The Dos and Don’ts of Swinger Dating Profiles
Tips and tricks from a seasoned Lifestyle couple.
In the world of swingers there are many options a couple (or single) can turn to in order to meet another duo. Gone are the days of key parties and only meeting partners at Lifestyle clubs. No Mam, sites such as SwingLifeStyle, Swingers Date Club and Kasidie, have made partner swapping easier than ever!
No matter which website you choose to set up your online couples profile, there are several tricks of the trade that you should and shouldn’t to in order to reel in quality, sexy couples.
THE DOS
List Your Location
Some couples can be leery to list their actual location. Mostly this boils down to the fear of being discovered by a neighbor, relative or co-worker that may also frequent the site. However, it is imperative that you list your location so that other swingers know exactly how far away you are. Some swingers are okay with traveling great distances to meet a good couple, but others prefer to make friends within driving distance.
Insider Tip #1…Use the next town over! If you don’t want to use your actual town, use a town no more than 10–15 miles away.
List Boundaries and Expectations
While you don’t want your profile to be a novel of epic proportions, it will save you a lot of time and energy by just putting what you are and are not comfortable with out there.
Full swap? Good! Put that!
Soft swap? Good! Put that, too!
Not into BDSM? That as well!
Give enough details about your boundaries and expectations without scaring prospective couples away. Keep things short and simple, but to the point. Couples that are seeking the same thing as you will appreciate your forwardness, and couples that aren’t into the same things as you will also appreciate you not wasting their time!
Pictures Are Important
I can’t tell you the number of times Mr. Black and I have come across a profile on a swingers dating site, and all the profile has is pictures of the woman. Not even a single, blurry shot of the man! When we see this, even if we are very interested, we move on!
Keep your profile pictures discreet, sexy and show both parts of the couple. You should have one individual picture of both parties and one picture of the couple together. You can blur faces and even background easily to hide identities. Your pictures should give potential friends an idea of what you both actually look like.
Also, make sure your pictures are current! If you are using your wedding photo from 2005, it’s time to update that shit real fast!
Insider Tip #2…Save the raunchy stuff for the “private” albums on your profile. You can show a classy, full body shot of both the male and female form in formal wear, everyday wear or even workout gear and still give people an idea of what your body looks like.
THE DON’TS
Pick a Username That’s Easily Forgotten
Funcouple, Newcouple, (Insert are code here) couple, ….
Not all handles are created equal.
In this case, standing out is important! Pick a username/handle that others will remember. Alluding to your newbie status is a bad idea. If you plan to be in the Lifestyle for an extended period of time, will you still want to be labeled “newbs” 10 years down the line? Nope.
Handles that are related to location can work, but get creative with them! For example, if you are from New England, don’t just be NewEnglandCouple. Instead, what about LobsterLovers224? This is me generalizing, but you get my drift.
Insider Tip #3…Don’t pick something so specific that people will be able to recognize you. If your brother gets on a Swingers site and sees DaveandMarcy0812, he is probably going to know who you are. Don’t use your names or numbers that have any relevance!
Be an Asshole
While it’s important to be specific about what you are looking for in your profile, you also don’t want to come off as a dick! For example, one time Mr. Black and I saw a profile that literally said, “no women over 115 lbs.” Yeah…about that…you are going to lose couples right away with that! As a curvy chick, I immediately was turned off. Even a female friend of ours, who is a tiny little firecracker of 100 lbs, found it distasteful.
You can state what body types, personalities and experience levels you are into without offending anyone. There is absolutely no reason to be an asshole on your Swingers dating profile!
Also, limit telling people how much you workout, bragging about your dick size and anything else that has an air of douchebag to it. You want to get laid? Don’t be an asshole!
Go On The Cheap
Pick a site that works for you and buy a membership to it! Free accounts on any website are an immediate red flag. It shows that you are not serious or are just looking for hookups. While one night stands might be what some Swingers are seeking, the vast majority of people in the Lifestyle, want long term friends.
A lifetime membership to SwingLifestyle is $149.95.
A one month membership to Kasidie is $19.95.
Sure, do a free trial membership to a site or create a free account to poke around. But, the best way to see any kind of response is to have a paid account. Many members won’t even message or allow members with free accounts to contact them.
Insider tip #4…Look at online reviews of websites before buying a membership. Some sites are more popular in certain areas, so do your research as to which on is best for your location. Swingers Reddit (r/Swingers) is an excellent source for honest reviews of the different Swingers dating sites.