The Fixer

Summary

Lucy Dan reflects on her journey from being a compulsive "fixer" to adopting a more balanced approach of shared responsibility, emphasizing the importance of honest discussions over immediate problem-solving.

Abstract

The article titled "The Fixer" is a personal reflection by Lucy Dan on her tendency to immediately jump in and fix situations, even those not of her making. She shares her realization that this behavior is not an inherent flaw but a response to her environment, where her intervention was necessary to prevent projects from failing. However, she acknowledges that this approach often led to her taking on more responsibility than was her share. Lucy is now transitioning to a more sustainable method of addressing issues by engaging in honest discussions to find fair solutions, recognizing that this may take longer but ultimately prevents her from overextending herself. She invites others to reflect on what they fix, what remains unrepaired, and what they should be fixing but aren't, using the prompt "fix" as a starting point for exploration.

Opinions

Lucy Dan views her previous fixer mentality as a survival tactic rather than a personal flaw.
She believes that taking on too much responsibility can be detrimental, leading to an unfair distribution of tasks.
Lucy is advocating for a shift towards open communication and shared responsibility as a means to achieve more equitable and lasting solutions.
She tags several individuals, encouraging a broader discussion on the theme of fixing and responsibility.
Lucy introduces the concept of "fixing" as a multifaceted prompt for others to consider their own approaches to problem-solving and repair.
She identifies herself as a "recovering fixer," indicating a conscious effort to change her instinctual response to problems.

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I learned a lot from this though.

I learned that my tendency to jump in and fix to organize things that I didn’t even think up to take on that responsibility to neatly lay things out

isn’t just a product of me being sensitive or needing to control as an intrinsic personality flaw

but as learned from reflecting back on the things that have happened a product of the environment, in that when I didn’t take that responsibility things fell apart, didn’t move forward

(which is sometimes the ending these events needed; but other times important projects abandoned, forgoing all efforts)

I learned that while labeled negatively as someone needing to fix I am ready to shed this label because it’s not intrinsic to who I am as others have tried to impose, but rather a survival tactic that I’ve simply had to adopt in order to have gotten to this point at all.

Tagging Toya Qualls-Barnette| Dr. Fatima Imam | Alex Godley | Mark Tulin | Jen Kleinknecht | Ntathu Allen | Giulia | Courtenay S. Gray if you’re up to it and anyone else interested in today’s prompt: fix. What are you fixing? What is left without repair? What should you be fixing but are neglecting? What do you fix that is beyond what you should be repairing? Take this wherever the word “fix” takes you. :)

Hi I’m Lucy Dan 蛋小姐 (she/her/她) and I’m a recovering fixer. I’m now a sit-and-have-an-honest-discussion-for-a-fair-way-to-take-responsibility-for-the-current-problem person, which can sometimes take so much longer than if I just jumped in and fixed the problem, but fixes the longer-term issue that I take on too many things on my plate that should be other people’s own responsibility. What about you?

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