Simplest Trick To Fight Narcissists
They give a ruthless fight
If you had ever been in a relationship with a narcissist, not just the romantic ones, but also the familial ones, you will know how ugly those fights can get.
Although at the time it feels like there’s no other way than having to involve yourselves in that dirty fight, there is. Even when you look back at what you had involved yourselves in, most likely you’ll only regret it.
Narcissists give a ruthless fight. Especially considering their lack of empathy, you can see very mean, demeaning, and hurtful words coming from them. It’s as if they know exactly where to hit you. Well, that’s their trick!
Over a while, whether it be a narcissistic parent, partner, or friend, they learn what would hurt ‘you’ the most. When you share with them your secrets, your bad past, or anything as such that you’d rather not speak about openly, they take advantage of this.
Now they’ve got access to your insecurities and they are going to use it in their fights. They attack your character and might say things about your family, with their sole motive of hurting you and bringing you down.
But Do Not Do This
When a person attacks your character, it is a natural tendency to defend yourself. You’d counter the narcissist with an argument, you’d say things back, you’d try to keep up with their ruthlessness, but you know what? Just don’t.
There are great reasons why you should not be involved in or respond to their fights.
- Let’s assume you’ve managed to say something ruthless and brought them down in the fight. Victory, isn’t it? Well, I don’t think so. You’ve invited yourselves more trouble.
Whatever you had told them to bring them down, will be used against you. They’ll rip your character for saying that. They’ll humiliate you for saying such a mean thing. Although what you said about them might be true but they will use it against you for a very long time.
2. Next, the most common scenario is that you won’t be able to match their ruthless nature unless you are a narcissist or a psychopath. They lack empathy at a great level and are capable of saying things without any guilt. While you, on the other hand, would have to think twice before hurting someone. You’ll most probably fail and regret it later.
3. The main reason why you must not respond to their fights, is that they want you to. Here’s how you fight a narcissist.
Fighting a Narcissist
It might sound like a no-brainer, but the best possible way to fight a narcissist is to not fight. That will burn their asses up.
It is a tried and tested way to fight a narcissist. They want you to get involved in their ugly fight, respond to them, and say mean things back to them so they can get meaner & meaner.
By fighting them back, you are only riling them up to fight more. They are great at fighting, they love doing it, and you barely have a chance. And when you try you will only end up hurt, because they know how to do it.
The best thing you can do when a narcissist tries to fight you is just not respond. Say nothing, stay calm, and walk away.
They will be so frustrated and will say a few things to get you started, but stay calm until they stop. They’ll stop pretty quickly when you don’t get involved.
An otherwise days-long fight can be cut short to minutes. And you won’t regret it this time. When you look back and see what you’ve done, you’ll pat yourself on the back.
You saved yourselves a lot of headaches, and also showed the monster its place by simply doing “nothing.”
Try it yourselves and see the results. You will be shocked to see how the heat goes down in seconds.
I hope you benefit from this article, take care.
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