The Circle Of Life
Easy to understand, hard to comprehend!
Life is like a circle and this circle begins when you are born into this universe. This phrase describes how we open our eyes in this world for the first time, grow up, learn, meet new people, live together in a community, earn, fall in love, marry someone, have children, grow old and then eventually die.
Our children also fall in the same natural circle of life and then their children and so on. When a child is in early adolescence, certain things are expected of them. Now, it might not be something like the child should become an engineer or a doctor but instead, it could be expected from them to be kind, compassionate, considerate, loving and, overall, a nice person.
A human being comes to life with a certain nature, the society just plays a role in nurturing him. Society involves their parents, siblings, friends, neighbors, other relations, etc. Nurturing is the influence of external factors like your exposure to certain things, life experiences and learning on an individual level.
As a baby, you learn by observing other people’s behavior around you. That observation leads you to understand what things are acceptable and what aren’t. In the psychology of behavior, there’s a term called punishment and reward which indicates what behavior will lead to a good result and what wouldn’t.
Your parents teach you the basics and you also adapt to the society you live in. Every culture has a particular set of rules you have to follow so we often see people around us telling us the difference between right and wrong. Sometimes, however, this interference reaches a whole new level where you begin to feel that those people might be controlling everything in your life.
A human being should be well aware of the fact that other people’s opinions are important but eventually you should be the one to decide for yourself. Our whole life is spent defending a name and life we didn’t choose for ourselves so the least we can do is, make it worthwhile.
It is not easy for a man to live up to the expectations of the people in his surroundings. A man, from childhood, is taught to be the head of the family, the next in line to fend for his loved ones, to protect them, to make big decisions, to secure his family’s future, to pay the bills and so much more.
A woman, on the other hand, is disciplined to be a proper lady. Sit like this, eat like this, wear these clothes, don’t stay out till late, and a lot of other things.
This pretty much defines the environment we grow up in, it doesn’t matter what class you belong to, what background you come from, or how social or anti-social you are, the circle of your life will have the same phases even if lifestyles are improved.
This is how life usually is. It may be compared to a perfect circle but inside that circle, there are bumps, rough roads, tough calls, challenges, and a big bunch of happy moments that we all go through.
The teenage phase is often considered to be the roughest and most rebellious phase where we make a lot of mistakes but we also learn a lot. Life experiences are extremely important while shaping a person, they are the real determinants of the personality you have. It’s an interesting yet very challenging phase.
Being a young person in today’s age can prove to be one heck of a task because there is so much change going on. Couple it with modern technology and it makes it so much harder to escape peer pressure with life at that age.
Growing into a young adult is never easy. It is a time of self-exploration, confusion, instability, and possibilities. There are societal expectations that young adults face that may not blend with who they naturally are as a person.
This is the age where most of the things that you could not comprehend in your early adolescence start to make sense. This is the stage where your perspective changes and you begin to form opinions. These are the years where anyone can fool you and even you can fool yourself thinking you know what’s best for you. This is the phase where you think you should stop living to people’s expectations. But not every person is the same, some of those teenagers begin to set goals and think long-term.
Throughout the life phase, adolescence, teenage, and adult, one goes through a lot of changes including physical, hormonal, and mental. And sometimes, our decisions are not even the end product of our liking, they are influenced by other people’s choices or opinions.
But one thing that remains common is that life goes on.
While completing a full circle, it never once stops no matter how many times you fall or fly, it keeps moving, pushing you harder. Whether you get married or not, whether you get that promotion now or 5 years later, whether you live independently or with your parents, the lifecycle moves around.
No one can give you insider information on how to live life because there exists no such thing. Life is as free as it is fickle. You can lead a perfect and regret-free life only if the parameters are set by YOU. And we all realize, deep down that half of the things in life are out of our sight and control.
This quote by DH Lawrence explains it perfectly,
“What the eye doesn’t see and the mind doesn’t know, doesn’t exist.”
Yep, read that again.
No matter whatever interference occurs, you should always look after your happiness first. The world is always going to speak of whatever you do so you must remain steady on your plans. Just like there are bumps in this life circle, there are also highs and things that are worth celebrating, live for those moments, and cherish every curve of your imperfectly perfect circle of life.
