Is Being In A Relationship Better Than Being Single?
“We are what we love…” — Daisy Whitney
Over the last couple of months, I have been doing a personal study. I’ve closely listened to and observed podcasts, videos, and comments on relationships and dating advice. There is an endless amount of shows dedicated to finding true love. Most of the segments involve men who are self-proclaimed relationship experts.
For transparency, I have nearly 20 years of dating experience. I have dated people from various backgrounds, religions, ages, and ethnicities. I have dated inside and outside of the United States. I have gone speed dating in many cities and was one of the first people I know to start online dating. Although I have a long dating history, I have never had a relationship.
Here’s why:
- No Real Connection — My soul only craves a deep spiritual connection, and I could not find that in anyone I dated previously.
- Waste of Time — Lots of the people I dated weren’t serious. Some of them were trying something new, others wanted to hook up, and some were already in relationships or dating multiple people.
- No Stimulation — If someone fails to arouse me mentally, it isn’t possible to stimulate me in any other areas. I’ve never been into materialism or surface-level conversations.
I felt it better to be alone than in an unhappy union. I knew many people in relationships, and they didn’t help convince me otherwise. Being entangled in a meaningless partnership wasn’t a battle I was willing to fight. Now that I am on my spiritual path, I realize the Universe was protecting me. I am not to jump in and out of relationships because I am uniting with my Divine Counterpart this lifetime. Essentially, I am on reserve for one person.
Since I am an old soul who has reincarnated countless times, I have already experienced marriage, long-term relationships, divorce, etc. Therefore, in this lifetime, it is unnecessary to relive those experiences. Before this incarnation, my Spirit Guides and I decided it best for me to remain single until I awakened, healed, and rediscovered myself. Before my awakening, I was too broken to give or receive true love.
So, is it better to be in a relationship or single? It depends.
The Soulmate Connection
If married or in a serious relationship, you are likely with a soulmate, Divine Counterpart, or a karmic person. Remember, everything in life is happening for you. If with a soulmate, you are likely in a loving, fulfilling union with your equal. You share the same values and enjoy the same hobbies. Soulmates share a beautiful bond; you’re best friends and are with your forever person. You will have struggles, but together, there is nothing your love cannot conquer. You entered a contract with this person to experience true love and pass challenging life lessons.
For example, John and Mary will experience a massive loss in this lifetime. The tragedy is so great that it would be nearly impossible for either to work through it alone (at their soul level). Their Spirit Teams decided they should find each other and work through this challenging life experience together. As a result, their love grows, and they level up together. Your Spirit Teams are your mentors, so they know who needs what and when. Therefore, some collaborate with a soulmate sooner rather than later.
“A soul mate is the one person whose love is powerful enough to motivate you to meet your soul, to do the emotional work of self-discovery, of awakening.” — Kenny Loggins
The Divine Counterpart
A Divine Counterpart is similar but only shows up after you enter your highest timeline or become the best version of yourself. Most old souls who’ve reached this level have undergone tremendous healing. These souls have had soulmate connections and karmic relationships in past lives. So, their main focus is self-mastery, self-love, and purpose. Relationships are not at the forefront of their life experience and often come later in life. Divine Counterparts often have untraditional relationships. These individuals may be older, may decide to elope, or may or may not have children.
These individuals form power couples who exude authenticity and do not follow the narrative pushed by the Matrix. Because this is a ‘divine’ union, their connection will be an example of true, unconditional love, and it will heal the masses. For this reason, Divine Counterparts must undergo a certain level of personal healing before their union. Remember, heal yourself, heal the world.
“Uniting with a Divine Counterpart is like being on a desert journey for a thousand years, and finally making it home. They quench a thirst you never knew you had. And together, hand in hand, you will leave a legacy and tell a new story that will last for generations.” — Ari Love
The Karmic Relationships
A karmic partnership is challenging by design. The karmic person is only in your life to assist with your personal development. These individuals agreed to help you on your life path before incarnation. Although you may despise them, they play a tremendous role in helping you level up in this life experience. These karmics may put you through the unimaginable. But remember, they are only playing their role. Once you pass the life lesson, you will one day have a great appreciation for these people. (I wrote on this in more detail. I will include the blog at the end of this article).
Singleness
The Universe led me to a spiritualist years ago. Before then, I had never had a reading of any kind. I was nervous, but her angelic-like presence brought me comfort. During our session, she told me that I’ve never had children (in any lifetime) and that I’ve been alone for many lifetimes. She said I decided to remain in singleness because I wanted to focus on my spiritual path. When she said this, it made sense.
For years, I thought something was wrong with me. I would scream, “Why can’t I find anyone? Am I cursed?” I thought someone put a hex on me, but that wasn’t the case. My Spirit Team knew this bothered me greatly, so they led me to someone who could help me. After that session, I felt revived and decided to embrace my singleness. I stopped dating or looking for a partner because I now understand the Universe will grant me the person I deserve in divine timing.
“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.” — Oscar Wilde
As someone who has walked alone for a long time, it can be challenging but equally rewarding. While single, you can remove the masks and get to know the authentic you. You date yourself, rediscover yourself, and pursue your life purpose without outside influences. You can come and go as you please and be totally self-centered. Self-mastery is essential for spiritual enlightenment. Don’t you see? Self-mastery is a personal journey. Being by yourself isn’t a curse; it’s a blessing, especially, if you want to level up quickly in this life experience.
Unfortunately, the Matrix has convinced humans that satisfaction only comes with a partner. Therefore, most humans are discontent with their singleness and always look outside themselves for love and validation. Instead of focusing on what they have, they become depressed and focus on who they do not have. Rather than embracing self-love, self-improvement, and self-trust, they envy those in relationships.
My loves, most of the love stories you see on social media are not real. If you are single and on your spiritual path, take full advantage of your aloneness. Heal and pursue your dreams, and while you’re busy doing so, the Universe will send true, unconditional love your way. True love is always worth waiting for. Thank you for reading. Love, Ari.
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