Tell me how you react; I will tell you which destiny you deserved

Our choices will always define who we are to become!

Everything is and will always be about our choices. I am referring here to people who had the chance to be born in rich countries.

Everybody has dreams or dreams about their future. So why do so few people live their dream lives?

Many people will blame life itself — their lack of chance.

We had an unexpected baby, I lost my job, was not born into a good family, was injured, had an accident, and the list goes on.

Let me tell you a story about that choice!

At 18 years old, I knew exactly what I wanted to have in life, and before my 30th birthday, my wife at the time and I had a family, were self-sufficient money-wise, and had a house and a healthy business.

Unfortunately and fortunately, everything collapsed soon after, like a castle of cards. Divorce, moved to another house, lost my business, and so, and so.

I became lost and errant for about the five subsequent years until, one day, I had a clash. Someone found me. That person saw my potential and pushed me to get back on my feet. I was saved from my loneliness and wandered life.

You see, during that period, I had exactly what I deserved; because of how I chose to react to my misfortune.

I now understand that I will never have complete control over my life. Anything can happen, and it can snap you in the face at any moment without warning. Be aware!

Harder the slap, the bigger the rebirth after. But only if you keep an open mind and heart.

When the time is right, when we are ready, we can see all the opportunities coming through. We must learn the lesson first. To understand the WHY to have a clearer view of the HOW for the future.

Here is another story I’ve experienced that helped me finally decide to change my «Yes man guy» mindset.

I always loved luxury stuff — mostly watches, pens, and shoes.

There was a time when I started making money; I didn’t wear them because of the people in my entourage. I wasn’t ready to feel their eyes upon me — Upon who I was becoming.

Was I ashamed? No, Not at all. Only, I didn’t want them to have evil eyes on me. Jealousy and envy can genuinely hurt. Also, I felt bad for them not to have that chance, so I diminished myself to stay at their level.

Then, one day, I understood that I wasn’t in the right circles of people anymore. Not that they were bad people, I wanted more of my life, and they could not help me get there.

Again, I had exactly what I deserved. I felt all the time bad when meeting my friends. That was why it was harder to get to the next level until I decided to change.

We all have relationships from which we take and give good things. Unfortunately, from time to time, we need to make changes if we want to grow, and it is not always an easy thing to do.

The best thing I have ever learned until now is to keep my mouth shut!

To be silent about everything happening in my life is the best way to succeed. Stop telling your good or bad shuts. Never tell your dream to anyone but the ones who will share that dream with you. Otherwise, it will never come to life.

It is a sad truth I used to struggle a lot with. I’ve learned that even your closest friends and relatives can stop you from succeeding in the pursuit of your dreams.

A crab placed alone in a bucket will quickly climb out and escape. Still, when you put it with a few of its mates, this interesting phenomenon occurs; One at a time, as the crabs try to escape, others will pull them back down to their misery and the group’s collective demise.

If you want to reach your goals and make your dream life come true, just shut up.

Stop and control your excitement.

For example, every time and, I say, every time, I talked about how great my past month was, mostly about incomes, money stops coming in. For any reason, everything happened to slow my business.

It is hard not to share our dreams, thoughts and goals with our loved ones but trust me, the sooner you learn not to, the better your success will be.

What about your career, though?

As Gary Vaynerchuk once said in a speech:

People accept to stay in a job where they are not happy but which pays well because they are not willing to live in a more humble home or drive a more modest car, so they have a miserable job just to pay for shit that they have just to impress people they don’t even like!

Ouf! Right on the spot! Harsh a bit but, unfortunately, a truth.

It is not so easy to quit a job we don’t genuinely like, mainly if we have been there for many years. The insecurity sentiments take over very soon after just having thought of quitting.

Also, how do you react to injustice, bullying, rat schemes and all other kinds of those destructive behaviours? Do you just let go, close your ears and move on, or are you acting on it?

I found that many people these days have just not enough respect for themselves, so they do not have respect for others, and you know what the worst part of it is, they ask you for respect. Wow! Have I missed something here?

You can see what someone can or will become just by looking at how ones behave at work and how ones are working.

Final thought

There is only one way to live a great and fulfilled life:

Be true to yourself, always and in any circumstances!