The Disturbing Correlation Between BDSM and Children

Summary

The article discusses the author's experience with childhood trauma related to BDSM, the impact on their sexual development, and their journey to reclaim BDSM in a healthy, consensual adult relationship.

Abstract

The author delves into the distressing correlation between early exposure to BDSM through childhood sexual trauma and its effects on their perception of sexuality and relationships. They recount their harrowing experiences of being groomed and sexually trafficked, which involved disturbing encounters with numerous adults and the use of BDSM paraphernalia. The narrative highlights the psychological toll, including a sense of humiliation and body image issues, which were exacerbated by the trauma. However, the author also shares their present-day success in practicing BDSM safely and consensually with their partner, who has similar mental health diagnoses, thereby creating positive associations and healing from past traumas. The article concludes with the author expressing gratitude to the readers and inviting feedback.

Opinions

The author believes that exposure to BDSM during childhood, as a result of trauma, can lead to a distorted view of sexuality and relationships.
They express a personal transformation from experiencing BDSM as a form of abuse to engaging in it as a consensual and therapeutic practice within a safe environment.
The author suggests that creating new, positive experiences in the context of BDSM can help overwrite traumatic memories and aid in the healing process.
They advocate for the importance of respecting boundaries and fostering intimacy when practicing BDSM, particularly for individuals with mental health challenges such as BPD and CPTSD.
The author values reader engagement and is open to both positive and negative feedback, indicating a desire for dialogue and mutual understanding on the topic.

The Disturbing Correlation Between BDSM and Children

The development from child to pubescent teen can be a very stressful time for both parents and children alike. New hormones and new emotions. Previously unexplained changes to your body. The wandering eye of older men and women. Adults who judge and children who criticise. Unfortunately, the developmental process of our children can be disturbed by traumatic sexual events. Join me as I share my experience with childhood grooming, my introduction to BDSM through sexual trafficking, and how BDSM is now practised safely within the comfort of my walls.

My Descent: the void that is sadomasochism:

Out of all fourteen months of my abuse, the hundreds of men who laid their hands on my sacred body, my temple, it was the people who brought toys with them that shook me to my core. It is statistically proven that victims of exposure to BDSM as a result of childhood trauma are more likely to be disrupted in their sexual development. Victims may see a warped perception of reality. For myself, I only wanted to be with women who were older than me. People my age just couldn’t treat me like the lady I was.

But the more I descended into the madness, the more I felt my mind get corrupted. I will never forget the first time I was blindfolded. I had been force-fed pills that would enhance my body and make me more vulnerable. These pills did absolutely nothing but caused me immense stomach pain. I will spare you the details as to what happened next as the idea behind it was to humiliate me like the submissive lady I am. I am his, so my body is also his. This man had a special paraphilia of feminising me. He became a regular customer, often dressing me up in outfits and feeding me laxatives to lose weight and “clean me out” before tying me to a sheet over a bed, spreading my legs high in the air and proceeding.

Reclaiming BDSM in the present:

Nowadays, I have been successful in reclaiming BDSM. As somebody with a dual diagnosis of BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) and CPTSD (Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), I tend to struggle with intense thoughts of hypersexuality. My partner, Layla, also has BPD and she has a high libido. By being with Layla, I have been able to replace old memories with new ones. Practising BDSM in a safe environment, respecting boundaries and growing more intimate by the day.

Finally, I would like to thank you, the reader, for taking time out of your day to read my article. I am very open to feedback (positive or negative!) and welcome your responses. Thank you all ever so much for reading, be sure to join my mailing list so you can be notified when I post a new article. Until next time!