The 7 Most Important Beliefs of Successful People
What are the beliefs of successful people?
Our set of beliefs represents a critical reference system, helping us understand better the way we see ourselves and the people around us.
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In many ways, our beliefs influence our lives to a great extent. We make decisions based on our previous experiences, which become beliefs.
If your beliefs are shadowed by too many opposing ideas, such as “the world is a dangerous place” or” you can’t trust people, “you’ll see a world full of dangers and people you can’t trust.
If you replace your negative beliefs with positive ones, such as “the world is a friendly place” or “I can trust myself,” you will live in a social world where you can make wise choices about every aspect of your life.
The power of beliefs — a story by Abraham Maslow
The legendary psychologist Abraham Maslow told this story about the power of beliefs:
A patient had no respect for him because he thought he was a corpse, and his psychiatrist spent many meetings with him trying to convince him otherwise. One day, the psychiatrist asked his patient if the bodies were bleeding. The patient replied firmly, “The corpses are not bleeding.”
All the functions of their body have ceased. The psychiatrist then persuaded his patient to experiment together, in which he would prick his patient’s hand to see if he was bleeding. As expected, when the needle penetrated his skin, he began to bleed. Looking at the drops of blood in astonishment, the patient muttered, “Let it be!” The corpses are bleeding!
A short conclusion of how vital the beliefs are
Your beliefs determine your decisions, your emotional states, and, ultimately, the direction you are heading in life. They control every aspect of your life.
In the same way, a video projector plays images from a roll of film on a screen, your perceptions of the world are a manifestation of your beliefs.
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Don’t Forget! Belief is nothing more than a point of view: a window through which we look at the world.
When you choose to look at things through the window of positive perspectives, you will form a broader point of view, and you will notice the results very fast.
Don’t think about whether they are true or not: imagine what your life will look like if you knew this.
#1 — You Are the Expert on Good Beliefs
There is a Sufi legend about a man looking for his keys on the alley in front of his house. Neighbors joined him and helped him find his keys until, finally, one of them asked him: — Where did you lose your keys? The man replied, “In the house.” Astonished by his answer, the man asked, “Then why are you looking for them outside?” The man replied, “Because there is more light outside.”
It’s simple: no one knows you better than you do.
If you have spent your life looking outside of yourself for answers, you will discover that all the answers are already within you. All the answers to life’s questions will begin to show up one by one, more and more often.
#2 — You Did Not “Fail”
You don’t need to repair people’s defects.
In the nineteenth century, people being “defective” was a growing trend in psychiatry communities. Over hundreds of years, it has been a reference concept.
But there it’s also the positive psychology theory, which rethinks all this situation. The main idea is that if we want to see more and more mentally healthy people, we need to study those who are healthy, not those who are ill.
Any dysfunctional behavior is based on a positive intention or has once served a purpose that is no longer relevant.
For example, consider a person who is afraid to fly. The causes can be multiple, but if we assume that this phobia is based on a positive intention, we know that it comes down to the person’s desire to feel safe.
When your subconscious finds other ways to make you feel safe, the phobia itself loses its necessity. This is also the reason why, nowadays, through modern psychological techniques, the fears that people have suffered all their lives can be cured in just a few minutes.
#3 — You Already Have All the Necessary Resources to Succeed in Life
Do you trust yourself that you can tie your laces successfully? Or that you can safely go to the market to go shopping?
Then it means that you have reliable resources inside you. Therefore, trust yourself that you can speak in public, approach a person you like, or do anything else you want.
Have you ever felt love in your soul for a parent, a child, or a pet? It means that you can be more loving with your partner, with your family, or even with yourself. The only difference between you and the genius people is that you have not yet learned to access more of your resources.
#4 — You Can Achieve Any Goal If You Divide It into More Pieces
By more pieces, I mean small successful beliefs.
A few years ago, a man managed to eat a plane in several months, dividing it into pieces.
Although I do not recommend repeating his gesture, it proves that any skill can be learned, and any problem can be solved if divided into small pieces.
