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The web content provides insights into the common mistakes men make in interactions with women, advising against unsolicited touch, emotional manipulation, and expecting traditional gender roles in relationships.

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The article titled "The 3 Big Don’ts That Make Women Avoid You Like The Plague" emphasizes the importance of respecting women's boundaries, particularly when it comes to physical touch. It criticizes the advice given by some male pick-up artists who encourage men to initiate physical contact to gauge a woman's interest. The content underscores that women often feel discomfort and even fear when men they are not intimately involved with touch them without consent. The author, Mona Lazar, suggests that building genuine intimacy through communication and mutual interest is more effective than physical advances. Furthermore, the article debunks the myth that women prefer men who treat them poorly, pointing out that such behavior is emotionally abusive and attracts women with unhealthy relationship patterns. Lastly, it addresses the changing dynamics in modern relationships, highlighting that both men and women should contribute equally, including providing emotional support and not just financial stability. The text advocates for a balanced approach to dating where individuals bring value to each other's lives without reinforcing harmful stereotypes.

Opinions

Unwanted physical touch from men is a severe issue that makes women uncomfortable and is an ineffective seduction strategy.
The idea that women are attracted to jerks is a misconception; such relationships are often rooted in emotional abuse and are unhealthy.
Men should not expect to be treated as the prize in a relationship, as this perpetuates outdated gender roles.
Modern relationships require equal effort from all parties, including emotional support, financial contribution, and mutual respect.
Building intimacy should be based on mutual attraction and trust, not on physical proximity or manipulative behavior.
The belief that men should be wined, dined, and catered to without reciprocity is outdated and a turn-off for many women.
Men who fail to adapt to contemporary, egalitarian relationship expectations may find themselves isolated and dissatisfied.

The 3 Big Don’ts That Make Women Avoid You Like The Plague

And for good reason. But they’re easy to fix.

Touch is hot until it’s not.

I was severely put off by how many male pick-up artists advise men to try and touch women. Just get close to her, get closer and closer. See if she likes you too.

Apart from the fact that it’s a disgusting strategy, it’s also a huge mistake

And men have been doing that for a long time, with very poor results.

I’m going to tell you something that all women know, but they keep to themselves: women don’t want men to touch them. Women cringe when men touch them without invitation and consent.

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Of course, I’m not referring to her boyfriend or husband, obviously that man is allowed to touch her and she welcomes his touch.

I’m referring to all the men who try and touch women for whatever made-up reasons.

Women hate that! They hate when you guide them by the small of their back, when you accidentally touch her hip when walking side by side, when you rub against her in a crowded space, just because there is no more room but to brush your genitals against her behind.

Entering women’s personal space is dangerous to women, and it feels like unwanted intimacy.

Of course, women learned to not say anything about it and gently move away or excuse themselves and leave the area, but I am telling you that’s how they feel.

And teaching men to try and touch women to assess their level of attraction to you is a very bad idea. Even if she is attracted to you, she’s going to jump (at least internally) at you suddenly touching her. And there’s a strong possibility that she’ll start disliking you because you entered her personal space before she opened the door for you.

So what are you supposed to do? Wait for her to open the door. See if she doesn’t move away when you are close to her. Build intimacy. Talk. Look into her eyes.

If you seduce her mind, the body will follow. But I said it before and I’ll say it again: you can’t touch a woman into wanting you. That’s not how women’s bodies (or minds work). Touching her out of context and before you’re in an intimate relationship is a huge no.

And again: if you ask her out you’ll learn if she’s interested in you or not. Stop looking for cryptic clues.

Treat them mean, they leave the scene.

There’s a lot of misinformation out there about how women like jerks and nice guys are friend-zoned by entitled women who have it in their genes to be treated like scum. I don’t know how you can be both entitled and want to be treated badly, but I’ll just entertain the idea for the sake of proving it wrong.

I’m not going to lie either: treat them mean and keep them keen will get you some women, but not the ones you want. It works on men too, but again — not the ones you want.

And there’s a trick to this: you can’t treat them mean from the start or they will run. That’s why they say you attract more flies with honey than with vinegar. People who treat them mean today, have treated them like queens in the beginning, that’s how they got them hooked in the first place.

The women who are attracted to a man treating them badly are not exactly emotionally healthy women. And that attitude of treating her like shit just to keep her hung up on you is called emotional abuse.

If you’re ok with it please stop reading this article and go make an appointment with a therapist.

Treating somebody poorly to get them addicted to you works on women who have deep trauma and their caregivers probably treated them the same way. They imagine that’s what love really looks like.

But think about it like this: if she doesn’t know what healthy love looks like, she won’t be able to offer you any healthy love either.

Your relationship will be devastating for both parties. And if one day this woman falls out of love with you and she notices what you’ve been doing to her, you better beware.

Because she’s going to give you back all the pain she endured from you.

And believe me, she will find a way.

Wined and dined, not 69ed.

You hear more and more social media chatter about how men want to be treated like women these days. They want to be the princesses, they want to be pampered and taken care of.

They want to be wined, dined, and 69ed. Scratch that last one, they always wanted that.

Basically, a lot of people of all genders are complaining that men are now behaving like they’re the prize.

Excuse me, but is that really something new? Hasn’t that always been the case?

When women were financially dependent on men, weren’t they the ones who were doing all the housework, all the child-raising, all the cooking, the cleaning, the massages, and the ego-fluffing of the man of the house?

Some (a lot, actually!) are still doing that.

The idea is that there was a time when men were making all the money. And women were doing everything else, including all the emotional support roles in the relationship, which is no easy task.

But today women can and do make their own money, and they also perform all the other roles. This means some people in this equation are not pulling their own weight. That’s a huge turn-off for the people on the other side, who are doing all the work.

Women and men are now in a position where they have to be able to perform all roles if they want to be in a healthy relationship. They all need to be able to make money, raise the children, have soft skills.

Women learned how to make the money, but men didn’t learn how to do the emotional support. Those men are slowly left behind.

Not wined, not dined, and especially not 69ed.

You can see those men in incel forums, arguing about how women are ungrateful and entitled, you can see them following a bald and angry god who is leading them toward the precipice, and you see them sad, bitter, and lonely, unable to adapt to a modern, more equalitarian world.

If you don’t want women to avoid you like the plague, you need to bring value to their world. Value means an easier and more pleasant life. Are you the one to lift her up or tear her down?