She’s About to Write Her First Sex Scene.

Summary

Crystal A. Walker is preparing to write her first explicit sex scene for her serialized fiction, Matchmakers, and reflects on the challenges and anxieties associated with writing intimate scenes, despite having previously tackled the subject in her other works.

Abstract

The author, Crystal A. Walker, is gearing up to pen her first detailed sex scene in her serialized fiction, Matchmakers. She admits to feeling anxious about the task, despite the natural and universal nature of sex. Walker has touched on sexual content before, notably in her second book, The Queen’s Awakening: Retribution, where she approached the topic with a degree of subtlety. To push her boundaries, she recently published a piece personifying coffee in a sexual manner, which served as a warm-up for the more explicit scene she is about to write. She compares the process to a professional porn star's routine to find a casual approach to writing such scenes. Walker acknowledges the importance of including this scene to do justice to her characters and the story, which blends elements of Bridesmaids and Sex and the City without aiming for the raunchiness of Fifty Shades of Grey. She seeks advice from other writers who have experience with similar scenes and plans to use music as inspiration to get through the writing process.

Opinions

Walker expresses nervousness about writing her first explicit sex scene, despite its prevalence in life and literature.
She believes that omitting the sex scene would not do her story or characters justice, as her work is known for its candid discussions on various topics.
The author draws a parallel between her writing process and the daily routine of a porn star to normalize the act of writing about sex.
Walker views her previous writing experiences as preparation for the current challenge and is determined to approach the scene with the same level of professionalism as any other aspect of her writing.
She is open to learning from others, inviting writers to share their experiences and tips for writing intimate scenes.
The author uses humor and relatable analogies to convey her thoughts on the writing process and the importance of not shying away from explicit content when it serves the narrative.

A tall glass of liquid courage is going to be needed…and a cigarette.

The time has nearly arrived that I have been nervous about: Writing the sex scene in my serialized fiction: Matchmakers.

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I am not sure why I am so anxious about it because sex can be a very beautiful thing and most of us end up doing it at some point in our lives and all creatures do it. (Except for some rare species like the freshwater cichlid hybrid fish the that can impregnate themselves and officially taking the phrase “go fuck yourself” to a whole new level.)

Still, why is it so difficult for me to write this scene?

The first time I wrote anything nearly resembling a sex scene is with my second book that is a current work in progress as a follow-on to The Queen’s Awakening: Retribution . I don’t go into details of what happens between two characters, but you know they got their groove on. In fact, I’d say I wrote that particular scene to a PG-13 or just below a Mature Audience rating.

Overall, I think the sex scene in The Queen’s Awakening: Retribution was the equivalent to getting to first base or second base. So, to challenge myself to go one step further, I upped the ante. This week on Medium, I released a very sexual personification of coffee. (A little weird, but I figured “What the hell. The first time having sex as a virgin is usually bad so I might as well experience it writing my first intimate scene.”)

Now that I have one sex scene under belt, I hope that it makes writing my scene in Matchmakers isn’t going to be that case. Imagine it like a hybrid story combining Bridesmaids and Sex and the City, but it’s not going to be raunchy like Fifty Shades of Grey. However, glossing over this particular scene is no bueno and I’ve decided these two characters are going to get it on.

The girls in my book talk about all kinds of stuff so go skip over sex would leave a reader thinking, “The writer is crazy enough to think and make her characters say this? But she can’t throw some talk of nipple rubbing and a little booty into the mix?”

Readers would be right too and I think I’d be selling the story short if I didn’t include this particular moment.

There’s a huge part of me that believes that I’m unnecessarily working myself up. It’s just sex!

As a writer, I understand that we to put on different glasses sometimes to see a change in perspective or an angle to achieve our goals. Today, I tried to take the approach of imagining what a professional porn star might go through so I can get into the mindset to successfully write this moment. I started to wonder if they wake up, brush their teeth, pay a few bills, go to work, and get railed by 1, 2, or more people. Then he or she takes a shower, makes dinner, sends a few emails, and finally falls asleep watching Netflix.

Maybe I should take the similar casual approach? Wake up, have breakfast, brush my teeth, write about a guy blowing his load, then go get groceries and clean the house. I like Netflix too. Maybe I’ll end my day with that as well! It’s just another day being a writer, right?

If you’ve written a sex scene (or few), I’d love to know how you go about it. Did you have the same anxiety the first time you wrote a scene like this? Comment because I’d love to know!

In the mean time, I’m going to let Tank Girl’s rendition of Cole Porter’s 1928 song “Let’s Do It” be my mantra.

Have a recommendation for me how to get through this scene? Tell me your suggestions in the comments!

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