Stay Away From These 5 Things That Can End Your Marriage

Look out and save the relationship that matters.

I am a person who was born with dreams of getting married. I always thought that I was prepared for it. In my mind, marriage was the source of a complete package of love, trust, and eternal bonding. To some extent, it still is.

The beginning of a new chapter starts when you get in the zone of being called “married”. It is nothing like the relationships you have had before, and it never will be. If you don’t already know, marriage is a long-term commitment — you can’t just make your way around “two-timing” people here. You stay and make things work.

It is a union where two emotional, spiritual, and physical bonds collide. Whenever I talk about this topic, something unusual walks down my spine — maybe it’s the thought that many things can make or break a marriage.

While there are a lot of things that can make this chapter a smooth journey, things that can end a marriage are overlooked by many people. Today, we are going to talk about things that can end a marriage. Let’s keep an eye out before another child is mentally tortured by the separation of his/her parents.

1. Peter, you never change!

Take a look back at your first relationship, how did it end? Are you still the same person you were? Do you still do the same things that you used to do? If yes, then you are in trouble.

We all have different definitions of “good” in our minds. Sometimes, we think we are good, but in reality, we just want to be called good.

You can find someone that is perfect for you, but no one is truly perfect. People should know that there is always adaptation needed to make it work in a relationship. You might be thinking “they don’t love us if they want us to change”, but no.

There is a fine line between changing yourself because you want to be loved, and changing yourself to be better for someone who already loves you.

Bring the change they always talk about in each fight. It will be a lot of work, but in the end, you will see each other till “death do us part”.

2. The C-word — CHEATING

I am not very proud to say that cheating has become something that everyone is doing. It has reached a point where we can no longer ask who is cheating, but rather — who isn’t?

When you are married, there is no room for cheating. You can never, in your wildest dreams, do something this painful to the person who tried making you the center of their world. If I could “unteach” people one thing, it would be the dirty act of cheating.

No matter how “good” it feels in that moment, cheating will never make you happy in the long run. Have you ever seen couples getting out of their lawyer’s office with a look of accomplishment on their face? Have you ever thought that one less invite on thanksgiving will make your year complete? You will always regret the person you lose because there aren’t many fish in the sea — you can never find an equivalent to a person you have lost.

I am not saying you can’t fall in love — you can, but with the same person each time.

“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.” — Mignon McLaughlin

3. Lack of trust and understanding

I don’t know about you, but if you are constantly checking my phone, overhearing my calls, and calling me at work asking what am I doing — there will be a time, it will start getting on my nerves. Nobody likes being the understudy when they are giving you their honesty and time.

We are weird people. Sometimes our overthinking can make us go through terrible times. The lack of trust and understanding means we weren’t even ready to get into a relationship in the first place — and if it has gone to the point where you don’t have control over it, it is the end of it all.

4. Your mind is set on money, not on your marriage

The addiction of money is greater than anything — save yourself from it. Remember, the adage that “money can’t buy love” is true. You might be the talk of the town because you have a lot of money, but that won’t make you feel loved. Having money is fun, but having no one waiting at home when you get back from work is the worst.

Forgetting about the person, who stays at home waiting for you to get back is not funny. Give time to the things that matter. Put your focus on your marriage and work your way through money — not the other way around.

5. Being verbally, emotionally, and physically abusive

Abuse, of any kind, in any relationship, leads a road towards destruction. When abuse is introduced in a relationship, you lose all respect and dignity for that person — you no longer think of them as someone you once loved, and forgetting this phase, is even harder.

If you want to leave someone, let them go — do it with respect. Never let abuse come in the way, as it is, indeed, the lowest of lows.

Conclusion:

Sometimes things are meant to end — nothing can save them, not even crying your eyes out — it all happens for a reason. The best we can do, is try to save the things we started.

Knowing what can end your marriage is an important thing to look for. Most of us don’t even know what they are — we keep doing them unconsciously.

Work for marriage, take the steps needed, and if it still doesn’t work — at least, you will know that you tried.