The 5 Changes That Will Make You More Attractive Immediately
Even If You Think You’re Physically Not That Beautiful, Those 5 Will Work!
Here’s the thing: I am the darkest skin among my sisters, and I used to be the ‘ugliest.’ Nowadays, people don’t call me beautiful or ugly; they solely praise how attractive I am.
It wasn’t easy; it wasn’t always nice to hear how you look different and get jokes about how they changed you while your parents weren’t looking in the hospital.
But I survived, and I believe I grew up pretty good -I keep saying this to myself for my self esteem!-.
Here are the top five-piece of advice I received from friends and people who loved me enough to point out my mistakes and tell me how I can draft the focus from my face to my presence and personality:
#1 — Smile More
“You have a face that was born to smile!” — Dr. Ahmad Khalid Tawfik
The first time I realized the power of a smile was during a training camp in Sweden. I spent a full month with total strangers learning about entrepreneurship and how to start and run a successful business.
By the end of the training, we were asked to write small notes to each of the participants with one kind thing they did or something we like about them. To my surprise, 21 out of the 32 letters I received mentioned how amazing my smile was, and how it was contagious to everyone around to smile back. I just landed a revelation of my secret weapon:
SMILING!
Just try it for one day: no matter what happens and no matter how bad. Your day turns out to be, smile, and cheer everyone you meet. Be overly kind and engaging, and be cheerful even when it gets ugly.
For this test to succeed, you need to commit fully. When you go home, I want you to tell me how it feels?
I’m telling you: 50 pounds less. You’ll feel light, empowered, in control, and on top of it, you’ll feel peaceful from inside.
It pays, and pays tremendous;y to be smiling to people. Share the love, and you will get some back. I shared in my story of why I feel my Black friends how a random ticket collector in the Caltrain turned my bad day into a Carnaval of joy by only smiling at me and telling me that he thinks I’m beautiful. Do you see how powerful that was? I am 200% confident this kind of young man received this kindness back triple times in different ways.
There’s one rule that proved to never change about the world:
“What goes around comes back around”
Smile and the world will smile back.
#2 — Put Your Glasses On
No, this is not shallow advice. Actually, the lecturer at Nottingham Trent University, Vanessa Brown, designed a study to study if wearing sunglasses affected how people are perceived.
How did Brown explain this? Sunglasses obscure the eyes, which gives a room of mystery around the wearer and how he/she looks.
Do you remember the old advice of not spelling your gots on the first date, and leaving a room for ambiguity that will make you sexier? This is the scientific explanation of why your sunglasses are your new best friend, even if you hate how they make you see anything. It’s ok, get used to them!
#3 — Pump In Some Adrenaline
It is impressive yet funny how, when you are genuinely happy, you will become immediately more attractive. When we are content and pleasant from the inside, this will shine. Monitor your body and how it reacts to new activities and adrenaline-pumping activities. You will instantly feel happier, more capable, and indestructible.
All those feelings will reflect on your interactions with others, and they will reflect on how you perceive yourself and the people around you. I noticed this when I was younger: The more active I become, the happier I get, and the more attractive to others I will immediately be.
It is magic! People can be attracted for a while for Beautiful, but Joyful wins the long road for a much much longer time.
We can’t be more beautiful, but you can bit; we can hell be more active, and as a result, more attractive.
#4 — Join A Pack
This is surprisingly efficient: a study conducted by the University of California at San Diego asked participants to rate the attractiveness of people in random pictures of the same people in different situations, solo and among a group. The highest ratings went to people appearing among groups.
What does science tell us? as human beings, we are born and raised in communities. Isolation is related in our subconscious to unconfident, unattractive personalities. That explains how we see being among a group as a sign of validation — you are interesting to those who share their time with you. Thus, you are more attractive as a result.
What does this mean to us? Try to join a flock from time to time. This goes a long way for introverts as well: you do have your own pack too. It just happened to be smaller and more selective — use that and crash places like a group of winners enjoying your time.
#5 — Revisit Your Closet
Not as superficial as it may sound, but you need to revisit your closet for two main reasons:
- You need a boost to your confidence. The best way to get a hell of a boost is to go shopping.
- There’s always a better version of our current selves. What does that mean? You can always upgrade your style a nudge.
I am not saying you need to go and spend thousands of dollars on a new bag. I am totally against it because that is money that can be invested in something that brings money back. But love yourself a bit to pamper yourself once.
Remember: you don’t have to be rich to look elegant. Invest enough in 2 pieces that can be matched to more than one outfit, and follow the current trend.
Think of the people you get attracted to: what do they look like? How do they dress up? When not sure, ask your most stylish friends for help. Trust me; people love it when others ask for their sense of fashion!
The One Lesson Needed
I shared the top five changes I applied to become more attractive, but if I needed one thing back then, it was only this:
To love myself
I used to try to change myself, which never worked well, and left me with more resentfulness of myself. When I learned to love myself the way I was born, I stopped trying to change myself. Instead, I started working towards improving myself. This was all I needed to set myself on a revolutionary road of self-awareness.
The bottom line is: Love yourself more, and people will learn to love you as well.
Remember: You are beautiful and attractive, just the way you are!