Is It Wise To Marry Someone with Similar Interests?
Sometimes, it just freaks me out how similarities between two people reach uncanny levels. It might seem superficial but believe you me, some couples can actually read each other’s thoughts. And not after a long time spent together but simply within weeks or even days.
Suppose you found such a person who can read your thoughts and is like hell matching your interests. Similar likes and dislikes, similar hobbies, similar talents, and at an extreme level, similar thought processes. Your thoughts sync in so many instances. Just wow. But would you marry him/her? Or, should you marry him/her?
If you are in a relationship with such a person, I hate to disappoint you, I’ll do it more sweetly. But don’t worry there’s always good news.
Cons of Marrying Someone With Same Interests
Do you know how they say opposites attract? Simply imagine two exactly similar pieces of a puzzle. Would they fit together? The same pieces are useless together. A piece of a puzzle would need a complementary (opposite) piece to fit together.
In psychology, there’s a term called “Complementarity”, which suggests the necessity of having different roles for each partner to achieve a happier relationship.
The idea of complementarity is to complement in terms of needs and roles.
For example, if you and your partner both share a common interest in cooking and cleaning the house but both of you hate babysitting. The temporary solution is when one of you simply understands the responsibility and takes up the job (mostly women). But when the entire responsibility is thrown up on the same partner all the time, the other one is more likely to develop dissatisfaction over time.
In the case of complementary couples, the roles are divided, when the other one cooks the other one cleans. When the other one rests, the other one babysits.
Pros of Marrying Someone with Similar Interests
To be honest, I’m writing the pros on this topic entirely out of self-interest. Because I myself chose someone with matched interests. You know what the fun part is? Remember at the beginning of the article where I said some couples can read each other’s minds. Well, we are one among those telepathic freaks.
And I’ve witnessed quite a few pros.
There’s always scope for a patch-up.
Although your similar roles create differences between you and even if the differences grow to the verge of breaking up, there’s always a scope for patch up. That’s because you understand each other.
All it would take for you to solve those differences is — Think with a cool mind and understand what you would feel like if you had been treated in the same way. That’s exactly what your partner would be feeling.
You don’t waste your free time
This one’s the best thing about marrying someone with similar interests. You won’t waste your free time, especially fighting over the activity or movies to watch. Although we don’t always agree on the same choice, once we start it, we simply enjoy it.
One bit of Advice
Whether you’ve already married someone or are going to marry someone similar, know that you guys are meant to be together. Why else would God make you two so similar yet not twins? The only thing required to make your marriage a perfect bond is a wee bit of sacrifice.
Sometimes, just take up the tasks you hate and if you are the one relaxing, then definitely lend a hand to your partner. Don’t let them suffer, they feel exactly like you.
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