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5 Rules for Unicorn Fishing in a Big City

Tips on how to find, catch and hopefully keep this magical creature

To most people, the word ‘unicorn’ immediately triggers images of rainbow-colored, sparkly-uni-horned stuffies. But I’m not most people. I’m not looking for a unicorn that lives in the imaginary world of a child. My Unicorn is all-female. But she’s not only hard to find, she’s even harder to catch and keep.

Unicorn is a term used in the Swinging community to refer to a single female interested in meeting couples for sex

According to Urban Dictionary, Unicorn is a term used in the Swinging community to refer to a single female interested in meeting couples for sex. Unicorns are considered to be rare and mythical creatures.

For years, I’d explored my fantasy by dabbling with women during couples play. This type of exploration is very accepted in the Swinging community. But I’d never gone any further with the idea. Maybe I didn’t think my husband would approve. In reality, I likely didn’t have the sexual confidence to discuss the idea.

But something shifted last summer. I decided that I needed to take charge and find out if I could turn my sexual fantasy into reality. But to reach my goal, I knew I needed a strategy. So I wondered who could teach me? You won’t believe it but the answer that popped into my head was people that trophy fish. Where did that come from? I don’t fish. A bat shit crazy idea I know. But boy was I right.

Searching for an ever-elusive Unicorn is a bit like looking for a trophy fish. You see, like me, Unicorns can be very particular about who they choose to play with. Like trophy fish, they are very cautious. They like deep water and only show themselves when they feel safe. I can relate.

If you ever decide to search for your own Unicorn, here are five rules that worked for me:

Rule #1 Location, Location, Location

I know. Now you can now add Unicorn hunting to this never-ending location list. Unicorns are rare. Think about where you cast your line or net. In my case, I live near a cosmopolitan center with a significant population of open-minded, single women who wear yoga pants.

Rule #2 What Type of Unicorn?

Second, it’s important to determine what type of unicorn you want to catch. In my case, I like smart, funny, educated women. That would be my kind of trophy. She must be able to hold a conversation on a wide range of topics. I’m well-traveled and enjoy food, art, music, and wine. Ideally, she’d be dark-haired and curvaceous. If I found a Unicorn who was interested in building a BFWB relationship, I’d be over the moon.

Rule #3 Use the Right Bait

If you’re looking to catch a trophy unicorn, you have to select your bait strategically. Following this advice, I uploaded a couple of new boudoir photos of me onto a swinger website. Even I’ll admit these photos were smokin’ hot and immediately attracted a lot of attention. If a unicorn starts to nibble on your line, keep calm. Eventually one will bite.

Rule #4 The First Bite

If you’ve followed the first three rules carefully, a Unicorn is bound to bite. When a unicorn does bite, be careful. Breathe. Don’t get too excited. This is the time to be calm, cool, and collected. But time is of the essence. Trophy Unicorns aren’t known for their patience or their attention span. They know they are highly desired, mythical creatures.

Arrange a date preferably later that same week. Assume they’ve been everywhere and done everything. Surprise them by suggesting something simple and old school. In my case, I arranged to meet my raven-haired, voluptuous Unicorn in a secluded area in a large urban park. In advance of our meeting, I set the scene by arranging a blanket, a wicker picnic basket, two wine glasses, and a bottle of French Rosé wine.

As we sipped our wine, my Unicorn leaned over and we shared our first kiss. Wow! It was everything I could have hoped for. Soft lips, gentle touch with a sense of underlying passionate intensity — everything I wanted in my Unicorn.

Rule #5 Carefully Reel Them In

Now that I’d established a connection with my unicorn, I had to begin reeling her in.

A few days later, I invited her over to my house for a picnic lunch on the patio followed by a soak in the hot tub. She took the bait!

After enjoying some food and wine together, we eventually found our way into the hot tub. We shed our clothing and spent a fabulous afternoon exploring each other’s bodies in and out of the hot tub.

A few weeks went by, my Unicorn and I were having a great time together. But then one day my Unicorn suddenly disappeared. My texts and messages went unanswered. I waited another week and still nothing.

Initially, I didn’t understand. We had an incredible connection — intellectually and physically. What happened? I doubt I’ll ever know.

What helped me rationalize her sudden disappearance was to remember fishermen/fisherwomen always tell great tales about the one that got away.

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I’ve had many sexual adventures — mostly good, some average, and some jaw-dropping. As time permits, I hope to share some of them with you, dear reader. As the next chapter of my life as a hotwife unfolds, I invite you to follow me on my journey.

© Belle du Journey, 2021

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