Mental Health
Stop Feeling Guilty for Trying To Relax
Here is what to fix instead
For many centuries it was normal to work 12 hours a day, even on a Saturday.
Technical & social progress has changed that forever. All because people today sit at their laptop on a Sunday and “hustle.”
Last night I had a battle. Primarily self-employed & people with a side-hustle know such a struggle. I still wanted to work, but somehow not. It was late, and I did a lot — but the ideals of hustle culture kept me awake.
Instagram stories of people posting they were still working pushed me — not in a positive sense. Not in an “I can do this,” but in an “I have to do this” mindset. I lost the battle. My health may have won it.
Around 9 PM, I decided just to read a book and go to sleep. I had a hard time with the decision — I don’t have to explain that working all the time is unhealthy. But I also realized something more important: The way we are productive is a bottomless pit.
“Hustling” is pure ideology.
I don’t think that people are more materialistic today. Sure, some people like expensive cars, watches, and clothes. But, if it’s not about that, what drives so many to work hard?
Posting on Instagram that you’re working is obviously irrational (and a bit cringe-worthy). It costs time, probably doesn’t bring you anything, and no one cares. I suspect many people are only interested in appearing productive.
“Is your productivity really an end?” — that’s the question I’m increasingly asking myself. Productivity should achieve a specific goal. There are two principles everyone should know.
The minimum-principle tries to achieve a goal with as little effort as possible.
The maximum-principle tries to achieve the highest possible goal with the maximum effort.
Both principles have their justification. But what I often see is that both get mixed up.
I call it the hustle-culture-principle: Trying to achieve a goal with maximum effort.
Indeed, this sounds irrational. Both sides of the idea are problematic; let’s start with the goal.
Your goal is already the problem.
In January, I set a goal for myself: Write at least one story every day of the month.
It was hard work (mainly because I’m studying on the side), but I did it — to my surprise.
Looking back, I regret what I set as my goal.
Writing 31 articles is not that difficult — what matters is what you define as an article. I wrote 31 articles during that time, but mostly concise ones.
Instead of striving for reach or other real successes, I was only concerned with a fancy number. “I wrote one story a day” — feels very good to say. But please don’t ask me how successful the content was (PS: it wasn’t).
I think you get what I mean: I set myself a lousy goal. In truth, I was only aiming for productivity-pornography.
It’s all about making you feel good.
Now to the maximum effort from the principle.
A maximum effort can be the entire time of the day. Honestly, it feels pretty good to work all day — but it doesn’t mean it’s productive or healthy.
The problem with this part of the hustle-culture principle is this: Who decides what the maximum effort is?
In the morning, I catch myself staying in bed for a long time. Of course, that takes time — time I can not use to work.
If I’ve worked all day afterward, I may feel good, but I wasn’t that productive. I miss half an hour of the morning. If I use my time better, I can achieve the same — but still relax afterward.
Here’s what you should do instead.
Don’t be fooled by all the productivity pornography on LinkedIn, Twitter, and Instagram. Productivity doesn’t have to come from spending a lot of time.
Permanently just working is not healthy. I don’t have to explain that.
What’s healthy, liberating, and productive is being better with your time. Here’s how to do it.
- Don’t forget to rest. Relaxation can boost your productivity.
- Choose qualitative goals. Instead of writing 31 articles, rather how many people you want to reach.
- Minimize distractions, like the time you spend on social media.
- Block websites like Twitter, Instagram, and Reddit during your work hours — you don’t need them.
- Stop bragging about your productivity. That’s not the point.
- Have a regular schedule. For example, when you get up and go to bed.
- Set a time for working. You can use the Pomodoro technique, for example.