The truth about anger

Stop Treating Anger as Your Enemy

It can be your best friend if you allow it to be.

Those spiritual gurus tell you not to acknowledge your “negative” emotions, such as anger, though they are as human as “positive” emotions, such as happiness.

However, let me tell you something. These “spiritual gurus” really have no idea what they are talking about because they toss in so much toxic positivity and spiritual bypassing at you that they gaslight you into believing positivity is the only way to be.

It is dangerous to suppress any “negative” emotion because these emotions are signaling something to you that there is an imbalance, your boundaries are being crossed, and injustices are happening to you. And anger is one of those emotions that is dangerous to suppress.

Anger Is a Normal Reaction to Any Boundary Invasion or Injustice Happening to You

How are you supposed to react when someone attempts to cross your boundaries, such as asking questions you have made clear you will not answer?

How are you supposed to react to those you trusted once only to find out they betrayed you? Even when it comes to someone cutting the line you are waiting in right in front of you, how are you supposed to react?

Are you supposed to be zen when you are being violated? No, as the normal reaction to those things is being angry.

It would not be normal if you weren’t angry, and that is why it is essential to ignore any so-called spiritual guru who tells you to suppress any anger you feel because it is “negative,” and it will “lower your vibration.” Fuck that.

You absolutely need to honor your anger.

However, the key is to utilize your anger constructively and not in a destructive way. That means not allowing your anger to destroy property, injure someone else, or do something else you may regret.

It may be tempting to punch the one who betrayed your trust in the face or key their car, but that is where you would be misusing your anger.

And that is how negativity develops. Instead, you need to see anger as an opportunity to do something positive while protecting yourself and advocating for others who have been hurt or affected the same way you did by someone else’s actions, causing your anger.

If you can use anger constructively, you will see it can be your best friend! Let’s talk about how anger can be your best friend and how it can help you win!

Using Anger Will Help You Set Firm Boundaries

If someone violates you in any way, your anger is a sure way to make them realize they made a mistake. However, destroying their property, injuring them, or even name-calling will not solve the problem they caused you.

You need to confront them matter-of-factly by explaining what they did wrong and what consequences you face for their actions.

They may not care, and you cannot expect them to care. However, the one thing that they will do is leave you alone if you make it clear how serious you are about not letting them violate you again.

And if they don’t leave you alone, you can always threaten them by getting the authorities involved, as that will keep them away for good.

Either way, if you make it clear that you are not tolerating their treatment of you again, you are making your boundaries clear, and anger has a great way of helping you earnestly convey your boundaries

Anger Can Be the Best Form of Self-Care and Self-Protection

Think about how setting boundaries is one of the best forms of self-care. Anger will propel you to set boundaries as long as you are open to acknowledging your anger and not allowing it to sit in and fester (which is something that these so-called spiritual gurus don’t consider when they tell you to suppress it).

Also, if someone attempts to keep violating you after an initial warning, then anger will get you to get the authorities involved if it comes to that.

That is because you are being threatened, and your anger protects you from threats.

You don’t call the cops for the fun of it, as you do it to protect yourself and those you care about from any threat, and anger is the reason you would have to go down that road in the first place.

Anger Can Turn You Into an Excellent Advocate

You may be angry over an issue that not only affects you but affects so many others, such as society not taking mental illness as seriously as it should, for example. That will make one who suffers from mental illness angry.

What will that anger do? It will inspire the one who suffers from mental illness to advocate by writing and talking about it to bring more awareness into the world so there is more understanding about it.

And if you communicate in ways that will be receptive to others, such as keeping any name-calling at bay and bringing out essential points that no one can dispute, you will have a great chance of being heard.

You cannot be a good advocate if you are always zen. You also will not protect yourself, care for yourself, or set boundaries if you are zen all the time.

Sometimes, you need that anger to keep you safe, healthy, and protected. If you use it right, anger can be your best friend.

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