The best way for a woman to live is these 4 words
A few days ago, I saw this sentence on Medium:
“The best state of a person is that his eyes are full of stories, but his face is not frosty. He doesn’t envy anyone, he doesn’t laugh at anyone, and he doesn’t rely on anyone. He just works hard quietly, feeds the big picture, and lives the way he likes. .”
Life is all in your own hands. How you treat your life will determine how you live it.
Being good-looking is an advantage for a woman, and living a beautiful life is her ability.
Women who live more and become more advanced often have these three characteristics in common.
01 About yourself: Don’t forget to growSelf-growth is the best investment in a woman’s life
Sandberg once wrote a message for women:
“Don’t hit the brakes too early, don’t exit the track too early.”
In fact, what really widens the gap between women is not beauty, but growth.
An An, the heroine of the TV series “The Second Time is Beautiful”, got married as soon as she graduated, became pregnant as soon as she got married, and then became a full-time wife of a wealthy family.
After marriage, she watches TV dramas and plays games at home every day, and her husband is her whole world. Once, her husband worked overtime until late at night. When he came home, he saw his son sleeping on the sofa in the living room. The coffee table was piled with snacks and takeout boxes. Not long after, they filed for divorce.
An An’s biggest mistake was giving up on self-growth. Before An An got married, she was also a winner of the “Star Comic Award” and had her own comics that she was good at. But during six years of marriage, An An gave up comics. By hiding in the safe haven of marriage, I not only gave up on myself, but also failed to keep up with my husband’s development. In the end, I didn’t even keep the marriage.
There is this description in “Grassroots Women”:
“If you yearn for love, the best way is to love yourself first, build your own material foundation and spiritual world, and be willing to dedicate the surplus of the spiritual world to others. Love can only go a long way if you have an independent spirit. You must have an independent personality. Only women can live their lives with style.”
Maliyi’s speech at the ceremony was even more poignant: “Women should not live to please others. I hope you live for yourself. Everyone only has one chance in the first half of his life. Be brave, work hard, love, Strive and make mistakes, but remember, you must grow.”
They know how to manage themselves well, treat themselves well, spend time on themselves, and focus on the things they like to do.
The more advanced a woman lives, the more she knows how to love herself.
02 Regarding material things: If you like something, make your own money and buy it.Financial independence is a woman’s greatest confidence.
Never live a life with your palms up.
Even if you get married, don’t forget to be an independent woman.
Actor Liu Mintao once had a seemingly happy but actually unhappy marriage.
I have no income, so I have to ask my husband for every penny I spend. Even if I want to eat a stick of matcha ice cream, I have to ask for his permission.
But she couldn’t eat the ice cream in the end because of her husband’s words, “How old are you and you still eat ice cream?”
After escaping from his marriage, Liu Mintao no longer relied on anyone. Now she is living more and more freely, she can do what she likes according to her own wishes, and her condition is getting better and better.
In this world, no one will always be your safe haven. Instead of placing your hope on others, it is better to rely on yourself to feel at ease.
Only by maintaining financial independence can you feel safe. You can buy things you like at any time without hesitation because of the high price; you can refuse things you don’t like on the spot.
There is no need to rely on men and wrong yourself.
So at your best age, you might as well learn a few skills to make yourself valuable; start one or two side businesses to make yourself rich; keep learning, improve your knowledge, and then become more valuable.
You don’t have to be rich, but you must at least have the capital to support yourself.
03 Treat love: if you can love, you can let goNeither humble nor arrogant is the best attitude for a woman towards love
Someone asked on Zhihu: “What is the best state for a woman in love?”
One of the answers was: “Have a bottom line, have requirements, and be measured.”
In terms of attitude towards love, a truly powerful woman can always be neither humble nor overbearing.
Treat people equally when interacting with members of the opposite sex, neither superior nor inferior to others. In the face of love, they can afford to love and let go.
Just like the heroine in “Jane Eyre”, even though she comes from a humble background, she is neither humble nor arrogant, and lives a courageous, resourceful and confident life. In front of the manor owner Rochester, she always talks to him as an equal and never compliments him without his status. She never falls in love with him because of his status. And Rochester also fell in love with Jane Eyre’s sincerity, straightforwardness, self-respect and self-reliance.
However, in reality, some women become particularly humble in love because they are afraid of losing each other.
Once the relationship is not going well, it is often “cannot afford to love and cannot let go”.
Remember that the love you need is not to be high-minded and not to feel inferior.
Just like Yi Shu said; the lover we choose does not need to be rich, talented, or beautiful. As long as he treats us well and puts us first in everything, that is enough.
Good love allows you to be yourself. It will allow you to constantly improve yourself and become better and better, rather than humble yourself in the dust.
Whether in love or marriage, humility cannot win people’s hearts. Love that is too humble will not be cherished by the other party.
A truly powerful woman can love deeply and break up without mercy.
You can be very happy together, but once you leave, you can also live well without losing confidence in your future life or the ability to love.
They are independent, self-loving, not humble, and not demanding.
When love comes, it is neither humble nor arrogant; when love leaves, it is calm and calm.
They know that love is not the only thing in life, it is only one part of it.
It’s great to have you, but it’s okay to be without you.
Life is your own, and if you want to live the way you want, you cannot do without your own efforts.
Those women who get better and better as they live know how to take the initiative in life. They know how to live out themselves and make themselves better.
They never treat their lives perfunctorily, but are more self-disciplined. Being able to never forget to grow when facing oneself, being able to always maintain financial independence when facing life, being able to be neither humble nor overbearing when facing love, this is perhaps the most advanced way for a woman to live.
The years are long.
May we all live the way we like, be our own light, and bloom all the beauty!