down her body to sting specific places or use my wrist in such a way that the straps actually had a massaging quality. The type I used was soft enough that I could sting her thighs and vagina. She’d react but would take it and become quite aroused, often on the edge of an orgasm.
Using the flogger expanded our use of sex toys beyond vibrators and sensations beyond massage lotions. Sensuality is about engaging your various senses and simply holding the flogger’s handle had a pleasurable sense of touch.
And I wasn’t the only one who used it. My wife used it on me while decorating my balls with clothespins. She used the flogging to knock the clothespins loose and the sight of her taking charge with her tight ass and red hair was thrilling.
Like any product, floggers come in all varieties. Plenty of options exist in the $20 to $35 dollar range at today’s adult bookstores or via online shops. Ours was $20 and it’s now 13 years old. Expect to pay up to $120 for floggers with well-crafted handles and thick leather straps.
Some are certainly made for those with masochistic tendencies. On a trip to a fetish store, we saw one with thin metallic strings, like the chains used to turn on lightbulbs.
Be daring and be sure to include a flogger in your sex toy collection to spark the imagination and the physical sensations you don’t get to otherwise enjoy.
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