When you train your mind to look at significant tasks in simple terms, they become much easier to accomplish. We are already doing this naturally. For example, when you want to remember a phone number, you divide it into groups of numbers. Or, if you’re going to buy an expensive item, such as a house or a car, you pay in small installments that you can afford.
The idea is this: If you want to tear down the wall between you and the life you want to live, it is best to make it brick by brick!
#5 — If Your Method Doesn’t Work, Change Your Beliefs
In the bestseller “Who Took My Cheese?”, Spencer Johnson draws attention to the difference between humans and mice.
If mice find that one method doesn’t work, they try another one. If people find that a plan is not working, look for someone to blame. I often hear people not finding a solution to a specific situation, saying, “But I’ve always done the same!” or “I’m not that kind of person.”
The truth is that everything we do naturally is the fruit of habit (this is how we are programmed to do it) rather than our potential. If you want to get different results, get out of your comfort zone, and act differently.
#6 — There Is No Failure, Only Dartboard Feedback
When do you fail? When you decide not to learn.
Until then, every response you receive is a valuable source of information. It helps you realize if the actions you take bring you closer or further away from your goals. Similarly, an airplane is 90% of the time off its route, and the pilot is continually changing the course to reach his destination. Successful people recognize that success comes when they end up with failures.
People who have “succeeded” have one thing in common: they have made more mistakes than others. Every failure or error is a disguised opportunity to learn.
“Failure” is a necessary part of the learning process, not its end. In reality, when people make mistakes, they need to adjust their strategies, tactics, and plans in order not to fail.
What do you do when your strategies, tactics, or plans do not lead to the results you want? You change them until you find the ones that give the best results! The fear of failure is a demotivating factor that loses its impact if we reduce its emotional load.
This week, choose a part of your life to permit yourself to “make mistakes” at least ten times. You will need to find your definition of failure: if you work in sales, it means meeting at least ten refusals; if you are a writer, allow yourself to write at least ten miserable pages.
Success is always sweeter when it takes a little effort to reach it. As soon as you realize that failure is not an end, it will lose its negative side. It will become a stepping stone on your path to happiness, success, and well-being.
I learned more from my failures than from my successes. — Richard Branson
7 — Creating Your Future According to Your Beliefs
A question I would like you to answer honestly: If you continue to do so, will you achieve your goal?
To my surprise, most of the people I asked answered, “no.”
One of the most important differences between people who succeed and those who struggle with life is the way they choose to build their future. They are either looking to the past or the present. If you continuously look at the past, you will always feel that history repeats itself; if you look at the present, you will always find new ways to increase your chances of success.
No matter how hard your past was, every moment of the day will give you the chance to make new choices and create better results.
The New Belief Generator
Here is a simple exercise of imagination that will help you adopt new perspectives.
- Choose one of the seven beliefs you have just read that you think will help you truly change the way you live.
- Stop for a moment and imagine that you have another “I” in front of you. It is an “I” that already has that belief you want to have. The new “I” is a confident, motivated person, that you deserve to be loved, and that you vibrate with energy and happiness.
- Now imagine what the other “I” has to gain if he possesses that mindset. Does he feel motivated? Confident? Strong? A successful man?
- Imagine that “I” endlessly demonstrates you the advantages of having such a belief. How does it behave? How does he speak? What tone does he use when talking to himself? What is his posture?
- If it’s not the way you want it to be, make the changes required for you to be happy. Let your intuition guide you!
- When you are satisfied with the other “I,” enter his body. Take over his perspective and behavior.
- Now, think of a situation that you would like to look at from a new perspective. Think wise about this and find a means that can help you to achieve what you desire in life. How will things improve?
- In the coming weeks, act as if your new perspective is valid. Even if you feel like you invented it, it will send your brain the message to put into operation the new “software” of this positive perspective.
When you reap the benefits of using a positive outlook, every day of your life will be a happy one!
All the best! PS: Happiness does not mean continuous enthusiasm, exaltation, butterflies or a permanent smile. Happiness means being pleased with yourself and grateful for what you are and have.
inspired by Paul McKenna’s books
