Seeking Advice in Difficult Situations

Evaluate It With Your Own Thinking

Advice, a compass to navigate complex mazes in life, take it from the wrong person you’ll have two problems to solve instead of one.

Seeking Advice in Difficult Situations.

We make decisions based on factors like experience, intuition, reasons, calculations, and feelings in life. In complex situations, all these aspects could give different answers to the questions we have. Sometimes one aspect will overcome the reasoning of another, and a few factors could influence a decision altogether. In such cases, we turn to others for their opinions of the situation.

Imagine a situation where an ex-partner asks for a second chance; all the factors we use to make decisions could say no, but feelings might say yes, or it could be the other way around. So which is the correct decision? In this kind of situation, we used to seek the wisdom of others to make the decision.

Even if we seek the wisdom of others, the answers we get from them will be different from person to person. Ask someone who has forgiven their partner and now living without any problems; they will encourage you to give another chance and tell you all about how great their life is because of the 2nd chance. Another will tell how they got betrayed for the 2nd time by giving a second chance and never to do that again. So which one should you take?

Maybe your situation is totally similar to theirs, but still, will the outcome be the same if you take their course of action? Most probably, it won’t. How our thoughts work, how we can handle our emotions, and frustrations, all these things will affect the progress of the relationship after the second chance is given. Therefore even if a situation is similar to another person, the outcome will not be the same as theirs just because you follow their advice.

Not only in a relationship, but even in other situations, this is the same; there will be different roads and outcomes for us than someone else who has taken exactly the same course of action in situations similar to us. Therefore, when you turn to someone for advice, don’t let their advice be the only deciding factor in your decision-making process.

No matter how difficult the situation is, always make sure to evaluate the advice you receive with your own thinking. Keep in mind that you are not them, and there is a high chance your outcome will be different from theirs. So take all the advice you need but always evaluate before making a decision.

— [ Wide Writer ] —