Should Our Kids Move Out At 18???

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xt">Clay Banks</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com/s/photos/college?utm_source=unsplash&utm_medium=referral&utm_content=creditCopyText">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure><p id="51be">We have to learn how to have more patience with our adult children. It is our job to help our children become successful and to teach them the right way, how to become independent. Honestly, if I were given more time and patience from 18–21, I believe I would’ve been in a way better position in my life earlier on. I would’ve had better results with my life path and struggled a lot less. Credit for instance, is an important tool that can be used to get very important things done. No one taught me about the importance of credit and how it could benefit me if my score is good or excellent.</p><p id="d12a">Age 17–21 is the time frame that we must use to teach our children about credit, the importance of it, and how to use it. We must also teach our adult children how to have good spending habits and how to manage their money instead of charging them rent. If you decide to charge your kid rent at this age, at least use most if not all of that money as a savings so that when they’re ready to move out, they have a downpayment for their first apartment easily. Doing this helps set our children up for success, and gives them a good head start on gaining his/her independence.</p><figure id="a6cc"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/1*ETV_2IyooHxIcjLiS7ezbw.jpeg"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@hyingchou?utm_source=unsplash&utm_medium=referral&utm_content=creditCopyText">Yingchou Han</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com/s/photos/college?utm_source=unsplash&utm_medium=referral&utm_content=creditCopyText">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure><p id="8cf9">Much of this issue exists in black families. I hate to admit this but this is a huge problem in the black community and we must change this around. This is also an issue in other communities as well. We all must change our parenting styles when it comes to this very issue because we could make a huge

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difference in our young people’s lives. If we don’t seriously look ourselves in the mirror and change the mistakes we are making with our adult children, then we part of the problem.</p><p id="8f93">We must be part of the solution not the problem and might I add that while our children are in college, this is the best time to be assisting them and setting them up for success. If your child is not in college, then teach him or her how to start a business or hire a mentor that can teach them how to start a business if you can’t. It is all about the mindset and it is time that we change that in 2022. My oldest child is 17 and you can best believe I will do everything in my power to help my son succeed.</p><p id="8d20">I’m going to break this vicious cycle of failure that is spreading like wildfire in several generations of my family. Those of you who are reading this and is experiencing these same challenges, you should want to do something about this as well. “Parents of the Millennials” didn’t think of it this way because they were too fixated on trying to prove a point rather than setting us up for success. It is time to grab the bull by the horns and retire the old fashioned way of teaching our children about independence and start making more sense of what needs to be done. It’s time for a change.</p><p id="9f6e">Thanks for reading! :)</p><p id="4782">To become a member of Medium and help support Shuntay Wright, click on the link:</p><div id="0997" class="link-block"> <a href="https://medium.com/@shuntayw/membership"> <div> <div> <h2>Join Medium with my referral link - Shuntay Wright</h2> <div><h3>As a Medium member, a portion of your membership fee goes to writers you read, and you get full access to every story…</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*YGiYz2_13DX2trlH)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div></article></body>

Should Our Kids Move Out At 18?

A written opinion about how to better prepare kids for the real world

I grew up during the era when moms and dads were telling us we gotta move out at 18. Our parents’ reasoning was that we’ve gotta learn the importance of being responsible and understand the challenges of living on our own. Yes, this is true but the way the we must go about learning how to “be responsible” is to not be set up to fail before we even grasp the maturity or finances to handle being on our own. When you’re 18, the government deems you an adult but you’re fresh out of childhood and you’re still a teenager. Technically in my opinion, when we are still a teen at 18, we’re still a kid because the maturity and level of intelligence as well as finances isn’t up to par yet.

Parents that have chosen to adopt the philosophy of kicking your children out at 18, you are setting your child or children up for failure. I understand the purpose is to teach your child a lesson or because you’ve chosen to give up on dealing with the challenge of dealing with an adult whose still a kid. I understand that teens are very disrespectful in our lenses… we get burned out and exhausted of what comes along with the growing pains of a kid entering adulthood. We forget that the moment we became parents is the moment we signed up for what comes with the job.

We have to learn how to have more patience with our adult children. It is our job to help our children become successful and to teach them the right way, how to become independent. Honestly, if I were given more time and patience from 18–21, I believe I would’ve been in a way better position in my life earlier on. I would’ve had better results with my life path and struggled a lot less. Credit for instance, is an important tool that can be used to get very important things done. No one taught me about the importance of credit and how it could benefit me if my score is good or excellent.

Age 17–21 is the time frame that we must use to teach our children about credit, the importance of it, and how to use it. We must also teach our adult children how to have good spending habits and how to manage their money instead of charging them rent. If you decide to charge your kid rent at this age, at least use most if not all of that money as a savings so that when they’re ready to move out, they have a downpayment for their first apartment easily. Doing this helps set our children up for success, and gives them a good head start on gaining his/her independence.

Much of this issue exists in black families. I hate to admit this but this is a huge problem in the black community and we must change this around. This is also an issue in other communities as well. We all must change our parenting styles when it comes to this very issue because we could make a huge difference in our young people’s lives. If we don’t seriously look ourselves in the mirror and change the mistakes we are making with our adult children, then we part of the problem.

We must be part of the solution not the problem and might I add that while our children are in college, this is the best time to be assisting them and setting them up for success. If your child is not in college, then teach him or her how to start a business or hire a mentor that can teach them how to start a business if you can’t. It is all about the mindset and it is time that we change that in 2022. My oldest child is 17 and you can best believe I will do everything in my power to help my son succeed.

I’m going to break this vicious cycle of failure that is spreading like wildfire in several generations of my family. Those of you who are reading this and is experiencing these same challenges, you should want to do something about this as well. “Parents of the Millennials” didn’t think of it this way because they were too fixated on trying to prove a point rather than setting us up for success. It is time to grab the bull by the horns and retire the old fashioned way of teaching our children about independence and start making more sense of what needs to be done. It’s time for a change.

Thanks for reading! :)

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