Stop saying those 7 sentences if you want to be happier

There are many things you want to do in one life. But to want to succeed, it is easy to get lost in the idea of doing too much. More trips, more money, more experiences, more books, more relationships and so on.

You focus so much on these external aspects, that perhaps you do not pay too much attention to the habits that matter the most. What you say and think is, in fact, more important than what you do. The words you utter daily have a huge impact on the decisions you end up making.

1. “I have to solve this problem” Think about what you feel about saying this sentence. First of all, you feel compelled because you said you have to do something — which makes it more likely that you are rebellious and do nothing. Secondly, you have called your situation a problem, and you have compartmentalized some of your life in a box. Well hidden. So that’s something you have to fight. A problem is never a “problem” — it is a challenge. Think about how powerful this word is. With a problem, your chest tightens, and you tend to hide. With a challenge, you instantly feel energized to take action to move forward — to succeed.
2. “I can not wait” This statement seems to be the kind of thing that will make you feel excited. But do not you see that by looking forward to another point, you are telling yourself that this present moment is not as good as it could be? So you sacrifice your life for an imaginary scenario that has no reality of its own. You can let a vision of the future inspire you, as long as it does not devalue the current moment. Be careful with “I can not wait. “
3. I’m tired We say that often when we try to do something we do not really want to do. What does this statement bring to anyone? Nothing really. In fact, it makes you more tired just by saying it. A better way to handle the situation when you feel tired is to accept it, and then do something that better matches your energy level.
4. “Why did I do that? “ After making a mistake, this question can be constructive. It can enable us to discern the intentions behind our actions. If we get stuck on this issue, then we can fall into a spiral of self-hatred and guilt. The best question that should be asked is, “How can I make sure I do not make the same mistake?
5. “I wish I did not feel what I feel” In his book, The Subtle Art of Fuck It — Mark Manson suggests that: “Accepting a negative situation is a positive experience. The desire for a positive experience is in itself a negative experience. “. The moment you resist the way you feel is when you intensify these feelings.
6. “It’s not my fault” Whenever you blame someone or something for your current situation, you let go of your power. You reject the present and you throw yourself into victimization. While you are not responsible for the cards you have drawn, the way you play them is entirely your responsibility.
7. “I wonder what they think” It’s not your job to worry about what others will think. The only thing you can do is to be genuine, and leave the rest to their free choice. You only have to worry about yourself when you intend to share something with someone.