The 5 Big Assets Men Think Women Want Vs. Reality
Reality is easier to get!
1. A big penis
I have this friend who has a big penis. How do I know? Because he told me. He also told everybody else. You think he was lying? Nah. He also showed me pictures.
He also wanted to have a T-shirt made with the words ‘I have a big d***’ splattered across the front.
I cringed.
“Please don’t do that”, I said. “Women don’t care. And if you do it, they will start caring and stop talking to you. Please,” I begged.
He did it anyway and went out. Came back home an hour later to change his T-shirt. Women were giving him weirded-out looks and pitiful laughs.
Guys, you need to know that it’s not women who are obsessed with the size of your manhood. It’s a guy thing. We like it average and so many studies proved it.
A big penis is like an ice cream elephant: it looks good, but it’s useless. Nobody can eat that much ice cream. Its only value is the shock factor.
2. Big muscles
I see some guys at the gym flashing some huge guns. And I mean humongous, something that seems fabricated in Dr. Evil’s Superhuman Muscularity Labs.
I’ve known a lot of women who frowned at that and said that’s way too much.
It’s not to say that women don’t like muscles. But they like them in normal proportions. They like natural growth. Which is great news for the men who think they need to look like Johnny Bravo to impress some ‘hot sexy momma’.
You really don’t need to do that. You don’t need to make the gym your home and protein powder your breakfast of choice. Women choose healthy over-pumped in the vast majority of cases.
If you don’t believe me, read this article here and you will find out what women want a man to look like.
3. A big attitude
Despite popular opinion in the manosphere, women don’t like arrogant, rude, noisy, or overbearing. Women like confidence! And confidence is none of the above. It’s assertive, positive, and self-possessed.
Don’t mistake one for the other. It will keep you lonely and miserable for a long time.
One of my clients was a man who apparently had everything other men want. He was handsome, owned 2 very successful construction companies that made him a lot of money, and dated a lot of drop-dead gorgeous women.
Guys were coming to him asking for advice on how to get girls. He always told them this: “I’m confident but not rude. I treat her like a human being no matter how much I want her. And I know I can’t get everybody I want. Nobody can.”
His advice was gold. So were his results. He applied this to love and business and it worked for both.
4. A big pedestal
Stop putting women on a pedestal. Unless she’s a narcissist, she won’t like that. Being idealized and treated like a superior being that constantly needs to be praised and complimented is boring at best.
Unfortunately, a lot of men that crave a woman’s attention know no other way to get close to her than pay her a million compliments and do everything she wants.
They are the good guys who never get the girl.
Women know you’re doing all that just to get into their pants. And even if she didn’t, positioning yourself as an inferior who bends over backward for her every whim doesn’t sit well with most women. The same goes for a jerk up in his self-entitled superiority, who puts himself on the pedestal.
Because women are looking to connect and real connection can only happen with an equal.
Sure, being a simp can get you a narcissist, and being a jerk can get you a woman with no self-esteem. But I bet you don’t really want those.
5. A big wallet
A lot of men are convinced women are materialistic and only after their money. And to prove themselves right, they’ll find a girl who would only date them if they flash an expensive watch, a shiny car, and designer shoes.
If you advertise that you’re all about the money, what do you expect?
You’ll find someone who is also all about the money.
A lot of women wouldn’t even look at someone who’s always talking about how much money he has or what fancy car he drives because they find that superficial and they’re looking for somebody they can share something more with.
My friend Clara was dating this guy who was practically penniless. He came from a very poor family and couldn’t afford to take her out anywhere or buy her anything. But he had the most beautiful green eyes and he was a hard worker. Five years later they are married and he has started a successful career as a dentist. He is now the main provider in the home. Clara saw that in him from the start.
She, like most women, cared that he invested in himself and his future. That’s what women really want.
Some men are busy showing off yachts that they don’t even own to impress a woman who is only interested in taking a selfie on some yacht to impress other shallow friends.
Other men know better: they work on their dreams, they know what they want, and they don’t base their success with women on the advice of some pick-up artist living in his mom’s basement.
Be smart. Stop making rookie mistakes. Lead with your good assets, not your big assets.
You’ll see an amazing difference. You have the power. Use it!
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