Sometimes, Listen To Your Friends, Not Just To Your Heart

Summary

The author shares a personal experience at a wedding where friends' doubts about the marriage led to no one catching the bride's bouquet, emphasizing the importance of listening to friends' opinions in relationships.

Abstract

The author attended a wedding where the bride's bouquet was not caught by any of the guests, as they all had doubts about the marriage's success. The author and her friends discussed their shared concerns, realizing they had not expressed their opinions to the couple due to fear of hurting their feelings. The author highlights the importance of seeking and listening to friends' opinions when committing to a relationship, as their agreement on a partner often indicates suitability.

Opinions

The author believes that friends' opinions on a relationship can be valuable and should be considered.
The author suggests that a lack of enthusiasm from friends about a partner may indicate potential issues in the relationship.
The author implies that open communication about relationship concerns is important, even if it may initially cause discomfort or hurt feelings.

They know better

A while ago, I attended a wedding ceremony of a couple of friends of mine.

After leaving the church, the bride decided to throw her bouquet over her head, so that one of her girlfriends could take it and have some luck.

Then, a remarkable thing happened. All girls, including me, stepped away and the bouquet fell on the ground. Everybody was surprised and disappointed, but it was even more shocking considering that it was a spontaneous reaction.

Later during the day, when I spoke about it with the other girls, we all found out that we thought the marriage was not going to work, and that the bouquet might bring bad luck to whichever girl took it and married next. We didn’t want that bouquet.

None of us told the couple about our doubts, we didn’t dare and we couldn’t find the way. We even thought we might hurt their feelings, and we didn’t want it to happen. The couple never asked our opinion about the marriage, they were so excited and happy, and strong in their love.

When you decide to truly commit to a relationship, it is important to ask and listen to your friends. Very often, if your friends agree with your choice and like your partner, then he is probably good for you.

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