The Battle Between the Head and the Heart
The battle between what you know in your head and what you feel in your heart is something that everyone experiences at some point in life.
Some will say it is the hardest battle.
I say, that’s okay. It can be hard and we can accept that.
But, it doesn’t have to be so hard that we are left frozen in indecisiveness. We do not have to break our own hearts or make bad decisions.
Sometimes our hearts speak what our minds cannot understand. There are times when we must listen to our hearts because our heart knows something our mind does not. It is in these times that we must follow our heart.
Sometimes our hearts are simply hurt by the reality that is and the reality that will never be. There are times when our hearts are broken and we must allow ourselves to grieve. These are the times when we we must give ourselves permission to be sad; the times when our pain is inevitable and we can choose to heal ourselves or to harm ourselves through this pain.
The great question is, how do we know when to listen to our heart and when to accept the pain of loss and grief? How do we know when following our heart will take us in a direction that will not serve our highest good?
The truth is that our hearts will never guide us to self destruction.
But we don’t know the difference between when we are being asked to follow it and when we are avoiding pain.
At times we attempt to shield our hearts from pain when in reality, pain is not always a bad thing. Pain can bring you closer to yourself, make your heart stronger and heal your soul, if you allow it.
Pain shows you who you are, and more importantly, who you want to be.
Your heart actually needs pain to be a heart at all. Pain is a great teacher, a great healer and above all, a great lover.
This doesn’t mean that we cause ourselves pain, place ourselves in the position to be hurt, or allow ourselves to be abused by others. It simply means that when pain comes we don’t have to avoid it. We cannot avoid it anyway; attempting to do so is what causes us unnecessary pain that does not serve us.
As I have said many times, there is no magic answer. I will not attempt to give you an erroneous three step process to knowing when your heart is asking you to follow it and when your heart just needs to grieve.
But I will tell you one thing.
Just because your heart is hurting doesn’t mean you are supposed to save it from this pain. And, when your heart is asking you to follow it, that doesn’t hurt.
When your heart is asking to be followed, it feels good. It is exciting and liberating and it makes you feel extra alive. It may be scary, but it is not painful.
So if you think you have a battle between your head and your heart, that may not be the case at all. You may just be tempted to shield your heart from pain that is part of your souls journey. And when we do that, the pain will keep coming until we allow it to teach us what we are meant to learn.
Written by Holly Kellums
