Silence As Unspoken Kindness

Sometimes, not speaking is generous

“Silence is one of the great arts of conversation.” (Marcus Tullius Cicero)

Silence can speak loudly than words. We can never underestimate the power of silence to heal, to forgive, to love, and to melt hearts and touch souls.

When we choose to be silent in a situation, it’s a deliberate and informed decision.

Silence is a superpower because it demands enormous self-discipline and extreme patience. Silence is for the brave hearts, not for the weak ones.

Silence is the non-verbal pause where magic happens.

When is silence an act of kindness?

Silence in the face of provocation is an act of kindness. When a driver insults you, you chose to remain silent, not because you were afraid to retaliate.

You were silent because you thought the driver was having a tough day, whether at home or at work. You were kind because you pitied them and gave them the benefit of the doubt.

You spoke the language of silence because you knew it was not a personal attack on you.

Your kindness in not speaking saved the situation from turning ugly.

Your silence made the abuser feel shame and guilt when they thought about the incident later. Your unspoken kindness made them resolve not to be angry in public. Your silence stopped their self-destructive behaviour.

When your partner, parent or child used harsh words, you chose to remain silent. Your kindness made you excuse their immature behaviour. You knew they loved you despite their outburst of anger. You valued their relationship than your sense of righteousness.

Your silence disarmed their anger when they thought about it, after a while. Your love spoke in silence and they felt its deafening impact. Forgiving loved ones for their acts of indiscretion through silence is an act of kindness.

We face so many situations in life where others treat us unfairly. Sometimes, we may have to react to defend our self-respect and dignity, but most of the times, silence is the best response.

“Keep silence for the most part, and speak only when you must, and then briefly.” (Epictetus)

Silence in the face of provocation is also an act of self-kindness. By avoiding speaking angry words, we ensured our peace of mind.We avoided having to feel remorse later. Regret can leave a deep scar in the mind.

Silence is paying attention

Silence is kindness because it’s paying attention without judging. People have so many problems weighing on their shoulders. They are desperate somebody listens to them with unconditional attention.

When you listen silently to your friend or a stranger describing their traumatic or troubled past, you help them unburden themselves of their dark past. Your silence heals their scars, and helps them experience catharsis. Talking to a silent listener is therapy.

You showed your kindness and understanding by not interrupting them or speaking unnecessarily.

“Silence is also conversation.” (Ramana Maharshi)

Final thoughts

Silence is often mistaken as indifference or as a weakness. In many situations, if not all, silence is the kindest thing one can perform. Silence is an eloquent speech, without words expressed. Knowledgeable and kind people know the power of silence. They know when to speak, when to keep silence.

“Who knows, doesn’t talk. Who talks, doesn’t know. ” (Le Guin)

Everyone you meet daily is fighting internal battles. Pay attention to their stories silently and help them experience some relief by sharing their suffering.

Use the power of silence to spread kindness.

Come and write with us at Spread the Ripple.

This story was brought to you by Spread the Ripple. We are a publication dedicated to kindness. Kindness is our superpower. Read more stories and come and write with us here: