Sudden Vasectomy Rush Reveals Ugly Side to (Some) Men

Summary

The article discusses the surge in vasectomies following the overturning of Roe v. Wade, highlighting the problematic attitudes of some men towards reproductive responsibility.

Abstract

The recent influx of men seeking vasectomies post the Roe v. Wade reversal has been met with skepticism by the author, Michelle Teheux. She argues that these men, who could have taken this step at any time, were previously content to rely on their partners to manage contraception or seek abortions. Teheux points out the biological imbalance in reproductive labor, emphasizing that women bear the brunt of pregnancy and childbirth. She criticizes the notion that some men have taken abortion as a given, only considering a vasectomy when abortion became less accessible. The article suggests that men should take responsibility for contraception and not rely on their partners or abortion services, framing vasectomy as a fair contribution to family planning and a sign of love and respect for one's partner.

Opinions

The author believes that men who are now seeking vasectomies in response to the Roe v. Wade reversal are doing so out of self-interest rather than a genuine sense of responsibility or care for their partners.
Teheux implies that a vasectomy is a minor inconvenience compared to the physical and emotional toll of pregnancy, childbirth, and abortion, and that it is a reasonable expectation for men to share in the responsibility of contraception.
She criticizes the double standard where women are expected to undergo more complex and risky procedures like tubal ligation or endure the side effects of contraception, while men have historically avoided permanent contraceptive methods.
The author suggests that the sudden interest in vasectomies among some men is not a sign of them stepping up, but rather a reaction to the loss of a convenient fallback option (abortion).
Teheux emphasizes that men should not take abortion for granted and should actively participate in contraception if they do not wish to have children or more children.
She asserts that men who refuse to get a vasectomy under normal circumstances but are compelled to do so after the abortion ban may not align with her definition of a "good guy."

Let’s break this down.

As I’ve written before, women already do all the heavy reproductive lifting. That’s not anybody’s fault; it’s biology.

Mother Nature was not a feminist: “Let’s see. The dude will be in charge of having an orgasm. She will carry the baby for nine months, undergo around 12 hours of labor and then breastfeed for an extended period of time. That seems like a fair division of labor to me.”

And then Mother Nature thought about it some more and added: “And I think I’ll make it work so that it doesn’t matter whether she has an orgasm at all. She can actually hate it and still get pregnant.”

If a good guy thinks about this very much, he comes to a few conclusions: “Hmm. It’s going to take a lot of stress, pain, fatigue and hard work for my partner to produce and feed our children. Her body will change forever in so many ways.”

The guy thinks about it a little bit more and adds: “I think when we’re all done having kids, it’s only fair that I submit to a pretty quick, cheap and easy procedure with little recovery time rather than expect her to have to undergo a more involved tubal or keep dealing with contraception or possibly have an unintended pregnancy.”

But instead, apparently, this was the thought process of an awful lot of men: “If she messes up her birth control and gets pregnant, no problem. She’ll just have an abortion. Easy-peasy.”

And then the man heard about the Roe reversal and said, “Wait, what? She might not be able to have an abortion? But what about me wanting to ejaculate inside her but not wanting any/any more kids?”

And for the first time, these guys felt they might need to do one thing more than just continue to have orgasms inside their partners. They might need to have a vasectomy!

Women, if your man is all of a sudden hot to get a snip when he didn’t want one before, just think about what his thought process has been.

No, it’s not that men are finally stepping up.

It’s that some of them refused to do so until they felt forced into it.

They wouldn’t do it out of a sense of responsibility or out of caring for their partners. They were content to leave everything up to their partners until their partners were going to be (in some states) legally required to give birth to any baby they conceived.

That doesn’t fit my definition of a good guy.

P.S.: Guys, abortion isn’t easy-peasy and you should never have taken it for granted that women would just do it. If you don’t want any kids or don’t want any more kids, be a decent human being and get a snip.

About Michelle Teheux

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