“The Fastest Way To Succeed Is To Stop Trying!”

(Sounds a bit weird, but I promise it’s true).

I was chatting to a few friends in a nice little pub in the old Roman city of Chester (my home town in the UK), when I was over there a while ago and the conversation turned (as it often does when I go back) to what I do for a living and how I can live on a lovely tropical island, instead of slaving away in a traditional job as I used to when many of these friends first knew me.

I tried to turn the conversation to another subject, because, well, it just feels a bit awkward when you start chunnering on about what you do for a living and how you’ve become successful.

They wouldn’t let me get away with that though and so I turned the conversation to success in general and that began a lively discussion on what success means to different people and how it can mean something very different to one person when compared to another person’s viewpoint.

When push comes to shove though, I strongly believe that success is about being happy.

If you are really happy and contented with your lot in life, then I reckon you have pretty much succeeded, wouldn’t you say?

I mean, if you happen to be in a job you love and you actually enjoy your work and maybe even look forward to going into work every day, then you’d be pretty lucky I’d say, because most people don’t have that.

It’s probably fair to say that most people go to work in a particular job because they have to. Not because they want to.

Bills have to be paid and food has to be put on the table etc. So a job is just a means to an end for most people.

Having two days a week off and perhaps being ‘allowed’ to have 4 to 6 weeks holiday a year is the norm for most folks.

Going to work in the morning before your kids are up and arriving home at night after they’ve gone to bed. That was the norm for me for many years when I worked a ‘normal’ job.

Until I decided that I was going to make things different. Make my life different. That’s when things started to change and was the beginning of a whole lifestyle change too.

Note that I said that I had decided that I was GOING to make things different.

I didn’t say that I was going to TRY to make things different.

And that’s where people go wrong right from the outset really. They decide that they will try to succeed at something new.

Here’s my advice…

Don’t do that!

Do not set out on a pathway to success by deciding to try to get there.

That is totally the wrong mindset. Totally.

Here’s the thing…

And it’s a BIG thing…

The fastest way to succeed is to stop trying!

‘But how can that be Roy?’, I hear you ask.

The fact is, that TRYING is for wimps!

Trying is a half-assed, half-hearted way to go about achieving success in your life.

Let me ask you something. How do you think I end my newsletter ‘Letters From A Small island!’ every month?

If you’ve noticed, I always end them by saying…

MAKE IT HAPPEN!

Note that I do NOT say… TRY to make it happen.

I say MAKE it happen!

There’s a massive difference in mindset there (and a massive lesson to be learned if you truly want to succeed in life).

Whatever it is you call success, whatever you envision in your mind’s eye when you think about what your life will look like when you have changed it to be the way that YOU want it to be, that picture will become reality much faster for you if…

…You set out by deciding that you are GOING to reach that goal, rather than saying to yourself that you are going to TRY to reach that goal.

You see, by saying to yourself that you are going to TRY to achieve something, you are giving your subconscious an excuse to fail.

Right at the outset, you are allowing the fact that it might happen that you will fail rather than succeed.

Your subconscious isn’t stupid and it sees this for what it is. It’s a ‘get-out clause’.

So your subconscious knows that you are not TRULY and FULLY committed to achieving this goal. It’s just something that you think might be very nice if it happened.

So you are mentally giving yourself an excuse to fail right at the very start.

The fact is, that what I’m telling you here is MASSIVE.

It is one of the main reasons that people fail in life. It truly is.

People fail to reach their goals because they fanny around in a half-assed way just TRYING to succeed.

If, instead, they stopped TRYING and actually started doing much more bloody DOING then their chances of success would increase tremendously. Tremendously!

So, if you have a dream of achieving a ‘Plan B’ income and a different, more fulfilling and enjoyable lifestyle, then spend NO time ‘trying’ and LOTS of time actually DOING what needs to be done and you’ll get there.

Happy DOING!

Before you go… The above is an extract from an issue of my monthly newsletter, ‘Letters From A Small island!’

If you’d like to see why my subscribers look forward to it landing in their inbox on the first Sunday of every month, you can do so at www.LettersFromASmallisland.com