The Feeling of Being Enjoyed

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nter-intuitive to seek.</p><p id="e8d2">It cost joy to receive joy. However, seeking it alone never leaves us empty. Seeking itself returns a portion of the cost. This means you will never hit empty, just always get closer if you continually fail. Yet, if you succeed, you will be abundantly rewarded. It is risky to enjoy others and give your attention. There is genuine responsibility for doing so.</p><p id="0473">You leave impressions on one another that can never be re-written. You risk giving joy without any guaranteed return other than what comes from the journey of seeking. However, when returned, it is at a multiple higher than you imagine.</p><p id="f47d"><i>This is beautiful.</i></p><p id="1b29">Your intake valve of joy is much wider than your output valve. This means that you can absorb large quantities from small instances. However, it is so difficult to communicate your joy fully and in such a way that is grasped by the recipient as you’d like. This implies that the organic nature of the transaction has a lot of uncontrollable variables. In this context, it is evident to me that there is clear risk, and for the self-conscious folks, an even more highlighted threat.</p><p id="2345">I believe it is worth the risk. People are magnificent and worth being enjoyed. You are magnificent and worth being enjoyed. The questions we all long to understand in life revolve around

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understanding our species and ourselves through that lens. This can only be done via the exploration of curiosity. Curiosity costs joy. When you do this over time, I believe the return is abundantly greater than you expect. The most joyful people in life are those who share it most and highlight the beauty of others.</p><p id="74d0">That’s the logical reason to enjoy others. Withholding relationship and affirmation and quality time from others is more of a disservice to yourself than it is to them. Remember this when you lack trust, hope, or security. To look for and point out the good in others has a compounding effect from the inside out. The power of positivity is very real.</p><p id="4ad7">-JW</p><p id="88e8">If you enjoyed this, check out my story on the opposition of curioisty and judgment:</p><div id="c8e8" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/be-curious-not-judgmental-42a56ddf4028"> <div> <div> <h2>Be Curious, Not Judgmental</h2> <div><h3>Walt Whitman said this. Ted Lasso repeated it.</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*irDLhVrOgl12uYfG)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div></article></body>

The Feeling of Being Enjoyed

Have you ever noticed a conversation where both the people seem to be in the flow? They are focused on highlighting the good instead of the bad in their counterpart. There is no analysis or deduction in what they are summed up too at that moment. They are just focused on the other and delighted in that.

This is what it looks like when people are enjoying one another. A perpetual laugh throughout a conversation and intentional focus on what is presently occurring. If you’ve ever enjoyed someone, you know what I’m talking about.

If you’ve ever been enjoyed you know what I’m talking about.

My interesting take: enjoying others unlocks the potential to be enjoyed.

If you only seek to be enjoyed, you lack joy because you are depleted of a transfer in of joy. You are seeking a need, but a need that requires some risk to obtain. This risk, or cost, is actually also the object you are seeking. This makes it feel counter-intuitive to seek.

It cost joy to receive joy. However, seeking it alone never leaves us empty. Seeking itself returns a portion of the cost. This means you will never hit empty, just always get closer if you continually fail. Yet, if you succeed, you will be abundantly rewarded. It is risky to enjoy others and give your attention. There is genuine responsibility for doing so.

You leave impressions on one another that can never be re-written. You risk giving joy without any guaranteed return other than what comes from the journey of seeking. However, when returned, it is at a multiple higher than you imagine.

This is beautiful.

Your intake valve of joy is much wider than your output valve. This means that you can absorb large quantities from small instances. However, it is so difficult to communicate your joy fully and in such a way that is grasped by the recipient as you’d like. This implies that the organic nature of the transaction has a lot of uncontrollable variables. In this context, it is evident to me that there is clear risk, and for the self-conscious folks, an even more highlighted threat.

I believe it is worth the risk. People are magnificent and worth being enjoyed. You are magnificent and worth being enjoyed. The questions we all long to understand in life revolve around understanding our species and ourselves through that lens. This can only be done via the exploration of curiosity. Curiosity costs joy. When you do this over time, I believe the return is abundantly greater than you expect. The most joyful people in life are those who share it most and highlight the beauty of others.

That’s the logical reason to enjoy others. Withholding relationship and affirmation and quality time from others is more of a disservice to yourself than it is to them. Remember this when you lack trust, hope, or security. To look for and point out the good in others has a compounding effect from the inside out. The power of positivity is very real.

-JW

If you enjoyed this, check out my story on the opposition of curioisty and judgment: