DEFINING SUCCESS

Success Is 99% What Mainstream Media Won’t Show You

Even the 1% that they do show you, that shouldn’t be seen as the ultimate success

Tell me if this sounds or feels familiar to you. You take your phone, open up Instagram or TikTok, and you start scrolling, watching videos, and seeing pictures of people that you follow.

You see them taking a holiday in some fancy hotel by the beach or up in the mountains, and eating at posh restaurants which can cost a few thousand dollars just for a meal.

You see them driving around in cars that if you had the money to buy them, you would have the money to feed entire villages.

After about an hour or two, you finally stop scrolling and put your phone away.

Now, you’re most likely feeling a bit shitty about yourself as you sit down in your living room and stare around you.

You think to yourself, “Why can’t I have a life like those people? Why can’t I be as successful as them?”

And the rest of your day goes downhill because you feel like a failure.

Sounds familiar?

If it does, just know that you’re not alone. There are so many others out there who feel just like you do.

I was the same too — up until the middle of this year.

Until I realised that I already am successful.

And not just myself, but millions of others out there who felt just like I did — they too are already successful, they just haven’t realised it yet.

Here’s why I say so.

If you woke up this morning on a nice comfy bed, were able to brush your teeth, take a nice shower, have a nice cup of coffee or tea, and have your breakfast, then you’re successful.

If you were able to do that with your family like your parents, your spouse, and your kids, then you’re even more successful.

Success shouldn’t be measured by the title on your name card, the level of your office floor, or the type of car that you drive.

That’s just what mainstream media has always been feeding you about success — that you need to be in a certain position within your company, earning a certain amount of money, owning a certain type of house, or driving a certain type of car (brand, model, etc.)

Why? Because all those things will cost you as well. It will force you to spend.

Holding a manager-level position or higher? You’re gonna have to dress the part — a nice suit with a matching tie and shoes.

Are you the CEO of a company? You can’t possibly be living in a small 1-bedroom apartment then, that just won’t do. You’re gonna need a penthouse and be chauffeured around in a car that’s worth at least half a million dollars.

That’s what success should look like right?

Well, if that is your definition of success, then by all means, go for it.

But for many, it isn’t.

Because even when they’ve reached that stage, they still have that feeling of emptiness within them.

When you think about achieving success, what usually comes to mind?

It’s usually about feeling happy, feeling satisfied, feeling proud, and feeling pleased with yourself, right?

But mostly, it’s all about feeling happy.

And you’d be surprised as to how many people who are in the c-suite level who are not happy.

You may be shaking your head in disbelief after reading that.

Why would anyone who is a c-suite level professional not be happy? The authority and money that comes with that level, many can only dream of. That level of ‘success’ is what so many aspiring professionals aim for at the start of their careers.

That’s what I thought too.

You would have heard of this saying before;

I’d rather cry in a Mercedes than cry on a bicycle.

Which really is to imply that the most important thing is that you have money, screw the rest.

It doesn’t matter if you’re happy or not, what matters most is that you have money.

But the real question you should be asking is, why would you even want to cry in a Mercedes? Would you rather cry in a Mercedes or be laughing on a bicycle?

Again, you’d be surprised as to how many within the c-suite level would pick the latter.

While money is important (and it will always be important), it isn’t THE most important thing.

What really matters is whether you’re happy or not. That should be the measure of your success, not the amount of money that you make.

Personally for me, being able to come home to my wife and kids every single day, being able to spend time with them, have meals with them, play with them, that for me, is being successful.

It’s not to say that I won’t keep trying to get a bigger paycheque or try to make more money.

But for me, that’s no longer the measure of my success in life.

I’m already successful in life. And for me, sustaining that success means I’m able to keep spending time with them, being able to be present in their lives, and just being able to provide for them.

And, I’m to be honest, most of you would already be doing the same thing as well.

Most of you would already be successful.

But you won’t see this being mentioned on mainstream media because it just won’t make industries money, would it?

If it’s not luxurious, if it’s not money related, it’s just not considered success in mainstream media.

Again, it’s fine to go out and buy the luxuries that you can afford. It’s fine to strive to hit a financial level that will enable you to buy anything you could ever want in life.

Just don’t let that define your level of success.

Because what you may already have in your life right now, you may already be the most successful person in the world.

And if you’re happy with how things are in your life despite maybe not being at the financial or corporate level you may want to be, that’s already success achieved on your end.

Not many are as lucky to feel happy or contended with their life.

Chances are, you are already one of the lucky ones who does feel happy and contended with your life — which will actually push and enable you to strive for more (should you want it).

So believe it or not, you may already be successful.

And if you are, I hope you’re able to stay that way.