The Biggest Regret I Have Is That I Didn’t Fail More Often

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could keep a job or learn a trade. After losing a job. I would fall back on the Learning Disability trope my parents were happy to reinforce. What I should have done was turn around and try something new right away.</p><h2 id="a609">If I learned mental toughness earlier, where would it have taken me?</h2><p id="335f">Resilience is a learned trait. Life isn’t easy for most people. I would have been better off learning that fact early in life. Mom and Dad wanted me to be a security guard. It benefited them.</p><p id="8523">They didn’t worry about me and If I could pay my bills. They worried about me because I let every lost job and opportunity wreck me. I would fall into self-pity and stay in my bedroom.</p><h2 id="c847">Self-pity won’t help you. Get to work</h2><p id="920e">Action will beat inertia every time. I would do nothing and go with the flow. That attitude stunted my growth. I would have been better off forming a plan. When that plan didn’t work I should have pivoted to something else.</p><p id="48a4"><a href="https://www.ted.com/talks/temple_grandin_the_world_needs_all_kinds_of_minds">The easy way is never the right way. A Neuro-divergent person’s biggest hurdle is his self-doubt. I watched a Ted Talk not too long ago. A successful writer and animal behaviorist was on stage giving an interesting ta

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lk.</a></p><h2 id="c5e8">On stage doing a Ted Talk and she’s Autistic, that’s amazing</h2><p id="934c">What fascinated me, was that she mentioned that she was autistic. “ If she can do it, so can I.” I thought as I watched. I wonder how she did the first time she got on a stage. I bet it was less than perfect. There she was, doing something I never thought I would see an autistic person do.</p><p id="fa0f">In the coming year. I hope we all make fools of ourselves more often. A Google search will show that most successful people fail a lot. Those people are successful because they analyze their failures and remember the lessons.</p><h2 id="8558">Forget the failures, but remember the lessons</h2><p id="2b22">They will remember the lessons, but they forget the failures. They’re too busy doing the next project. Life is a process that isn’t easy for most of us. It’s easy to let our past failures weigh us down.</p><p id="7271">Don’t do it. Forget the failures, remember the lessons, and do the next thing. Life is about overcoming obstacles and pain. If you’re not failing you’re not living.</p><h2 id="c321">Final Thought:</h2><p id="aa82">Don’t let fear hold you back, take risks.</p><p id="beb1"><a href="https://lawsonwallace.medium.com/subscribe">Subscribe to get my stories in your inbox.</a></p></article></body>

Deal with the pain and move on

I boarded the plane in Minneapolis on February 23, 2017. Almost three years of homelessness came to an end. I spent the last seven years thinking about regret. Dwelling on the past is unhealthy. My writing and my success on YouTube have been a big help in keeping the dwelling on the past at bay.

A vocational rehabilitation counselor once told me, “Your life is a legacy of failure.” He said it like it was a bad thing, and it was. The thought came to my mind this morning. The failures weren’t the problem.

Failure isn’t the problem, it’s how you deal with it that’s the problem

My reaction to my failures was the problem. I have read countless stories and I have watched so many TV shows about high-achievers. The one thing they all have in common is failures and setbacks.

I never could keep a job or learn a trade. After losing a job. I would fall back on the Learning Disability trope my parents were happy to reinforce. What I should have done was turn around and try something new right away.

If I learned mental toughness earlier, where would it have taken me?

Resilience is a learned trait. Life isn’t easy for most people. I would have been better off learning that fact early in life. Mom and Dad wanted me to be a security guard. It benefited them.

They didn’t worry about me and If I could pay my bills. They worried about me because I let every lost job and opportunity wreck me. I would fall into self-pity and stay in my bedroom.

On stage doing a Ted Talk and she’s Autistic, that’s amazing

What fascinated me, was that she mentioned that she was autistic. “ If she can do it, so can I.” I thought as I watched. I wonder how she did the first time she got on a stage. I bet it was less than perfect. There she was, doing something I never thought I would see an autistic person do.

In the coming year. I hope we all make fools of ourselves more often. A Google search will show that most successful people fail a lot. Those people are successful because they analyze their failures and remember the lessons.

Forget the failures, but remember the lessons

They will remember the lessons, but they forget the failures. They’re too busy doing the next project. Life is a process that isn’t easy for most of us. It’s easy to let our past failures weigh us down.

Don’t do it. Forget the failures, remember the lessons, and do the next thing. Life is about overcoming obstacles and pain. If you’re not failing you’re not living.