The Best Relationship Advice for Men Today

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Men, I bet you’re tired. Tired of doing everything in your power and still having it go nowhere.

I bet you’re lost. Lost in a new world where your father’s advice is no longer valuable.

I know you’re looking for a way to make it in this brave new world and nothing seems to work. Not where women and relationships are concerned anyway.

That’s because the best relationship advice for men today is not a few cure-all magic lines from snake oil salesmen that only have their own interest at heart.

It’s a down-to-earth common sense approach so that one day soon you will be understood, heard, and cherished the way you deserve.

Here’s what truly works.

1. Discipline is your superpower.

It’s something every man on earth can achieve, yet few do. It’s your key to successful anything.

I don’t know anybody who got what they wanted in life without discipline.

But you don’t hear it mentioned so often when talking about successful relationships.

First of all, let me be clear on what discipline is not: waiting for a woman for years just to see her get it on with countless other guys and eventually marry one of them, while you stick around hoping she’ll eventually see how wonderful you are and fall for you.

If you have to go that way I won’t judge you for it, but be aware that’s not how it works.

A key component of successful relationships is attraction and if that doesn’t happen in the first few months it probably never will. It’s not something you can force, slide into or convince someone of. It’s there or not. It might not be instant, but it doesn’t take years.

I know you can do better than wait around for someone, who, amazing as she might be, is just not into you.

Here’s what discipline is: knowing what you want and fitting your actions accordingly.

When you lack discipline, your mind and actions wander everywhere.

You see this cute girl in yoga pants and you want her because let’s face it, yoga pants! You get with her and find out she’s addicted to crack and has to steal to get the drug. You’ve just got a good job, you’re good at what you do, and see a bright future there. That’s until you start coming in late because you spend all night long with her. You know this is bad for you, but the sex is mind-blowing and she does everything. Everything! You can’t get out.

Sound familiar?

When you lack discipline, you don’t understand that you can just choose to not do something, no matter how much you want it. Just because you feel a certain way doesn’t mean you have to act on it.

Just because Miss Toxic is present in her high heels and hot pink lips don’t mean you have to suddenly go all mad wolf cartoon and drool all over her place just to lose yourself in the process.

Keep your cool! Don’t be a cartoon! I know choosing what’s best for you sounds like choosing steamed carrots over a bacon-glazed donut. And you are right! In the long run and short run that’s exactly what it is.

Choose the carrots and you’ll get what you want long-term. Choose the bacon delight and you’ll become a walking piece of bacon yourself.

Lust is one of men’s biggest weaknesses. You know it. All men know it.

Don’t let it ruin your life and dreams and keep you small.

You’re bigger than that!

2. Your limitation is your inspiration.

So many of you guys stop at so little!

Are you 5.7 and you let that stop you from being in a fulfilled relationship? Women are into tall guys. Yes, absolutely, they are. So what?

Remember Prince, the singer, and musical genius? Prince stood at 5.2! And he dated (and married) some of the most beautiful women out there. And they were all just a bit taller than him, too.

Sure, you’re not Prince, you don’t have his talent, money, or fame. So what? Just don’t date women at that level.

Nothing is a deterrent. It’s just harder.

Also, don’t gaslight yourself into ‘oh, it’s ok, it’s all about the heart’. No, it’s not! Heart is a big part of it but don’t ignore the fact that before anything, we are physical beings. In a physical body. That has physical desires. Yes, what you look like matters.

So do the work that you can do. Go to the gym, do the exercise your body loves, and eat clean. A healthy body is a happy body and women can tell. Before anything, all animals (humans included) are programmed to procreate with healthy partners to ensure the progress of the species.

It’s hardwired into our brains, and none of us can escape it unless serious trauma messes with our brains.

But don’t sweat the part of you that you can’t change, like height.

Or parts that you can’t change this very instant.

Like: ‘I’m not going to put myself out there, because I’m not rich enough to buy her a lobster dinner.’ Come on! Who cares?!

To have a better understanding of this, think of it the other way around: imagine a girl who wouldn’t date because she has small boobs.

Can you see how stupid this is? As a man, you know that’s absolutely ridiculous. Even if you’re a guy who is into ginormous breasts, you know it’s stupid for her to do this, because you know there are plenty of guys who couldn’t care less.

It’s exactly the same for men: ‘I’m not even going to try dating because I know women are only into guys who take them to Rome on their private jets to have pizza on their first dates’ (sniffles). Umm… wait, what?

Sure women are into that, who wouldn’t be? But it’s definitely not a relationship breaker if you can’t. No one is even thinking about it!

I had some of my best dates holding hands in the park and smiling like idiots. Because it was raw and sweet and we were falling in love and touching each other’s hand was the best feeling in the world.

Don’t let your limited thinking keep you back from your dreams!

Confidence outgrows your limitations!

You’re bigger than that!

3. Equality is your best quality.

This part might trigger some of you and that’s just too bad because in this article I’m addressing men who are emotionally mature enough to be willing to work on themselves from a place of self-awareness, not denial.

Empires and kingdoms have been built and ruled by men who were in a non-equal relationship with a woman. Or several women. Powerful men most often than not had a slave at home, who would cater to their every whim.

It’s still done today. If that’s what you’re into, it can still be done, you will find someone who is damaged enough to serve as your slave. I don’t condone it, but I won’t pretend some people don’t want it. The world is what it is.

That’s highly damaging for a happy life though. Were those men happy? Nah! They were successful, but not happy. And no, happiness and success are not even close to being the same thing.

One of the key components of happiness is successful relationships. There are no successful relationships with slaves. An unequal partnership never leads to a successful partnership.

The best relationship advice for the modern man is this: learn how to be equal partners! Your past doesn’t help you with that, your training as men doesn’t help you with that and it’s ok, we’re not here to blame history for what it was.

We’re here to do better.

For all the men out there who are into being slaves yourselves, I won’t judge you, but if you let it go outside the bedroom, it won’t make you happy either.

In a healthy, strong, sustainable relationship, the roles are not predetermined. They are decided according to the individual characteristics of the partners.

The partners have equal rights, equal opportunities, and equal importance.

They listen and are listened to.

Communication is key. And this is where men have a big deficit. They’ve been trained for business, trained for battle, trained for building houses out of manure and hay, etc.

You are not trained for relationships. And it shows!

But just because you don’t know how to, doesn’t mean you can’t learn how to. You’re bigger than that!

Conclusion:

The best relationship advice for men today and tomorrow is: be aware you are the one who is keeping yourself small. You don’t need magic tools, you need to know that your actions decide the outcome. And you have the power to choose those actions.

Yes, it’s a long game. But that’s true about anything else worth achieving.

Quick fixes always fail and you know that.

Don’t let prejudice, laziness, or fear stop you. Don’t keep yourself small. You’re bigger than this!

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