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The Brutal Truth Is No Woman Wants to Marry a Man Without Earning Power

The reality, some men often choose to marry a broke non-obese woman. Join the conversation.

“No woman wants to marry a man with no money. Money is a man’s power.”— Grace Ekpenyong, a feminist.

A profitable skill +steady income+ bank account+good health + investment= Earning power.

A man’s earning power is the most important thing in the mating world, then and now. Right there, not politically correct.

Are you a woman or a man? Go find yourself before you find a partner. Do something to earn self-respect and an income. Learn how to manage time and money and master simple daily living skills.

Money makes most things happen. We all know the truth about money and choose not to believe it. If you are a healthy man and want to mate with a woman you want, ask an honest man or woman for advice.

Let your earning power do more of the talking, not Twitter.

A young couple’s relative stopped by, and they exchanged their holiday purchases, which were well-made and expensive. The relative said he liked them a lot because the last ones he had lasted for a long time. The couple smiled, and the man teased us, “Good that I can afford them.”

You see.

It’s good he can afford nice things because he has deep pockets.

In 2023, no healthy person wants to mate with a broke or talking person. Let’s be logical for once. Forget about love. Love without a brain is a talking point and can cost many people their good mental health and children.

Listen.

That’s right! Your own children. Society and children tend to prefer a parent with earning power.

The point is we are in a capitalist society, and people earning power determines their quality of life — health, mate, housing, food, breathing clean air, a nice seat and clean public bus or train, children’s education, etc.

Our income, including expenses and quality of life, can put us and our children one step ahead of others. And it’s unfair, but that is how life is in all the nooks and crannies of the world.

A popular football player once said, “Without football, I would’ve been a virgin for life.” Superior soccer skills gave him a deep pocket to attract a mate. And his not-too-good appearance became irrelevant to his employers, investors, and mate.

I have worked as a social worker for years and can tell you what a decent-paying job can do for a dad or mom more than other things. A man with sloped shoulders became taller overnight. A woman with emotional outbursts became logical with less frustration about little things.

One of the writers I like to read wrote about a similar topic the other day, and many middle-high income employees jumped at her. I read their responses and laughed. These people make a living on social media without living the poor life they advocate for. Yes, they know all the talking points and nothing to back them up with a lived experience or well-documented research.

Studies show divorce is less likely in a stable family with a decent income, with a man making “a dollar” more. Children thrive with a single mother with a high skill/decent income and tend to do well close to their parents.

Let’s talk less about love and more about high skills for our children. Life is more of a struggle without healthy food or a soft bed to sleep on most nights.

You are right; money doesn’t make people happy. Money is not everything.

Have you ever been homeless and taken three buses to attend school or work? Have you ever looked at a run-down school or neighborhood and had no other choice for yourself and your young children?

If not, never dispute the power of money or earning power.

In 2023, healthy people tend to mate with people with high skills and income more than their appearance, accent, or race. Look around; you’ll see the changes in our society. Parents want their grandchildren to go where their children didn’t go.

In all cultures worldwide, many parents and grandparents want their grandchildren to have more opportunities than they had. Never judge people who want a better life for themselves and their families.

I attended a wedding recently. An African and Asian simple marriage in the courthouse, and both are tech savvy. Ask them where they will live, shop, or what preschool they will choose for their future children. Some NYC preschools cost more than my annual take-home pay and have a three-year wait list. Be wise.

Takeaways

Be wise.

Be honest with yourself and marry someone on your level. If you are a man, marry a woman who makes a dollar less than you if your self-esteem is below 99%.

If you are a woman, marrying a broke man rarely works in many cultures. Who is a broke man? A broke man is helpless, a taker and talker — all his women give him pocket money and take care of his needs. He never had responsibility or earned his own money since he was born. Be wise.

Help yourself grow. Get good with your life.

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