The ebb and flow of life

Time and tide wait for no man

I live next to the sea, like a 10 minute walk away. What I do know from where I live is when the tide changes. The wind picks up and you can feel the pull of the moon as it pulls the tide outwards or pushes it into land. Can seem quite surreal at times. Life ebbs and flows too. The Higher Power pulls life in one way or another. Just as the tide moves in and out, never at the same time on consecutive days, our lives move in and out of different emotional states. We can be happy then sad. We can have good times and then what seem to be bad times. Periods of our lives which we enjoy and periods we may never wish to repeat. It is the ebb and flow of life and we have no power over it. Time and tide wait for no man.

We are not in control. I am not in control. It is so hard, yet so important to realise this. All of our addictions, which come in many shapes and sizes, are all born out of us desiring to be in control. Are you a control freak? I am. I realise that being one is being an addict to being in control. This is one prime example of an addiction, trying to take control over something which, in itself can’t be controlled. You can relate this to alcohol, drugs, etc. None are healthy.

Ensuring you love yourself enough is ensuring you give space to yourself each day to accept your lack of control over everything. How do you do this? There are many ways, though I relate to a Higher Power, a God. In relating to this God, one for all people of good will, I know I can have a relationship with him and give over so much. I can resign myself to the fact that I am not in control and I can find freedom in that knowledge. The tide does not rely on me to do anything for it to turn. It is grandiose of me to ever think that it does. It relies on the moon, created by the Higher Power and not by me.

Yes, my life is important, though I need to keep it in perspective. I was never in control of when I was born and I am not in control of when I die. That is with my Higher Power. I need to keep my self in the moment, in perspective and operate from within my sphere of control. I need to live every moment as if it was my last, not just to enjoy it, but to ensure that I make the most of it, that I leave a positive legacy, one of Love.

Love who you are. Love who you are becoming. Love others as you would love yourself.