The Art of Ignoring Others’ Opinions

Why it’s important

“You don’t want to do that.”

Ever had someone say that to you before?

You’re sharing something about your life — maybe even something exciting, that you’re simply thrilled about — and they feel the need to utter those six soul-sucking words?

Been there.

It doesn’t feel good.

People just can’t seem to keep their opinions to themselves these days. Even if you didn’t ask for them. And especially when you didn’t want them.

I am far too polite (thanks, Mom) to say what actually pops into my head as responses to this phenomenon. If I did, they might sound something like this:

“You’re going there again?”

Wow, I didn’t know that you were so passionate about my family’s annual vacation choice. Remind me why you care? It’s not like you’re coming with us…

“Are you sure you want to spend your money on that?”

If I wasn’t sure, I wouldn’t be doing it. Why does it matter to you? Are you planning to help pay for it? Great! Here’s my account information.

“Is that really what you want to do?”

Yes, Mr-or-Mrs Patronizing. It is. Do you think I am stupid? Do you honestly think your question is going to cause me to suddenly ignore the pros-and-cons list I’ve already gone over numerous times in my head? That I’ve never considered what you’re about to tell me?

Obviously, this is a topic that makes me extremely frustrated.

But if you are in the same boat, I have good news.

Because here is the thing: hearing others’ unsolicited opinions is, unfortunately, inevitable.

Listening to them, however, is optional.

If I had listened to every opinion thrown my way, life would be very different. I never would have become engaged to my now-husband after only six months of dating; I never would have bought my childhood home; I never would have left the dental hygiene profession; and I never would have quit my last job to let my mental health soar.

And I never would have ended up as happy as I am now.

So…I am glad I didn’t listen.

Remember, you only have one life to live — and it’s yours. Don’t let yourself be pressured to change your ideas and goals based on others’ biases.

They aren’t the ones living your life.

You are.

Make decisions — your decisions — accordingly.

You’ll be happier for it.

What’s the best advice you’ve ever ignored? Let me know in the comments!

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