The Art of Failing: Why Being Average is Still Better than Nothing
You can Squeeze anywhere and not feel like you haven’t achieved it!
Have you ever failed so horribly, that you were made to question the very existence of your feeble self? If so, How did you react?
Stigma, Burden, Obstacle, Struggles, Obscurity — so many fascinating words tied to the notions of failure, yet not one can fully describe of being one. But they are the after-effects of such a state, some might reckon or is it just what someone experiences during their struggles, this feeling of the relentlessness of not being accepted for their poor performance or lack thereof.
Ever since our childhood, we are put into drafts by our guardians to set an example for ourselves and everyone around us, in an age where our main concern is to make as many memories of joy, as possible for they might usher a sense of hope in growing years to come, and a fine cushion for old age.
Yet most of us, are thwarted into this race, of competing with one another, to surpass these vile rivals, as we are programmed to beat every foe that comes our way. We are initially taught to anticipate anyone that comes in our way, as our foe — a rival that we need to match and beat to excel in our conquest for success, and triumph.
Do you feel me, oh ye mighty brothers in arms! We were born to battle to the death! and let fate decide who conquers whom for that notion we fight!?
On a lighter note, we are surrounded by many occurrences of failing to complete these desired tasks of success, and thus we are accompanied by what you can call, after-effects that cause a lot of harm for ourselves when we don’t meet our mark. This can affect our personal, mental, physical health. It can also beat us emotionally, and psychologically on a level that can determine our fate for the worse, that’s set to come if we negatively succumb to such states.
Such is a state called Failure! Fear thee. Fear it, for it shall cause you harm!
Perhaps, this kind of notion perpetuates control over the masses and their minds in working around their problems but in a negative manner. Sure results will be obtained but many will fall behind, and those people who would be left in the middle are the ones who nearly made it to the finish line but fell short due to several reasons, that weren’t in their control.
These people are called the average, they performed well but weren’t considered the best. There is more to them than meets the eye. And that is perhaps why it is needed to digress upon them lucidly so that we can gain an interesting insight that comes from the lives of people who are indeed average.
Being Average can be pretty helpful, as you can be the best of both worlds, you know what lies ahead — the triumph cheers and the shoulder pats, all the congratulatory remarks, and the rewards that await the successor. You also know the struggles, of the ones that didn’t make it. As you walk among them every day, and also you witness those who always fail, at what they do.
You are a witness, perhaps to everything that happens in this world from the in-between.
There is a lot of stigma concerning people like you, as you never do put effort into reaching the top, its perhaps a grasp away, yet you are told that you deserve better, from people who don’t know any better. An average lifestyle helps you to maintain a healthy relationship with people and caters to adopting a healthy lifestyle that is indeed sustainable.
Because when you’re trying to achieve an average set of goals or an average output, you will probably put the required, and the motivation to reach that goal. Because then you know it yourself, to give it your all. Perhaps, at times fate might even surprise you, and that is something you will learn to love about being average, is that it helps you see in between the lines.
Why Is Being Average Still Better than Nothing?
Well let’s be honest, and count our blessings — shall we, An average lifestyle would be something right there in the middle of good and great. But mere words can’t describe a lifestyle, you have to live it and be grateful for it to understand its potential.
If you curse yourself about being average, you aren’t grateful for what you have been bestowed upon, unlike many others who never got a chance to. This will drag you down, a burrow of your digging — it will only cause you to feel low, and bad about yourself which is not healthy.
When you practice gratefulness, it helps you to appreciate what life has to offer.
The inner precipice of your desires is a vast valley that cannot be ravaged by the pleasures of this world. It will never be filled unless your perspective demands so.
That is what life is, we learn to adjust to what we have, and we work every day to becoming better versions of ourselves than we were yesterday.
Think of it this way, let us count our blessings of being average;
you have a home, a house, a flat, a room, a place to crash
a bed to sleep in, comfortable sheets, pillows to snuggle, even teddies to spare
warm meals, twice a day perhaps, lunch, clean water to drink, occasional feasts
Bathing facilities, fresh water for baths, soap bubbles, shampoo
a parent/guardian who holds you, who says, “Good Morning, Son”
friends who occasionally check up on you, see how you’re doing
you have the opportunity to see the world from a very different perspective, you can fail knowing you can come back to the point that you are standing on right now, knowing very well where you stand and where we can go from here!
Conclusion
There are many instances in life where you might be shamed for having average scores, and that is probably going to suck hard. It might even be harmful to your mental health to sustain such blows, that will hurt you a lot.
But seeing it in a way to accept your flaws, and weaknesses is also something that I consider the quality of strength that you can overcome your self, in whatever manner you please, and you do not let other people dictate your self.
Of course, there are going to be many people in life that are going to shame you for so many obvious reasons, be it height, status, body fat, grades, and even the size of your johnson — but when you accept yourself, it would matter less, perhaps not even at all to you when someone asks you, “Hey, what size are you on!?” — you can fairly reply well, “I’m average and I feel alright!”
You will fail in many things in life, in the many phases that it will usher but your goal should be what you can hold firmly in your own two hands.
“For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson
Many times we are told to follow a dream that we can’t fulfill — let us be honest with ourselves, we don’t know when our lives will end, we will put our all, but we definitely should have milestones in our goals, that even if we aren’t able to make it to the finish line if we can meet our average milestone, we can surely admit that we did it.
We found our success in time, that we used to reach our milestone, that we set when we started our journey. Setting SMART milestones, matters because it will assure victory for us, that’s why an Average milestone should always be set so that all the efforts that are put into building or achieving something would not go in vain.
This can affect you very dearly, in the most humble manner and you can gain satisfaction and be grateful for what you might achieve — equivalent to what you set earlier.
The Takeaway
Being Average matters when you fail, but you can still achieve your SMART goals. As you won’t waste time in self-doubting yourself, and you will use it wisely to set your next timeline so that you can perform to your desired outcome. Not always you would come at being average, sometimes you might even share the limelight with the Pros and the Top Guns.
At times, you will even be average at being extraordinary, as there are many other racers alongside the path you have chosen that will be far better a match than you ever would be — but the key difference here is it’s you who is gunning to win it big, and your resolve will help you attain it.
Being Average is not that bad, You just gotta understand the philosophy of being one and you’ll be extraordinary than the rest in your game — life.
Stay Blessed and Stay Safe!
With Love ❤️
