The Balance Between Giving Yourself Grace and Getting Stuff Done
How to find a work life balance when you’re naturally an overachiever
I’ve had moments in my life where I feel guilty when I am using the restroom because I’m not getting stuff done. It’s as ridiculous as it sounds.
We live in a world where productivity is praised, laziness is scorned upon, and those who do the most receive the most recognition.
It’s so easy to get caught in a trap of “doing.” We put more and more on our plate and then feel obligated to complete it because we have already committed to it.
If you’re anything like me, you’ll keep “being productive” until you burnout, and then will have a few days of absolute stagnancy.
How do we find a balance?
Everyone has a different strategy, and at the end of the day, you have to find what works for you. But here are some ways that you can find balance between your obligations of work, and the human need to live life.
1. Have a cut off time
Stop work for the day when your work hours are supposed to stop. If you set your own hours, actually set your own hours. Give yourself evenings or mornings to regroup.
Separate what is your work time from what is your play time in order to get the most out of both.
2. Give yourself weekends
Most industries have weekends off. If you want to prioritize socializing and you set your own work hours, I recommend giving yourself a weekend day off as well.
Maintaining relationships is valuable.
3. Schedule breaks
If you are an overachiever, you may have to schedule breaks for yourself during the day. Give yourself a lunch break. Set a timer on your phone every hour and make yourself get up and stretch.
Small resets can make a world of difference.
4. Schedule plans
Schedule social activities for yourself. Once you’ve made a commitment to others, you’re more likely to hold it. This ensures you get a break when you might not have otherwise taken one.
5. Say no
If someone sends you an email asking you to complete a task after work hours, say no. Well, more politely, say “I’m happy to work on this, I’ll get started first thing tomorrow.” If we don’t set our own boundaries, no boundaries will be upheld.
6. Say yes
If your friend asks you to go to dinner but you still have a project you’re working on, say yes. You may have to work harder tomorrow, but I guarantee looking back on your week, the dinner is what you’ll remember and value- not the work.
The Takeaway
Sometimes, you need to make time for a reset in order to achieve the best results in your work. If you work too much, you will burn out. You’ll end up being less successful than you might have been if you had given yourself that time to rest when you needed it.
There’s no shame in giving yourself grace when you need it. It’s a balance that takes practice, but one that is essential to learn.
