The Big Problem Is You Don’t *Really* Want To Make Money

You just say you do.

Let me ask you this:

Do you act like someone who wants a lot of money? Like someone who’s worthy of a lot of money?

Most of us don’t.

I certainly didn’t.

My first goal as a freelancer was $2K per month.

When I achieved it with 2–3 hours of work per day, I thought, hell, this is living.

But after a few months, I started to feel miserable and had no idea why.

I thought maybe I wasn’t the kind of person to have a business. Maybe I was born to work for someone else?

Now, I know I just wasn’t brave enough to turn my dreams into goals. I could’ve done so much better than the $2K. I just didn’t believe in myself enough to accept I really wanted it. I just said I did.

Everyone who’s rich really wanted to be rich.

In his insightful article This 7–Step Plan Will Make You A Millionaire, Benjamin Hardy summarizes the money-making advice of 200+ books and the first step he quotes is to really want to make money.

“Nearly all rich and powerful people are not notably talented, educated, charming, or good-looking.”

“They become rich and powerful by wanting to become rich and powerful.” — Paul Arden, bestselling author of It’s Not How Good You Are, It’s How Good You Want to Be

My $2K goal is laughable to me right now. It’s a great goal for when you’re first starting, but I’m not just starting anymore. My goals have to evolve with me.

That’s why I was miserable. I was ready to move forward, but my mind wasn’t.

I was ashamed to want a lot of money. It seemed unrealistic. It seemed silly. It seemed impossible.

Now, I realize writers I look up to make a million dollars per year doing the same thing I do, just a little better and for longer.

Hell! I can do that!

So, I’m transitioning from primarily service-focused business to content creation and educational products. It’s the only way to join the big-bucks writers.

The transition is slow and painful. Some days, my progress seems non-existent.

But I keep going. Because, for the first time in my life, I realize I really want money. And I act like it.

Marisa Peer has an excellent question for you.

During a recent interview, world-renowned psychologist Marisa Peer asked the audience to imagine having incredible wealth and asked them how it felt in their body.

I don’t know if it’s something about her voice or what, but the woman can manipulate me into submission any day of the week.

When she asked how having wealth felt in my body, it felt like a ball in my stomach. In a bad way.

I feel fear at the thought of wealth, and I have no idea why. I try to rationalize it.

It’s because we were poor when I was a kid.

It’s because I was taught rich people are bad.

It’s because my parents didn’t have money, and I want to stay loyal to their experiences.

Maybe because I don’t really believe I’m good enough to achieve such wealth, and my mind protects me from disappointment.

I’ve been searching and searching for the reason, but I can’t find it.

I have the awareness, though, and I keep requiring more for myself.

Sometimes, you don’t need the answers right away. The motivation to find the answers could be enough to keep you going.

I still don’t know why, in my core, I’m afraid of money.

I do know I want money, though, and I act accordingly. I know actions change emotions better than anything else.

• I keep showing up, even when my results are laughable.
• I write better to-do lists that make me give the best of myself. Instead of “Write one article for Medium”, I write “Write one amazing, blockbuster average-length article for Medium.” It changes the way I approach the writing process. I’m sending commands to my brain to do better, and I know it can. That’s true for anyone.
• I write my goals. I journal through the emotions they bring up. I’m here for it all. The inner work is the hardest part, but I won’t stop.

I know even back in the day when I made the $2K as a freelancer and felt miserable, I could’ve required more for myself, and I would’ve gotten it.

But I didn’t then. So, I do know.

I require of myself the strength and wisdom to keep showing up.

I require of myself the wisdom to write jaw-dropping, blockbusting content that helps people thrive.

I require for myself the luck to have the right opportunity show at the right moment and the intuition to recognize it (we don’t always)

I require of myself the skills I need to become one of the most successful writers on the internet. I also have to take a moment to figure out exactly what that means in numbers.

I require of myself empathy and the ability to read the data correctly so I can understand what my readers need and offer it to them.

And finally, I require for myself the money that should come with all that.

The wealth I know I deserve, even though my body doesn’t know it yet.

The wealth I know I’ll work hard for and appreciate, even if I’ve never managed such wealth before.

The wealth I know is available in the world — I just have to reach for it.

Final Words.

Now, I live an absolutely crazy life.

I’m a mom, a wife, a daughter and a granddaughter, and I need to show up consistently in all my roles.

It’s insane. And yet, I wake up happy and go to bed exhausted, knowing I’m building it. Slowly but surely. The life of my dreams, which becomes my new normal.

I require more for myself, and I don’t plan on giving up.

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