Is Living Life in The Hypothetical Poisoning Your Relationships
Every negative projection is another scoop of dirt on your coffin
Think of things this way…
You’re shortchanging yourself if anything is going wrong and you start to worry about what will happen or what might happen instead of just living and enjoying what is happening right now in this very moment, even though at the moment it may seem bad to you.
For example;
If you have a loved one that has a terminal disease, such as cancer, and you’re worried sick and overwhelmingly sad that it might be their last year on planet earth. For one, you’re not going to fully enjoy that last year you have with them because, on your part, you have your worry, stress, anxiety, and negative anticipation to contend with as well as the disease itself, on their part.
Here’s a switch in mindset,…
If you stop worrying about the What “Ifs” and just enjoy the What “Is”, right here and right now, by doing that you’ll take out all the obstacles so you can live that last year as best as possible for everyone involved.
If it’s going to happen, worrying doesn’t prolong the inevitable.
Yes, this would be tragic news and a little setback, deserving of deep thought and some extra planning, but my point is if you look at the facts, accept the truths and readjust to them, you can…
- Get control of your emotions instead of letting your emotions control you.
- Do whatever you can inside of your abilities to make life a bit more comfortable for everyone involved.
- Keep a good attitude and move forward despite your circumstances.
- Don’t let your attitude falter because of your circumstances.
- Develop the skills to move ahead of the situation with positive anticipation.
You might be thinking,… How am I supposed to remain positive when I’m witnessing my loved one suffering?
Let’s look at this in two separate lights.
- Everyone is sad and miserable because their loved one is suffering… This makes the loved one feel burdened by seemingly causing everyone this universal grief, which snowballs into more grief. Mental issues cause physical problems, this is a fact. I won’t add a link because if you google it, you most certainly won’t have a shortage of things to read about on this subject. The point… Your added reactionary stress, worry, anxiety, grief, sadness, etc. will only make things worse and quite possibly shorten the timeframe you have with your loved one.
- Everyone makes it a point to be positive and joyful because the situation itself and the attitude you choose to have, are two completely separate issues. This does not mean that you are happy about the situation, it simply means you choose to be happy despite the situation. The point… Your upbeat attitude and positive demeanor will only make things better by setting the pace for everyone else in the room and, on the contrary, quite possibly prolong the time they have left because of the more intentionally positive mood.
Now, there is no way to predict the future and for all you know, they may live another 10 years, and you will have spent that 10 years worried and stressed that every one of them might be the last,… or you can be in a place that rests in the fact that you can’t change when the end is anyway so you might as well make the best of it when or until it actually does happen.
Just enjoy what you have right here, right now.
- Make the best of each situation.
- Push forward.
- Don’t dwell in the past, or worry about the future.
- Live right now, and live to the best of your abilities.
- Always move forward.
I’m not downplaying any tragedy and I didn’t say that it wouldn’t be hard or trying at times, but if you fall prey to letting your weaker human side get the best of you, as we all do from time to time,… leave the room, readjust, regain your composure and get back in the game with a smile.
Don’t think for a second that because you have a smile on your face and a good attitude, that means that somehow you’re happy about the situation.
Let me say it again, your attitude and any given circumstance, are two completely separate entities deserving of two completely separate attitudes.
Meaning you don’t have to be happy about the event but you can be happy, separate from that event.
Rise above your circumstances and play on a field that chooses to intentionally respond positively to life’s little surprises and defy the normal negative reactions that some choose to blindly reside in.
Live life until there is no life left to live.
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