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Stop Chasing Girls; Be The Guy Who High-Value Ladies Can’t Resist!

Insights and suggestions to help you attract high-quality ladies

One after the other.

We start with the importance of stopping to chase girls, and thereafter head over to insights and suggestions about becoming a magnet for high-value ladies.

Girls are not worth your chase.

“What? Are you saying…”

Calm down.

Let me explain:

Girls...are everywhere: in the clubhouse smoking shisha, getting drunk; don't mind getting laid with a random guy, spending their earnings on the latest bone straight hair, busy trying to impress people with their flashy lifestyle...

If you never understood the word liability in high school, that is a perfect example.

Everything about these ladies is based on "let us eat and drink, for tomorrow we die. "

You will meet them in multiple shades.

Avoid that chase to your benefit.

Next, becoming a magnet for high-value ladies: insights and suggestions.

Insight 1

High value women are not all the same, yet certain qualities are universal… and as sexy as hell

John Keegan helps us appreciate this better:

"What do women want" is a question that men have been asking themselves for decades, if not hundreds of years. Because every single woman will have different and subjective criteria for choosing a partner, trying to come up with a universal answer can be daunting and confusing. But the truth is, regardless of whether you have the perfect smile or the perfect height, there are certain things women want almost universally: they just happen to be the inner qualities of a person. By promoting a positive personality, avoiding negative qualities, and treating women right, any man can be the kind of guy every girl wants."

One such universal inner quality is self-confidence.

“Why?”

Let me explain:

A high-value lady isn’t just a random average girl; she is a lady of substance: she’s got dreams, personal goals, and a direction in life. She has a lot going on for her. Even with that level of success, she wants a man who is unfazed, timid, or insecure about her success. To a high-value lady, a confident man is as sexy as hell.

• Suggestion: Look confident. What do I mean? Stand tall, walk as though you just had dinner with Joe Biden, and wear good perfume and a big smile.

Never forget, confident men are sexy as hell!

Next,

Insight 2:

Nothing is more stressful, robs the moment of fun than being ambiguous and inauthentic with a lady.

David Klow, a Chicago-based psychotherapist and owner of Skylight Counseling Center, drove this point home:

“… women like direct men the same way a salsa dancer likes a good lead. When there is clarity and direction, she feels relaxed. If she can’t trust his movements, they step on one another’s toes. If he is direct and clear in his leadership, however, everyone wins.”

You walked into the room, everyone breathes in deeply and slowly because of your perfume, your clothes tell everyone you have a good fashion sense and you walk as though you just had dinner with Joe Biden.

Viola!

You just got the attention of a high-value lady in the room. Most likely.

In her mind, “ Wow, I like this guy; he looks like someone that I would love to have something serious with. Well, let’s see how it goes.”

She winks at you and …

You start to beat around the bush. “How much do you pay for gas, light, and electricity every week; how many books did you read in 2021?” One unrelated talk after another.

Jezzzz!

You just frustrated her expectations.

Being mysterious results in nothing but complications: frustrations, exhaustion trying to guess your intentions, and boredom. Because she doesn’t want to seem too cheap, she keeps her cool. “ A real man breaks the ice.”

She goes home frustrated!

• Suggestion: Be direct. If you’re interested in her, don’t beat around the bush. Let her know. Be emotionally transparent and communicate openly about what you’re feeling and thinking. Pursue her. Women love it when you make plans with them in advance. Follow up with her the next day.

You blow her mind.

Finally,

Insights 3:

No matter what, no woman loves to have a failure as a partner.

I like how a Reddit user, Centurion53, puts it:

“Hard work is basically a measure of how successful a man will become. Most women I know value success in a man a lot more than any other factor of attraction(as long as the man in question meets a base level of aesthetics. Is it safe to say that the ability of a man to work hard is a very important factor when it comes to attraction?”

A high-value lady, Kelly Hayman, answers it:

" I prefer successful men because they are secure in themselves and they don’t have endless problems. My view of success is someone who has the mentality to spend life in their own way and participates in meaningful experiences. It’s not about being wealthy. Just a sense of stability and well-being. I’m 51 and used to think it didn’t make a difference, but someone who isn’t able to maintain basic needs has underlying issues that often hinder relationships. It becomes consuming and instead of being able to go out to dinner and enjoy a nice evening, you wind up at the grocery store looking through the clearance food. Not fun"

That means…

The answer is YES.

But why do most women prefer successful men?

A very successful businessman shares his experience:

“It is very clear to me now, why most girls prefer successful men. It was not clear to me when I was 30 years younger. It was most frustrating. I was reasonably clever and reasonably good looking, but lonely.

Achievements came to me at a slow pace. Gradually I rose through the ranks, and gradually I started feeling more and more attention from my female coworkers. At a certain point, I started to get some quite frank invitations. This phenomenon really puzzled me. I was getting older, less energetic, less good-looking, but somehow more attractive to the women around me. I started to ask myself, what newly acquired qualities make me that attractive? The only possible answer was that it is my professional success. This success was associated with power and money, but I don't think that these were the main reasons for my sudden attractiveness. It was my professional confidence and my ability to induce confidence in those around me that brought the adoration of the opposite sex.

We all want to associate ourselves with success. Being loved by a successful man is important for a woman even in our egalitarian world. From the point of view of evolution it makes a lot of sense for a woman to have a relationship with a successful man, it is increasing the chance for survival of the offspring.

But who cares about evolution when you have all the attention that you were missing while growing up?”

• Suggestion: Don’t just look it; be it. A guy who has something going for him and has got his shit together is the choice of every lady. So don’t just look it; be it.

I hope you reshape your personal and love life with these few insights and suggestions.

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