The 10 Commandments of Dating!
Rules that men must follow while dating
People tend to look at dating sort of like a safari — like they’re trying to land the trophy.
Now, I’m no prophet, like Moses, and God did not speak to me directly to write these 10 commandments. With that being said, I know from personal experience that there are do’s and don’ts that should be followed by every man while going out on a date.
These are non-negotiables and failing to adhere to these rules could cost you a future date or relationship.
It’s become evident the dating game has changed. Most of the meeting places start online, as opposed to a bar/club or other public venues. This was trending Pre-Covid, but the pandemic has forced more people to seek companionship online.
Other changes in the dating game have been made as well, such as pre-qualifying your dates. With online dating, you can ask questions to your potential suitors to find out if they are to your liking.
The actual date still has to take place in person and that is where the fun begins. Follow these rules before your next date.
10. Thou shalt have a plan
Without having a plan, you will find yourself lost on a date. You should know exactly what you’re going to do, and where you will end up. Your planning will eliminate any potential surprises that can arise during your date.
9. Thou shalt always remain calm
Sometimes dates are going to fail. Everybody is not compatible and when you experience a poor date, it’s important to remain calm and in control. Talking down to your date, or taking to social media to go on a rant is not productive and not worth your time. Learn from the situation and do not allow It to get you frustrated.
8. Thou shalt always take hints
We men, sometimes struggle with taking hints. Try to pay attention to the verbal and non-verbal signals from your date. The ability to take hints can tell you whether it’s appropriate to go in for the kiss or remove yourself from the date as soon as possible.
7. Thou shalt bring protection on the 1st date
Even if sex is not in your plans for the date, it’s better to be safe than sorry. You might find yourself in a situation where you wish you had protection. Many disciplined men have failed to control themselves and give in to their urges. When this happens, make sure you are strapped up.
6. Thou shalt not lie about yourself or your accomplishments
Lying on a date should never be a part of your plan. It will always come back to bite you. Even before the date starts and you are meeting in person or online, it’s important to be truthful about yourself. Believe in who you are and if that is not enough for her, find someone excited to date you for who you are.
5. Thou shalt not be late
If you don’t want to give your date a bad 1st impression, make sure you are not late! Showing up late, especially on the 1st date is disrespectful and immature. You should have already planned the date and meeting place, so I would advise you to get there early. This will allow you to know your surrounding areas if you plan to move to another location, after the initial meeting.
4. Thou shalt practice good hygiene
Shower, brush your teeth, put on deodorant, and all the necessities for good hygiene. It’s always important to make sure you are looking and smelling good. Get in a good shave, or at least groom your facial hair before your date. When you look your best, you will feel your best and those are both confidence boosters.
3. Thou shalt listen and engage in conversation
If you are going to get a 2nd date, your conversational skills have to be on point. We often fail to listen during our dates. While it’s important to talk and lead the conversation, you also need to listen to what she is telling you.
From there, you can ask more questions, or give your opinion on what she has told you. Don’t be the guy who goes on and on about his accomplishments without being asked. It will only make you look cocky and self-absorbed.
2. Thou shalt not talk in detail about your ex!
If your date specifically asks about a previous relationship, it’s ok to give her a summary. Talk about how you have grown and what lessons you learned. Never, talk in detail about your likes and dislikes of an ex. Down the road, there will be time to share more information but during the date, you should be focused on the present and the future, instead of your past.
1. Thou shalt be masculine
Do not be afraid to make the 1st move when the signs are there. Failing to do so will keep you from having success with women. You also should take control of the date and make decisions during it.
Even small things, such as choosing where to sit at a restaurant and speaking up when addressing others will go a long way with your date. Your masculine energy will always be received positively, so don’t be afraid to be a man. Chivalry is still alive, so it’s still a good idea to open doors for your date.
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