The top 5 traits (red flags) of a Narcissistic Relationship
Monogamy has been practiced for ages now, it’s a natural need. It is something that has been evolved with our instincts. Luckily we are in a state to be able to find the right partner consciously and experience a beautiful and fulfilling relationship.
We search for an ideal partner who would understand us, who would reciprocate the feelings and love we shower on them, the one who is ready to fight the world for us. But sometimes, we end up fighting the conflicts, dilemmas, and doubts inside our heads, wondering what went wrong.
A relationship with a narcissist can take a toll on your mental health.
Here are the 5 traits that will help you recognize a toxic relationship with a narcissistic partner.
1. The Fast and Furious
We all dream to be with a partner that treats us like a King/Queen. And I bet you would feel the same in the initial stage of your relationship. Your partner will shower you with gifts, love, and compliments and make you believe that you are the one and only they have been waiting for. They would share everything with you and I mean everything. Suddenly their happiness will become your responsibility and the blueprint of a dream future will be presented each time you will try to talk about something practical.
The relationship will get serious at the speed of a Bugatti, from strangers to soulmates in just a few weeks.
It will be more like entering the Narnia through the closet, one moment you were single and struggling to find someone, and BOOM!!! The next moment you are in a serious relationship and planning to move in together.
2. Catch me if you can!
Warning: This relationship may cause confusion and self-doubts! This is where your mind and heart are in constant conflict with each other. Your rational mind will try to show you the warning signs but your emotional heart will give you the benefit of doubt to your partner, advocating for the love and attention you are getting.
You will be having more inner conversations to convince yourself than conversations with your partner. There will be lies, frequent statement changes, reminders of promises that you never made. And any confrontation will only lead you to a state of confusion and self-doubt because there will be no clarification.
“If you can’t convince them, confuse them”
If you are living in a state of confusion then it is not good for your mental health.
3. 50 Shades of grey
Who doesn’t enjoy ecstatic sex in a relationship? But this physical intimacy will be used only as a tool in the relationship with a narcissist.
Every fight will be sorted with sex
The only time you will feel intimate is through intercourse. If the fights and conflicts have become an everyday thing and instead of resolving it by talking you end up having sex, then it is one of the traits that you need to be beware of.
“We fight, we break up; we kiss, we make up”
4. The Guilt Trip
To err is human but if it’s just one of the partners who have to feel guilty for everything that’s happening in the relationship or in a partner’s life then something is wrong.
Guilt is one of the tools used by the narcissistic partner to tame and train you.
They will manipulate you so much so that even the smallest of the events like meeting your friend would make you feel guilty. They will condition you to seek their consent and it will happen in such a smooth way that you will not even realize it. You will succumb to the fear of making them upset.
Well, if you are living in constant guilt of doing something that you used to do and was normal, then it’s the fourth trait of a narcissistic relationship.
5. The Groundhog Day
It was in 1993 when Bill Murray got stuck in an infinite loop of events as per the script. But, what is your excuse to stay in this loop?
Living in a toxic relationship will feel like a loop where you will experience the same things on repeat. You will fight, you will be blamed, you will feel guilty, you will compromise, you will make up and then wonder what is it that you are doing wrong.
On the outside, nothing will be visibly wrong, but your mind will be full of self-doubts and confusion by now.
It can affect your productivity, your self-esteem your self-worth, and your mental health.
We all have been vulnerable in life, we all have craved love, it’s human nature. But to be able to enjoy life, you need to be careful about the choice of partner. Moreover, before loving anyone else learn to love yourself. Self-love will work as the safety net and motivation to cut the cord and get out of the loop of toxicity. These relationships can take a toll on your self-esteem. But you can come out of it and thrive once again, that’s what life is all about.
Choose life and move on, work on yourself, give yourself some time to heal. Learn to love yourself and have compassion for yourself.
Life is to learn, heal, and move on. After all, life deserves to be beautiful.
